yes, absolutely nothing wrong with it

When you're in a relationship hopefully it's monogamous... But if you are having sex on the first date and there is no commitment on his part then you've just added another to the list of people you've been intimate with...

Plus it's very dangerous these days with STDs and AIDS is still uncurable... so how can you know if they are okay unless you both get tested first.

As long as the boundaries are set.

Am I going to get to keep her?
Is she doing this to grow closer?

I need to know in order to control my emotions, I would only have sex if I wanted to be with that woman, to grow closer. I've tried sex as a fling one time and it left me feeling empty, wasn't as much fun as sex to grow closer.

That's the risk someone having sex on the first date will need to take. Hopefully they'll be using protection.

If it's not for you, no problem. But why worry about what others do?

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Well I think you said it well as in BOYS like sex on a first date.

I like this response. Someone who gets it.

It is funny how women willingly limit themselves based on the old ideals of men who wanted to control women (through the fear of their sexuality)because controlling them was the only way they knew how to deal with them.

We take a risk each time we allow someone closed to us, for sex or otherwise. Risks have to be taken to experience other humans. No matter if sex is involved or not.

People keep bringing up respect, but they don't seem to want to respect people's choices. How come?

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I think its that Queene feels that a man won't respect her if you have sex on the first date. If you aren't looking for anything serious; why not have sex on the first date? Through some studies; men have admitted that if a girl sleeps with them on the first date; they lose respect for her and you can forget any chance of a relationship developing or of him ever calling again. Me, I have to have feelings for a man and I don't mean just being horny as that is all it is on a first date. I think it would be extremely rare that you could fall in love with someone on a first date but I am sure it has happened. I am a modern woman but I like to make love to a man; not have sex and I can't make love to a man if I don't love him. However as you always say Sing; to each his/her own and as long as the woman doesn't feel pressured to having a sex with man and that she is aware that he may never see her again; then I say go for it.

Perhaps she feels that all men are the same and all would lose respect for a woman if they have sex on the first date?

If a woman chooses to wait to have sex, that's fine. Just as it's fine if she chooses to have sex on the first date. I don't have more or less respect for either one. I am also not going to put down women for making either choice, whether I agree or not.

I do lose respect for those who put down others for those choices they make. If someone doesn't like when I choose to have sex, whether it's on a first, third, tenth or so on date, that's not my problem. And I don't really understand why it would have any affect on them.

Why would a woman be interested in a man who based his respect for her solely on her willingness to sleep with him on the first date...or, for that matter, NOT sleep with him on the first date ...That's just crazy!!!...

I agree to each his/her own and a person should not be put down for their choice but some people feel very strongly as this is a very sensitive subject. I see that there are men that stated they also would not have sex on a first date on this thread and I must admit I have a lot of respect for them for feeling that way.

It may be crazy but everyone has their own thoughts of this. Despite 2013; people still have old fashioned thoughts; especially from men that think a woman that sleeps with him on the first date is easy and certainly not the type to introduce to family and friends. We often hear that women play head games with men and I wonder if this is just a game or a test that men put her through to see if she is the right woman for him. Men can sleep with a lot of woman and be considered a hero but if a woman does that she is a skank so there is still a double standard out there and I don't see that changing any time soon. Now; I can honestly say I wold lose respect for a man if he wanted to have sex with me on a first date but that is how I feel.

Hey there sexy lady's any 1 wanna chat x

I only do sex on the second date. Unless she twists my arm and forces me to have sex on the first date.

Here is a thought. You could actually contribute something relevant to this topic and that would be a great way to chat with the ladies.