have noticed most women on this site are bitter and love to just put the man down.. it is about time for both sides to put away the knives shotguns and the like. if this is a dating site and yes the last time I looked it was. then why does it seem impossible for people to get past the past???? it is now time to look forward to the future, and a mate to share it with.

u are right!

I agree. We are all friends here looking for a good future!

The past should stay just where it is.

I'm a big fan of focusing on the present. :)

exactly i agree

ok you got a mans point of view now it is time you get a womans point of view...first off not all ladies are like that and if they are then they must have got a real good reson for feeling the way we do I am 42 years old and i can honestly say to you that no one on this site has been **** on by a man than I have since i was 20 I have had men use me abuse me and throw me away I do not know or understand what I am doing wrong to deserve what I got ok so I used to just keep getting up dust myself off and just keep going and trying....but after doing this for so long I have been led to believe that all men are dogs till they can prove me wrong and honey I have not found not one man that has proved me wrong yet so if you wonder why we keep looking in the past well maybe that is because we have been **** on for so long that it is real hard for us to look into the future...But that is just my opion and like my grandma used to say opions are like asshole everyone has one....

Well said Widowerseking!! Well said

yes thats true

My future holds infinite opportunities -absolutely ...but it doesn't revolve or depend on having a man in my life

Hope you find what you're looking for, sir

dakota, can see your point of view, but not all people are like that. was married to one lady for 50 years, the last 8 or 9 she was in very bad health everyone wanted me to put her in a nursing home. I did not do it I took care of her myself, took her out for the walks she always enjoyed even though I had to lift her out of the bed to a wheelchair. we would go for drives into the country or along the coast we went grocery shopping togeather.I am a much better than average cook and made sure she had the meals she liked. the trouble today both men and women seem to remember the good part of the wedding vows, but very few seem to remember UNTIL DEATH DO US PART.

There are bitter ones from both sexes. Yes, ladies are more likely to verbalize their bitterness, whereas, men are more likely to act it out by treating ladies like poop. As for this being a dating site, I prefer to view it as a friendship site, where we can endeavor to develop some in depth friendships. And the rule of thumb for friends is: you can say things to your friends without fear of repercussions and hurt feelings. If not they are not true friends.

I love men. There are lot of statements I could make about men in general, and I get really frustrated, but I know it is the same for guys if they were to lump all women together.

DAM

<<<<< is not bitter.. likes a good dance... ! likes good company
and really likes a good man
but hates insulting jesters and the likes and will say what s on my mind.. so there

I TRUELY DO UNDERSTAND WHAT ALL OF YOU ARE SAYING AND I WILL BE THE FIRST TO ADMIT THERE ARE GOOD MEN OUT THERE BUT THEY ARE TOO FAR AND BETWEEN ALL I WANT IS TO FIND A MAN WHO KNOWS HOW TO TREAT ME LIKE A WOMAN NOT A PIECE OF MEAT HE HAS TO BE ABLE TO MAKE ME FEEL COMFORTABLE BE PRETTY LAID BACK AND LOVE THE OUT DOORS...NOW I KNOW THERE ARE NO PERFECT MAN AND TO BE HONEST IF I DID FIND A NICE MAN I REALLY WOULDN'T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT BECAUSE I HAVE NEVER HAD A NICE MAN IN MY LIFE SO TO ALL OF YOU GUYS OUT THERE THAT IS NICE I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST ON FINDING A WOMAN THAT CAN LOVE YOU FOR YOU NOT BECAUSE WHAT YOU HAVE OR WHAT THEY CAN GET FROM YOU....

I'm not here to put any of y'all down. Here's what I've found just from taking a long hard look at my own little coccy-self.

1st off, my life didn't turn out the way I ever imagined it would - it turned out better! Yeah, there's been hurt, but it makes the good stuff soooo much better. Besides, hurt is, no pun intended, a major pain in the butt, but it does make you notice what the heck is going on and pay attention to what you're doing. When I started paying attention to what I was doing - low and behold - out popped a pattern of what type of guys I was attracted to. If you can hear Ms. Franklin singin' "Rescue Me" in the background here y'all, there's a reason. I found out I was a damn good rescuer and aw, you're story has touched my heart, let me show ya all women aren't like that. So, now gentleman, I call it like I see it. If you don't like the call, that's cool. But if my gut tells me your full of it and something is just not what it seems, why should I waste our time? Just seems fair to me. I appreciate the honesty in return. That's why, I appreciate the guys that are out lookin for an intimate encounter and nothing more to stand up and say, yo, this is what I want - ya interested. Then I can say, "nope, but I know this person who is and y'all might just have a large time". No offense is taken and everybody gets to be who they truly are and possibly get what they truly want.

Well said Willy_cents. Well said!

Dakota said: "first off not all ladies are like that and if they are then they must have got a real good reson for feeling the way we do I am 42 ......"

U see how women 'does' reason. When a woman is a certain undesirable way....."She has a GOOD reason."

When a man is also a certain undesirable way (not that I approve) DOES HE ALSO HAVE A GOOD REASON FOR IT? DAKOTA?

Widowerseeker, I disagree. I have not seen what you have spoken about. I have not seen women arbitrarily bashing any males.

When a persoon makes a generalized disparaging comments that puts down either gender, I have seen both male and female posters reminding everyone that an entire gender cannot be judge by one idiot.

I have notice that recently we have had 3-6 chauvinistic males posters making rude and obnoxious comments About women. This would include demanding women posters to display a full body pic, that women prefer to be mistreated, that the only reason a man would agree with a female poster is to get into her pants and/or make babies, and act as if women are only commodity. I think that these pathetic, although few, posters have angered and disgusted the majority of the female posters as well as quite a few male posters.

Is this what you are referring to???? If no, then I have not seen what described. If yes, then it is not bitterness, but disgust and concern for all!





By the way, it is commendable the way you cared and loved your wife. - Take Care Alexia!

I guess because sometimes the present reflects the past if you keep habits. Sometimes people use the past as a sign or indication of future behavior.