Hell yes it can.

Consider the guy who is so infatuated with someone then sex happens with this person he is fond of. Then all of his friends tell him that this person is just using him but he can't see it. Then the infatuation he has is over and he starts to see what all of his friends have been trying to tell is true.

Augustine and Buddha taught about the irrationality of the emotion of sex. From experience, meditation, and study, I've come to the conclusion that sex and/or physical attraction isn't sufficient basis for a stable relationship.

Hmmm I could wait for romance so like is not and never did get me to unbuckle my pants.

Were there times my britches were on fire? You betcha just did not want to be the predictable statistic.


Can awesome sex bring to people together? Yea maybe for how ever long it lasted but I don't like you your probably never getting close enough to find out. Someone wanting sex with me has never been in short supply so always have had choices.

One more trist? LOL Nope the operative word more is not working if they never got to first round.

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We meet by chance… fall in-like at first glance… can’t wait for romance… we unbuckle our pants... during foreplay we arouse our senses and curiosity… our passion controls us with its intensity… together in-lust our bodies are on fire… our minds are on the brink… and… we don’t stop to think… we react to our impulses… tearing at our clothes… we’re naked and exposed… craving and maintaining caresses… entangled and breathless… we can’t get enough of this… we two are now one… in-love and having fun…

A lot of us test the waters(sex) before we jump in the pool(relationship) feet first. So… can awesome sex be what brings two people together at the beginning of an emotional connection?

Is it possible to have nothing else in common except great sex, and yet still be able to make the relationship work to our equal advantage, if while staying together for the sex we learn to grow in other areas too?

If we go our separate ways, then meet up again, and the old sparks reignite, is it acceptable to have one more tryst?

I think most people today have unrealistic expectations about relationships. We want someone to be our best friend, our lover, our caretaker. We want them to calm us when angry, make us smile when sad, have the right answer when we don't what to do, keep our secrets and grab us before we fall off a cliff. Just one person to be a whole village for us.

If you have a person that gives you awesome sex, why isn't that enough? You can find other people that give you the other things you need. I have friends with knowledge I don't have and I know things they don't. We exchange ideas on many topics. But, we don't have sex.

But, good sex can become an addiction. The other person can get you hooked and take advantage of you if you allow it. Sex feels good for both partners and no one should use sex as a tool to gain the upper hand. You must keep it in perspective. Sex is like air. It only becomes important when you can't get any.

So in other words, he was only curious about wanting to have sex with her, and once the mystery was gone he then decides to see her through others eyes, as his excuse to dump her??? just curios...

Or she has already dumped him and he doesn't know why. He is stumped. Everything seemed to be okay till reality sets in. He is left wondering what happened. I think there needs to be something more than just great sex to sustain a relationship.

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I don't mean to seem argumentative trout, but I'm still way confused... in your original narrative you say this guy is really infatuated and he finally makes the physical connection. And it's only after the relationship becomes more serious that his friends now start bashing the person he's involved with, by trying to convince him that the person is just using him. Then, after he listens to all the bad mouthing and has had his curiosity quenched, his infatuation quickly disappears, and he starts to see what his friends have been trying to tell him...

This is really messed up to me... maybe I'm just naturally siding with the underdog and wanting to defend that position... but... it doesn't seem like the guy is a victim to some predator out to take him... when he was probably the one who kept chasing his infatuation until he got what he wanted... and... these friends of his must not be friends of hers too, or else why are they out to sabotage her?

Ultimately, I think Michael Bolten says it best, about a man and his woman, and his friends that could very well be jealous that he has something they don't...

"When A Man Loves A Woman"
He turns his back on his friends if they put her down...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3u2_GQlwxbI

That is a wonderful song and Michael has it right. "He is the last one to know."

I have some good female friends and some good male friends. One of my male friends just had to make a choice between his lovely plants or her. I know that he is going to be hard to live with because of the withdrawals he will have to go through. He chose her over the plants. I offered to let him cry on my shoulder but he is too macho for that. He raised them from seeds and has babied them all their life. I know it will be tough on him but they want to have a child together and she has a good point as she doesn't want the authorities to be able to take away their future child. He has been trying to raise regular farm plants. He has raised some beautiful tomato plants. I know if puts as much attention towards their relationship and being a father to their child as he did with the plants he should be an awesome father.

But any ways he confirmed my suspicion about this lady who has been coming on to me. It wasn't just me who thought something was strange. My only concern was that she is my daughter's age. He said that she was going with this guy and the marriage failed because she liked older men. The guy found out that she dumped him for his father. After I found that out I have been keeping my distance from her. I don't want to be anybody's boy-toy especially if they are younger than I am.

Rainbowtrout, I have had friends from both my side and his, telling me what a ladies man someone was, while I was dating him. Though, it was hard to see if he was because he would follow me around like a teen obssessed with their favourite band. It only got obvious, when some Cheryl woman, told me how he used to say unkind stuff about me to her. That made sense in a way. He was a back-stabber, so I dumped him. I just don't get why your friends waited for your relationship to progress, before telling you. If I suspect anything, I say from the start.