Hey everybody. I've never understood it. May be u can help. Some females take it for granted that they should be DOMINATED in every aspect of everything. Why is that? Some men take it as their right to do that. I dont get it

The happiest marriage I personally know that woman hates making any kind of decision. She prefers to default The man, prefers being in control and like taking charge. But, I wouldn't say he "dominates" her. The point is, this relationship works very well for the two of them. She is happy in her submissive role. It takes all kinds to make a world.

Taking charge in a relationship is one thing. Dominating is another. I have actually seen women being dominated

Dominate me? They are welcome to try.

I don't dominate, I am an equalizer.

I dont know why people take things for granted. I personally prefer a dominant man although I dont prefer a bully, there is a difference. I dont understand why people would want a bully either.

I do understand, especially in situations where there are children that the woman is probably doing the main caretaking for and the home that the woman is probably doing the main caretaking of,, a woman desiring the man to make the decisions as a way of lifting some of the burden off of her own shoulders while she focuses on children and home.

I see nothing wrong with the guy you describe here. I like this guy.

What you consider dominant, I would simply consider TRUSTED by the woman to know he’ll make wise decisions and SUPPORTIVE enough of his family that he’s got her back.

Isn’t he saying the same things about her if she is TRUSTED by him to bear the brunt of nurturing their children and SUPPORTIVE enough to back his decisions?

I would not feel dominated in this scenario relationship, I would feel like part of a team.

I am Christian and I like how the bible teaches that a relationship should be. A man should be the head of the family, but the woman should be his crown that he cherishes.
He takes care of her and nurtures her, and she in return gives him loyalty and respect.
Is this a dominant relationship? No. This is man and woman realizing the importance of their gender roles, rather than rebelling against them.
But if you refer to a man using his head like status to diminish and demoralize his woman, then this is abuse of the gender role and a woman is wise to opt out.

Yeah,you are right. i agree with you 100%. I dont know why some people that think otherwise exist

I have always made my own decisions about most things. It would not work for me to have someone try to change that

but it may work for others

Generally, women want to be lead (by a responsible man) yet be listened to as an equal partner.

What 'the Bible' quotes is actually from the ancient Egyptian philosophy known as MA-AT It was their primary foundation of both religion and society in which the roles of male and female were spelled out to have absolute harmony and balance,(total equality) in all things pertaining to their lives. It was the only alternative to the chaos as they saw the Universe that always threatened to overwhelm their civilization. They did a pretty good job of it lasting nearly 5 thousand years. Total equality in all thing, what a radical idea; just imagine that! Of all the nerve! 'We' certainly won't last another hundred years...

good luck with that assumption. I do know some like that. they've sold out to the myth...

these days I would venture that most women want to make their own decisions and do not need a man's permission to do so. Oh, the times they are a changin'

No where within my response did I say a woman required a mans "permission". Your response sounds so much like the feminist "All men are created Evil" philosophy. "Men only want women for sex and want to walk on them as a carpet".

Women do not want to be "CONTROLLED", true. However, in some areas they like their man to take the lead. Women love the feminine feeling that comes from a "touch" (touch means a small amount) of submissiveness.

Absolutely. I agree. Women need to be able to trust their partner in order for this to work though. Sadly too many men abuse their position of authority and this is the reason why so many people today do not understand this type of relationship and sneer at it.

Dictionary.com

sub•mis•sive

adjective
1. inclined or ready to submit; unresistingly or humbly obedient: submissive servants.
2. marked by or indicating submission: a submissive reply.

Synonyms
1. tractable, compliant, pliant, amenable. 2. passive, resigned, patient, docile, tame, subdued.


I think that some of us are not using the terms “dominant” or “submission” by the definitions in a dictionary.

I think most of us think of the word “submissive” as more of a supportive term.

We all want to be supported in what we believe in and in the things that we do. Everyone sees that support a bit differently based on the way they were raised, the kind of family they had or wished they’d had, and the experiences they have been through in their adult life.

Personally, I read the definition of “submissive” above and see how I was expected to be as a child.

I'm too out of practice at submissive after 30 years of being the boss, the responsible party, the answer giver and the only one watching my own back to make submissive fly now. It would be a lie for me to even try "humbly obediant" on a husband.

Some of our lives just didn’t shape us to be that person...it simply wouldn’t fit.

I'm a feminist.

I don't think men are evil.

I'm not submissive, and don't think that being submissive is any more "feminine" than being non-submissive.

In fact, I don't see a need for partners in a relationship to take dominant and submissive roles at all, unless that is what works for those particular individuals and they've agreed upon it. Me, I'll take an egalitarian pairing, thank you very much.

I'm actually pretty doggone feminine, despite being outspoken, strong-willed, intelligent and... oh, what was that other thing? Oh yeah -- NOT submissive.

The kind of men I go for are the ones who relish equality of will, of intellect and of spirit in a partner, and who appreciate strong women. These men are strong enough in themselves and secure enough in their masculinity to handle it. That's the kind of strength I find sexy!

Nicely put!

All women and all men don't want the same exact things when it comes to relationships...Basically we're all individuals with our very own wants and needs and preferences. And each couple needs to figure-out what works best for them....Making assumptions about the opposite sex "in general" and carrying around a lot of expectations just leads to break-ups and heartache (down the road) for all concerned.

I' ve read 50 shades of Grey and I gotta tell you I was not impressed:P After all...not everyone likes BDSM with a red head man hahaha:)