Mmmmmmmm.....and what wonderful melons she had in the kitchen.

I think it just boils down to the person and how they handle, treat and spend their money. Everyone is just different for their own reasons.
I do think someone can love another without spending their money on them because of whatever reasons they have for not wanting to spend it ..period. Another will spend alot of money on someone they don't love just because they want too and maybe they feel that they do not need to hang on to it.

To some people, love is everything...to others, money is everything

Personally I am in it for love, I make my own money so I don't need to find someone to love that has money. I don't understand how someone can be with a person just for the money unless they have had a very hard and impoverished life.

I was in a relationship with two men who had no money so yes there is

kitchen?

If a man loves me he won't have a problem spending his money on me. I do not date "stingy" men. A poor man is not necessarily stingy, he just doesn't have much money to spend.

What was said here is true. If you disagree..next time you pull up at a stop light and there is someone standing there asking for money...ask yourself "Could I love him?"

Money defines people in one way or another even if you are not willing to fess up. Brutal truth.

And sometimes a lack of money is only temporary..alot of celebrities and famous people were homeless at one time...

hmm just something to add lol

At the same time?

Haha! NO, I read what I wrote and it does look that way

I have a friend, he has completely dropped out of the whole money culture. When he works, he refuses payment in money and instead takes goods or services in exchange for his labor. He travels all over, doing what ever work he can find. A few years ago he was in Hawaii, living among the native people. It seems he'd made an impression on an old man by picking cigarette butts on the beach. When the old man asked him what he was doing he said "hey, somebody's gotta do it."

I spoke to him about two weeks ago. He's living and working on an organic olive farm in central California these days. His personality is a lot like the stoners Brad Pitt played in his early films. He's just really cool and laid back.

He really is an awesome man and will break his back to help someone in need. But, he has no money at all and hasn't for as long as I've known him.

He also has no trouble finding VERY attractive girlfriends.

The point I'm trying to make is a great personality can trump everything else.

I was going to give you props for handling two men at once.....in dating terms that is.

Oh Lordy

*checks mirror*
*checks pants*

Yep, still a woman. And I've gone out with guys who had very little money, and one had only enough to spare that he could take me out for something like pizza now and then. I was a woman then, too.

So this "no woman" stuff... no way. Wrong.

You let him pay?!!??...Jesus Musica!

On the first and second dates I did because I hadn't yet realized/been told how little he had. After we left the pizzeria on date #2 the truth came out by way of discussing his job, etc. So date #3 was on me, and after that we alternated or split the cost of stuff we did (I wasn't making a lot of money then either) except on occasions when I had more available to spend than he did.

If I have money and a guy doesn't but I like him and want to see him, yes, I have no qualms about footing the bill. He made some noise about "feeling like a gigolo" until I explained to him that I'd been raised to play fair.

I was teasing you honey buns ...But I must say I applaud you and I would (and have) done the same with absolutely no regrets and in one case a pretty fabulous result...

I knew YOU were teasing, Leigh, but I figured it was something that deserved an explanation just in case anyone else reading got the wrong impression.

See, folks, this is what a feminist or liberated woman looks like. Not afraid to pay her fair share, doesn't expect the man to have to be on the hook for everything just because he's male. I don't expect a guy to foot the bill if I'm the one who asked him on the date because that's exceedingly tacky. If he has the money and wants to pay and offers, okay. If he wants to split the bill, fine. But my thinking is that whoever asked, pays, so I won't ask unless I can afford to treat. In fact, even if the date was the guy's idea, if he's been doing all the asking and paying lately, I'll offer to split the bill or at least kick in part of the cost of what we do, buy a round of drinks, leave the tip, spring for dessert, etc. It's only fair, and shows a man that I'm primarily interested in the content of his character rather than the contents of his wallet or bank account.

Far as I'm concerned, in this as in so many other things, chivalry goes both ways. For those men still unsure whether feminism is a good thing... let this be Exhibit A.

Funny side note to Date #3: It was raining when we left the restaurant to wander about the area, and I was the one who happened to have an umbrella... in my vehicle (we'd met up at the restaurant driving separately). I also had a coat and he didn't. Guess who pulled up her big girl panties and her hood, and sprinted off for the umbrella? I'm not quite sure he knew what to think at first, but I got a kick out of turning the tables. Things like that tend to impress a guy... and NO, that isn't why I do it. But I can't say it's a side-effect I'll complain about, either.

I did let him hold the umbrella over both of us while we walked, however, as he was 9 inches taller than I am. Not much I can do about that.

Honestly, he has to have a income that pays all his bills and to do a few things... I'm not going to support any man and I don't expect them to support me..

I will gladly pick up the tab every other time.... I don't like being used for what you can do for someone, and would not do it to someone else.

But no I would not date that guy on the corner...

But yes I have dated men on SS and on a budget...But they knew what they could and could not spend... I knew as well and would have never asked him to spend anything that would put him in a bind....

haven't thought that much about it, but I think things work better in a relationship when both partners are or can be self supporting - that takes the money dynamic out of the equation.

as far as dating....I suppose I can think we would find things to do that are not expensive - don't care really. when I date I am all about getting to know him.....hoping he's just really fun- hoping he is the kinda guy who wants to stay up all night talking and laughing at stupid stuff..

- I don't really like restaurants so a good time can be had that doesn't cost too much I reckon :)