10 Reasons No Man Wants to Marry You


You are getting older and almost all your friends are
married; including that ugly, short and fat Jane! Yet
you think you are a good wife material, but you are still
single and getting really worried. Well maybe guys are not
looking your way because you are guilty of a number of
these offenses:

1. You are too haughty. You are the “independent” type
that acts as if you don’t give a damn about guys. Your
oversized ego has beclouded your reason for so long to
make you think you don’t need men and you can do well
alone all by yourself. Typically, you will quickly size
up the guy and bring him down with intimidating looks and
sarcastic responses. Well, I suggest you marry yourself.

2. You are looking for Mr. Perfect. You want a well-
built, neat, romantic, hardworking, honest, God-
fearing, faithful, dark, tall and handsome gentleman
man from a good background who has a good job, drive a
good car and loves you unconditionally. I’m afraid that
perfect guy you read about in a romantic novel isn’t
real. He only exists in the writer’s imagination – and
yours. Wake up girl. You’ll never find a perfect guy –
anywhere. Just like you, everyone else is imperfect.
Accept that fact or wait for the guy to emerge from the
book and marry you.

3. You smell desperate. Men have a special ability to
smell desperation in a woman. Unfortunately, we find
that odor very offensive and avoid it like a plague. Now
your parents and friends are asking you frustrating
questions about marriage, and you are so sick of those
questions so you’d do anything to get the next available
guy to marry you. You need a man so badly and justifiably
so. Unfortunately for you, the more desperate you are,
the less attractive men find you.

4. You pay too little attention to your appearance. You
don’t want to look like a Naughty Lady. So you always
dress down, don’t wear make up and are unkempt. You
are just pathetic. Even stunningly looking ladies are
still in the husband-haunting market; and you really
think a guy will leave all the attractive women and come
for you because he’s “good guy”? Well, if your goal is
to have him sleep with you, some men won’t mind. But if
it’s to get him to marry you, then, you are so mistaken.
Haven’t you been told that men are visually stimulated?

5. You pay too much attention to your appearance. The
fact that men are visually stimulated doesn’t mean they
are unreasonable. Some men may make awkward choice of a
sex partner, but when it comes to a life partner, men are
painstakingly selective. If not you’d be married by now.
Every man dreams of marrying a decent lady, not some
Naughty Lady who won’t mind going Unclad on the street
to get cheap attention.

6. You are rather too sexually naive. Each time he
talks about sex, you act like he has just committed a
crime, because you are a virgin or you don’t want to
appear promiscuous. When you do that you only make him
wonder how boring or frigid you are in bed. Normal men
like sex. And whether you want to agree to it or not, if
he doesn’t have a hint that you can satisfy him sexually
(either practically or by insinuations), he’s put off
(most of the time) subconsciously. That’s when men say
things like “there’s no chemistry”, “I don’t feel her” or
“we don’t connect”. In other words, your insensitivity to
his libido repels him.

7. You are too boring. If you could choose between two
guys with equal qualities in all ramifications except
that one is boring and another is interesting, which of
them will you rather pick? The interesting one of course!
So why do you think if he has to make a similar choice,
he’ll prefer the boring you to an interesting lady? You
excuse yourself by saying “I’m the quiet type”. Being an
introvert is different from being boring. Men are logical
by nature and therefore they tend to be more futuristic
species. So, he’ll picture the two of you alone in your
home. No one looks forward to a boring home. Some ladies
are uninteresting and uninterested.

8. You nag. This is by far one of the most annoying
behaviors a lady can exhibit. It is alarming however
how many women nag. All in the bid to get him do what
she wants, when she wants it and how she wants it, women
typically become nags to achieve their ends. This is
rather selfish and insensitive. No matter what you hope
to achieve, nagging will never get you anywhere. And it
will drive men far away from you.

9. You are insecure. It is normal for women to need
constant reassurance. What is not cool however is for
them is to make their guys’ lives impossible because of
deep-rooted lack of self-confidence. Insecurity is an
awful but common issue amongst many women. No matter what
the guy does, it hits their weak point. If he looks there,
he’s checking out another girl. If he’s busy with work, he
doesn’t love you. If forgets an important date, he doesn’t
care. If a lady calls him, he’s cheating. You suspect his
every action and inaction and react awfully even to well-
intended gestures. That way, you will drive every man in
your life away, and fast.

10. You are too stubborn and rigid. Being principled is
an admirable thing, but being unreasonably unbending is
unattractive. All in the name of being principled, you
go around with a lousy air of sauciness and you want
a million guys to come asking you out? Your very long
list of do’s and don’ts that must be strictly adhered at
all times in all condition is not a plus but a minus. You
are unbendable, unreachable and unteachable and you
actually pride yourself about it. Well, I got news for
you; you are going around with red beeping alert that
says “keep off guys, I am a robot!”

McKinnon, is this your subtle way of telling me I don't wear enough makeup?

I wonder who actually wrote that? LOL

He he...I dunno. Don't you?

Some Nigerian guy on another dating forum. I found it interesting, because most of it is so true. I find myself encountering a lot of #10s.

Seriously though, other than the make up thing, the same could be said about some men. I figured out the best way around all that, is just not to date that type of men.

I'm also going to have to disagree that it's "normal" for anyone to need constant reassurance. Though, unless I'm mistaken, this was probably made more for effect than opinion. Someone who requires constant assurance has self esteem issues.

I also don't believe we should eat elephants, so....

I actually like a woman who doesn't wear any makeup and is naturally beautiful. A lot of men like to have some attention from the woman they are attracted to. There's nothing wrong with this, unless you're one of those rigid types.

See the edit above...when I realized who wrote this.

Whoah!!!
What a mission!!
Omg,am guilty of non-make up,BUT,in my defence.........
Well,no defence actually!

Ahem!
Am not guilty of any of the afore mentioned offences,but am still on the shelf!!
So,
Dear Dmck,defend the write up!!

Hi Newbie. I just posted this because most of the women in my own life fall into one of these ten categories. I'm not saying every woman is like this, just the ones I've known.

Got to say that I do kind of agree with a lot of this but it is written from a man's point of view and women that are "guilty" of having these faults aren't likely to acknowledge that they are faults or that they really have them. For any of the points on that list a woman could just reply to them saying that it's really the men that are the problem. Nagging for instance is our fault because they wouldn't need to do that if we didn't need to constantly be told to do things and if we weren't such flawed human beings deserving of all of that well meaning criticism. With the points about paying too much attention to their appearance or too little, well, that's other women or it's tough luck if you don't like their hairstyle or whatever because their friends say that they look alright and it's a matter of taste. Boring? What do you expect buddy when all you are interested in is football and beer and sex?

Great woman bashing thread though McKinnen. You tell them like it is and who cares what they think of you when you have that new girlfriend that you told us about?

This could also be 10 reasons why a man might be too bitter for a relationship.

I doubt many of us are not guilty of a few if not all of the above at some point in in our lives...men and women alike. I think I've committed about all of them with the exceptions of TOO much make up and needing constant reassurance during my 43 years. I take that back, because if you are counting childhood years, most of us do go through some form of need for approval phase.

Yes, this. Any guy who thinks it's cool to engage in woman-bashing isn't good relationship material, and any women within range would do well to steer clear.

I mean, who among us women couldn't start a similar thread bashing men and all of the things that make us not want to go out with some of them?

But really, what's the point of posting things that are meant to bash the opposite sex? Other than to make oneself a living example of what Aesop was talking about in his fable about the fox and the grapes, of course:

Sour Grapes, or "It's easy to despise what you can't get."

Everyone has their issues. Both men and women. But listing things like in this thread tells me the person is pretty bitter and probably has their own issues as to why they're not married.

I love men. Respect 'em, love 'em, and think the world would be a far duller place without 'em. I enjoy their company, and what they bring to the overall quality of the human race.

I can be platonic friends with a man, or madly in love or lust with one, or anywhere on the spectrum in-between. I find some of them incredibly annoying, too. Such is life, because men are no more alike than are women, or snowflakes for that matter.

I might on occasion throw up my hands in utter frustration and remark, "Men! Aaauugh!" But even as I do so, I know I'm only joking because the problem isn't men in general; it's whatever particular man happens to have pushed my buttons just then. I was married for ten years, and my buttons were pushed a lot. I know I pushed his, too. C'est la vie.

But I don't think I could ever bring myself to seriously denigrate men as a whole, because they're an integral and necessary half of the human species... and I genuinely love them too much to pretend they're all alike and cast aspersions on them for being male.

So why did you push his buttons? My ex used to push my buttons and when I asked her why is she purposely getting me angry, she said that she wanted to see how I act when I am angry.

#2 and #8 are the only two i cannot deal with.... nags and bytches need not appy

But we can still be friends...right?

I didn't purposely push his buttons. Sometimes a person just gets on your nerves without meaning to. It happens in every couple, even the ones who are happy together overall. People are individuals, and it's virtually impossible to find two individuals who won't push each other's buttons accidentally from time to time.

I'm sorry you had someone in your life who used to anger you on purpose. That isn't right, and people shouldn't do that to each other... ESPECIALLY not to someone they purport to love or care about.