I think a good relationship should have jealousy, possessiveness and foreplay. But not to the point where physical abuse comes in. I think jealousy and foreplay adds fire to a relationship. My boyfriend isnt jealous when I talk to other boys nor is he possesive. And I am always the one who has to talk naughty to him and when I do all I get from him is a ok or a head nod. What does this mean? Is he really interested in me?

I think you are very young, have a lot to learn, and have no idea what a good relationship is.

Your wrong, because many people want different things from a relationship. For example you wouldt date a stuck up brat or a person who wasnt good in bed or a person who u have nothing in common with. Yeah I am young but I think before I speak or type. A good relationship also consists of seeing a person's face too.

every relationship is good if you learn from them. the best relationship is one in which both persons edify each other

the fact that your boyfriend doesn't get jealous when you talk to other boys could mean many different things, but it sounds like he is comfortable in your relationship and trusts you. he sounds like the type of cat that is with you because he wants to be and if the day ever comes that he doesn't, he's gone

wisdom can come to you in different ways, and one is through experience. young people can have more experience than older people, but that is usually the exception and not the rule

for now, enjoy yourself and try to make everyone you met a better person

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Some people are possessive, jealous and passionate and others are not. Sounds like a compatibility issue that you have with this guy.

Honestly, you may find this guy boring and want more passion but jealousy causes conflict in relationships and can destroy them. Do you want a guy that's going to argue with you or a guy that just nods and humours you? It's impossible to know from your post if the guy really loves you. Do you love him?

I wouldn't want to be with someone who was jealous and possessive...All the "drama" would drive me crazy and give me headaches...I enjoy having a sense of security and peace and trust in my relationships..If I had to deal with a lot of "drama" and "games" on a regular basis this would make me feel me feel insecure...And the relationship would "eat-up" all of my time and energy...I want to feel free to develop my individual pursuits in life too. And this isn't possible when a relationship starts to "eat me alive" and "drains me" to the point that I don't have energy left for anything else.

For what it's worth, jealousy and possessiveness show a total lack of security and confidence in one's self, but if that's what you like in a man.....have at it. Don't say you weren't warned.

Jealousy and possessiveness show a total lack of security! Forplay is good in a "committed" relationship with one you love. Sounds like you and your boyfriend are not compatible sexually and you have a lot to learn about a relationship.

If a guy is jealous and possessive with me; the relationship is over before it began. To me that is immature behaviour and at my age; a person shouldn't behave like that. It would mean the guy is insecure and there will be nothing but problems.

I refuse to give that much power to anyone. IMHO jealousy stems from insecurity. Not only insecurity in the relationship, but also insecurity in not being able to attract someone else.

If I find myself feeling it, I ask myself why? Is she really so important in my life that I couldn't get along with out her? The answer is always the same. If she's going to be happier with someone else, please, go and be with that person. The last thing I want is a woman that would rather be with someone else. I can find another.

I don't think that I get "jealous" or "possessive" just because I'm insecure or can't atract other people. When I'm with a woman that I have feelings for I want her to be my girl and not go with other men; simple as. Doesn't mean that I do mad stalker type things or get paranoid and start arguments. I'm not insecure like that.

Supposedly if your star sign is scorpio you will have a tendency to be passionate, jealous and possessive. Don't really know if astrology is just a load of rubbish but some of it has rung true when I've read about it and maybe there's something to it.

Jealousy is an emotion of possession, not love. If you're secure you'll trust your partner and won't feel jealousy. It is the green-eyed monster.

I have green eyes but I'm not the jealous type...Well I wouldn't hook-up with a man who "got off" on trying to make me jealous all the time. I don't want to play games! Life is too short!

Now if it is casual talk to guy, I would not mind. I would be jealous if my girl flirted and hanging on the other guys.

You talk dirty and he hardly reacts? Are you sure that he has a pulse?