If you have a fragile ego, why try it at all?

Well gee wizz, I thought that's what you were asking since it in the title of the thread.

"Is it right for a lady to approach you for a serious relationship?"

IM kind of confused of why someone would 'approach' anyone for a serious relationship

I dont know if I Want a serious relationship until AFTER I get to know someone a bit, and certainly AFTER the initial approach

so, I think its kind of STRANGE for a person to approach another for a serious relationship,,,,whether its 'right/wrong' involves a moral judgment that I have no opinion on,,,


but , on the topic of merely initiating contact,,,I have no steadfast rule for myself, I just normally dont do it,,,,

I prefer men who initiate,,,,take the lead

This must be about the most outrageouslly stupid statement I've heard you come out with yet. Women in general have no problems striking up conversations with strangers anymore than men do. Some people are shy and some people are more outgoing. When I was younger I was very awkward with women but I frequently had them coming up to me in pubs and talking to me.

I get women coming up to me often too. But, that doesn't mean they can start a decent conversation or sustain one. That burden always falls on me. Especially when they're nervous and blushing. It is cute though.

You want to know what I get most of the time? "Wow, you're tall." What the heck do I say to that? Thanks?

seriously no. it is not something I would do. (I am not saying it's not OK just that I - ME - it's not something I would do).

if a man is really interested he will let you know. nothing wrong with letting him know that he is on the right track tho

I don't really meet women in social situations these days because I don't have a social life but sometimes when I'm out walking with my dog the dog goes up to people because she's really friendly that way. You know what I get? "She's doing that because she smells my dog (or cat) on me". It's a conversation starter anyway. I've met an animal lover that also has or has had a pet. Yeah, then the ball is maybe in my court and I could ask them if they live locally or something and find out more about them and tell them about myself.

The hard bit is to just say, "Hey, I just live round the corner. Do you fancy a coffee or something? But no, usually my stupid fear of rejection or British reserved atitude kicks in and I say, "Anyway, nice meeting you and I'll maybe see you around", while I'm hoping that they're going to just say that they would like that and give me their number or something. I go away thinking that it's just me and women go about aproaching other men and asking them for their numbers all the time. I know that they do that because I've seen it happen in movies and TV shows.

In this world of todays even ladies have the right to say to men wat they have n wat they feel,i think no wrong there.

I dont have a a problem approaching a guy..That's the easy part!
The serious relationship is where things get dicey

Some guys have a tendency to run if they even suspect that you want a serious relationship.

This I would NEVER bring up 1st!

Whatever a woman desires, I just prefer that they be 100 percent clear about it and up front. That way I/we can make a decision up front BEFORE feelings get too deep and involved. If I don't want the same thing I have no problem telling them I am not the one for that and they need to look elsewhere. No matter what it is.

I guess I'm old fashioned but I would never approach a man first about a relationship. I also never make the first phone call.

Anyway Tex, I think you are confusing someone's ability to chat up someone else in order to get a date with just being able to start and hold up their end of a conversation.

Women do not have problems talking. Women love to talk. You may not be particularly interested in the things that women like to talk about because while they are rabbiting on all you're thinking about is getting your end away or football but "women don't know how to have a proper conversation" is a rather daft thing to say.

I have asked several men out and yes I have been rejected. That is life. I have no problem starting a conversation about men as being a Tomboy; we usually do have a common interest in football, camping, fishing, or talking about power tools.

For me, If I like what I see??? I have NO problems approaching a man for whatever I am after. I will pounce. No problem.
Seductively with humor....works every time.

I really don't know why women don't like to make the move. Maybe they are more afraid of rejection than men are.

Absolutley

What if the woman is interested? Shall she keep quiet?

just look my way, Dodo, just look my way... you're too darn cute in that Alf suit... it's impossible not to smile at anything you say...