i met a girl in july right before my B/day we hit if off great. we
started seeing each other on a daily bases. but then she got her 3rd
DUI, and i offered to take her kids while she goes to jail for her ATR.
witch was 90 days i thought(no sweet). so know she gets out on huber
release.and she gets another 6 months for the 3rd DUI. witch i travel
ove 200 miles a day for us to get to and from work. and i asked her this
question. do you still want to be with me, and she said i dont know.
then i said thats not good enough for me , then i asked for a yes or no,
she gave me a NO. and im still taking her to and from work and back to
huber and watching her kids.... someone please tell me if im
doning the right thing???

Dude, it never hurts to help someone out, add in the kids and you
almost feel responsible "if I don't do it, who will???", and a little of
this should go a long way. Keep it up for too long, she's taaking you
for a ride, if you bail, she'll find somebody else.

I think if she knows you will be there for her and she can continue to
use you, she will do exactly that. She may SAY whatever she thinks you
want to hear. But when it comes down to it, this woman will do whatever
she has to in order to keep you carting her where she has to go. She's
using you, man. At some point in time you have to figure out who you
love more, yourself or her? If you say you're doing it for the kids, you
have to realize kids are very intuitive and they can sense when a
situation isnt quite right. You are giving them an example of how they
can use people when they get older. If you really want to do something
positive for those kids, be a role model to them by showing their mommy
some "tough love".

Love comes from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith,
all you have done and you are still going to do for her and the kids is
never going to be in vain , lets look at it like this what if u are not
dating her or wanting to marry her u could do it for humanity for the
kids man and believe me u just sow a seed of Love and thats what u are
going to reap my dear friend nothing less than that

her problems aren't your responsibility and no one will blame you for
walking away from the situation. she may try to take it out on you but
that is the way some people are. you are doing a very admirable thing by
continuing your assistance to her in her time of need but if you don't
want to do it any longer, stop.

Are you doing it for her, the kids or YOU? You've fullfuilled your
obligation to her and it's great you've done it for the kids, but that's
what Human Resource's is for. You have to let go and move on with your
life, because if you don't,; she'll be using you next year at this time
and you deserve better. I know this because I've seen it for the last
18yrs. happen to other men. I'm a retired bar-tender. Tell her to get
out, make sure the kids are taken care of (even if you have to call
social services) and move on with YOUR LIFE! GOOD LUCK!!!!!

dude she is using you the idk part she is giving you means she hasnt
found the next nice guy to take advantage of

sounds like curb kicking time to me

Bless you, Rocko
Sounds, like she taken you for a ride literally...
She's using you out of convenience. Are you doing the right thing? Yes,
to a degree. If you are friends or more keep doing what you doing...If
not cut your losses before you're in too deep.

EFP

Think about this. Do you really want someone who is not responible?
Look, she's had 3 DUI and you were man enough to stick by her, but know
its time to do whats best for you.

think about it,

My area of expertice~ I work in the psych field with addicts and alkies
and I was also married to one. If she has had 3 DUIs I am assuming she
has a problem with drinking,
You dont have any control over this at all, Enabeling her is not helping
her at all it is actually making the situation worse. I would be more
then willing to talk to you one to one if you would like. Send me a
email if your intrested.

You need to stop her from running over you. you are a real man and
you need a real women, who will also sacrifice many things for you ,
and someone who will stand by your side, not someone with 3 dui's.
think about it.
good luck,
araceli

Two words: Dump her.

She's using you, dude.

dont let her control the relationship like when it starts and ends

So as she does not want U, is she taking her kids?

yes- she is using you, however you are doing the right thing. But, for
your sake you should back away slowly!

You are worth more than that...let her worry about her own mistakes she
made. She made her bed, now let her learn her own mistakes. You deserve
a much better life..so think about you from now on.

take ShagnaC up on her offer. email her.

you're in deep water man. salute your kind loving spirit.
but there are multiple things wrong with this picture
and you know this already or you wouldn't be posting.

hang in there dude - you have done a noble thing