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Edited by
Leigh2154
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no its not ok for you need to respect yourself and not let the man control your mind you need to take things slow and not let any man take advantage of you Women can think for themselves and enjoy sex. Just because they decide to have sex on the first date does not mean they're letting a man take advantage of them. So yes, it's ok. I think its that Queene feels that a man won't respect her if you have sex on the first date. If you aren't looking for anything serious; why not have sex on the first date? Through some studies; men have admitted that if a girl sleeps with them on the first date; they lose respect for her and you can forget any chance of a relationship developing or of him ever calling again. Me, I have to have feelings for a man and I don't mean just being horny as that is all it is on a first date. I think it would be extremely rare that you could fall in love with someone on a first date but I am sure it has happened. I am a modern woman but I like to make love to a man; not have sex and I can't make love to a man if I don't love him. However as you always say Sing; to each his/her own and as long as the woman doesn't feel pressured to having a sex with man and that she is aware that he may never call her again; then I say go for it. Why would a woman be interested in a man who based his respect for her solely on her willingness to sleep with him on the first date...or, for that matter, NOT sleep with him on the first date ...That's just crazy!!!... It may be crazy but everyone has their own thoughts of this. Despite 2013; people still have old fashioned thoughts; especially from men that think a woman that sleeps with him on the first date is easy and certainly not the type to introduce to family and friends. We often hear that women play head games with men and I wonder if this is just a game or a test that men put her through to see if she is the right woman for him. Men can sleep with a lot of woman and be considered a hero but if a woman does that she is a skank so there is still a double standard out there and I don't see that changing any time soon. Now; I can honestly say I wold lose respect for a man if he wanted to have sex with me on a first date but that is how I feel. I am not questioning how you or anyone else feels...Just talking about how I feel about it...I should have qualified my "That's just crazy" statement like this..."For me, that's just crazy"....In my world, respect is earned and builds over time...If a man wants to sleep with me on the first date the only way I am going to lose respect for him at that stage is if he continues to push it (nags) after I make clear I am not ready... |
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I only do sex on the second date. Unless she twists my arm and forces me to have sex on the first date.  
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no its not ok for you need to respect yourself and not let the man control your mind you need to take things slow and not let any man take advantage of you Women can think for themselves and enjoy sex. Just because they decide to have sex on the first date does not mean they're letting a man take advantage of them. So yes, it's ok. I think its that Queene feels that a man won't respect her if you have sex on the first date. If you aren't looking for anything serious; why not have sex on the first date? Through some studies; men have admitted that if a girl sleeps with them on the first date; they lose respect for her and you can forget any chance of a relationship developing or of him ever calling again. Me, I have to have feelings for a man and I don't mean just being horny as that is all it is on a first date. I think it would be extremely rare that you could fall in love with someone on a first date but I am sure it has happened. I am a modern woman but I like to make love to a man; not have sex and I can't make love to a man if I don't love him. However as you always say Sing; to each his/her own and as long as the woman doesn't feel pressured to having a sex with man and that she is aware that he may never call her again; then I say go for it. Why would a woman be interested in a man who based his respect for her solely on her willingness to sleep with him on the first date...or, for that matter, NOT sleep with him on the first date ...That's just crazy!!!... It may be crazy but everyone has their own thoughts of this. Despite 2013; people still have old fashioned thoughts; especially from men that think a woman that sleeps with him on the first date is easy and certainly not the type to introduce to family and friends. We often hear that women play head games with men and I wonder if this is just a game or a test that men put her through to see if she is the right woman for him. Men can sleep with a lot of woman and be considered a hero but if a woman does that she is a skank so there is still a double standard out there and I don't see that changing any time soon. Now; I can honestly say I wold lose respect for a man if he wanted to have sex with me on a first date but that is how I feel. I am not questioning how you or anyone else feels...Just talking about how I feel about it...I should have qualified my "That's just crazy" statement like this..."For me, that's just crazy"....In my world, respect is earned and builds over time...If a man wants to sleep with me on the first date the only way I am going to lose respect for him is if he continues to push it (nags) after I make clear I am not ready... No, I realize you are not questioning me or anyone else. This whole thread is simply based on how we all personally feel and I respect that. I was just putting in my two cents for what Queene wrote as I understand what she was getting at. As always; I respect your opinion Leigh. 
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Do really BOYS like SEX ON FIRST DATE? Yep. Sometimes they don't even want the date...just the sex. It's a caraaazy world out there. Be careful, Dear. |
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Yeah sex is fun :)
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Yeah sex is fun :) oh, wow... dinner? |
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its nt okay at all
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Itz depend on d people. If both r interestd, itz k
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when then?
all other is waste of time |
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No it's not ok. I want a committed relationship then sex. |
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No it's not ok. I want a committed relationship then sex. Prude! 
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no
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...and if she did not die, then she are still living...same 1799 or is 1801?
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No it's not ok. I want a committed relationship then sex. Prude! No need to be Nasty!!  This is my own personal Choice. |
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Edited by
AthenaRose2
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Tue 01/29/13 09:21 AM
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It depends on the circumstances.
 I live in a very small town, where everybody knows your business and talks about it. And a woman’s reputation can get her in doors, or keep them closed to her based on her personal conduct. Here in my small community where all eyes see, I consider how I would make myself look if I brought a man home for a night of chemistry sex, and then we didn’t work out. Now, if I allow myself the luxury of independent thinking and actions, which at my age and life situation am clearly entitled too, how many more men might I scratch on my bedpost before I settled on the one I like best. Sorry, but the thought of what this kind of behavior would cost me is enough to make me stay celibate for as long as it takes until the right circumstance comes around. Right now, I’ve only got one notch to report, and that’s of my ex-husband, so one man in the last 19 yrs not only keeps my reputation intact, my self respect is still fine tuned at this point too. Don’t get me wrong though, if given the opportunity with the right person who I’ve had lots of time to get to know and become close friends with, and this step is the last one we make toward total commitment, where there’s a will, there’s a way.  So, like I said, it all depends on the circumstances. |
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No it's not ok. I want a committed relationship then sex. Prude! No need to be Nasty!! This is my own personal Choice. I disagree with the poster that called you a prude. You know what you want and personally I admire your for your choice.
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I only do sex on the second date. Unless she twists my arm and forces me to have sex on the first date. |
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I only do sex on the second date. Unless she twists my arm and forces me to have sex on the first date. eat the soup, if is hot the soup! drink the beer, if is cool the beer! do sex, if.... |
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No it's not ok. I want a committed relationship then sex. Prude! No need to be Nasty!! This is my own personal Choice. I disagree with the poster that called you a prude. You know what you want and personally I admire your for your choice. Thank You Navygirl, just because we are Women, we do not all desire the same thing in a relationship or dating or if we choose to have a man or not, it is all a matter of Personal Choices. 
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Edited by
navygirl
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Tue 01/29/13 11:37 AM
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No it's not ok. I want a committed relationship then sex. Prude! No need to be Nasty!! This is my own personal Choice. I disagree with the poster that called you a prude. You know what you want and personally I admire your for your choice. Thank You Navygirl, just because we are Women, we do not all desire the same thing in a relationship or dating or if we choose to have a man or not, it is all a matter of Personal Choices. I just think you can't know a person well enough to have sex on the first date. Yes; you can email and talk on the phone but fact of the matter is people can pretend to be anything they want to appease you but that doesn't make it so. I also feel I have to have deep feelings for the man before I make love to him and I no matter how well I connect on the first date; I can't develop those feelings for him as that takes time. I don't believe in having sex; I believe in making love which is quite different. I can't make love to someone that I don't love or have deep feelings for. Maybe I am screwed up but its just how I feel. |
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