When two people decide to spend time together, who should pay? Is it a culture thing, new generation or an old fashion value?

I would like to hear your view. I'm sure everyone has their own opinion and the subject has been discuss in the past but it seems to be a topic of interest to the men and friends I have visited with lately and would like to hear your view on the subject.

In my opinion, unless the guy is interested in pursuing a relationship with me, I pay for my own meals and entertainment just like I would if I was spending time with a friend. Now I might take a friend out to celebrate a special occasion or they might make arrangements to take me out but it is clearly understood who is paying.

This might be a dating site but I believe that it is important to get to know someone before you even consider dating. I believe dating is about finding a mate, otherwise, it is about being friends and we can never have enough friends.

In whatever situation,,,,whether friends, strangers, dating, ,,etc

whomever asks the other out is expected to be footing the bill, unless they specify otherwise,,,,

reminds me of a scene from a movie:

'hey , do you want to go see <movie name here> Friday?

;yeah


'great, tell me what you think of it'


....I just think its odd to basically ask someone to take themself somewhere,,,lol


if its gonna just be meeting up somewere, thats easy enough to ask too,,,

If I ask, I expect to pay and am prepared to pay.

If I am asked, I expect to share - but I am prepared to pay.

If I can't afford to pay I don't go out, regardless of who asked who.

Just because a man and woman are not "dating" does not mean that you can not treat them like a lady. In some cases it may prepare the way for a future. In others you always leave the woman knowing there are some guys out there who aren't like those they constantly complain about.