HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DUMPED SO VAGUELY YOU AREN'T SURE YOU GUYS BROKE UP?
When I was in high school, yeah it was a long long time ago, Smart A$$es...

I was seeing a guy from another school. We always had fun going to each others houses, school events and church functions... ok, you got me.. He was at the church functions , I met him around the corner from the church.

One day he tells me.. "Tee, you are so great and I love you to death.
Let's open ourselves to see what God has in store for us"
He gives me a nice kiss and a sweet hug... no hip to hip?? What's up with that , I thought?
Well... suffice it to say.. that was the last time I saw Ron...
20 yrs later he confesses, " Tee you were way too much for me and I didn't know how to end it" punk...

actually he proved to be a mouse not a man

Are you related to Foxxy Cleopatra?

I didn't date in high school but I went to the Senior prom with a handsome guy. Later after graduation I fell inlove with a Young man. He was my first love; but after a few months of dating he got another girl pregnant so I knew he and I was over, no suprise. He was 19 and she was 17 and they got married.

He and I never slept together and he use to pressure me, so he had to find some woman that would sleep with him.

I seen this man again, when I was 35 he asked me out to dinner. He had been divorced for years, his marriage lasted 6 years and he only had that one child, a daughter. He wanted to rekindle but to me there was nothing left to rekindle, so I moved on. He thought we could start over.

Oh you see the resemblance? She's my cousin twice removed on my mother's side

Well, Foxxy did declare that she was a whole lot of woman.
Is that how you are?

Ha! Apparently..I didn't have to declare it it reared its regal head and scared my mousey little boyfriend away

Well, his loss could be my gain. (I can dream, can't I?)

"I need time to think"

"We were practically going out" huh?

I had a girlfriend that would break up with me practically every night. She would wait until her daughter had gone to bed and then she would roll up a joint and call me. She would talk a lot of goofy nonsense and when I tried to be romantic or talk about our relationship she would lose her temper saying, "I can't handle this" and dump me. Then she would show up at my door or call me again the next day and when I said to her that I thought that she had said that it was over she would just say, "That's me" as if it was something that she expected me to put up with. I got used to it and stopped taking the dumpings seriously and I even started saying things to her when she called me that I knew were going to set her off because I couldn't be bothered with listening to all of her boring crap and I just wanted to get off the phone.

Recently I was dumped by somebody that I met on this site and was having a relationship with. She was always making lame excuses about how she wasn't able to cope with a serious relationship just now and she told me that she needed to take time to work on herself and her problems. She had always been saying things like that and I couldn't really tell if she was saying that it was over and that she didn't want to see me again. After several emails were exchanged where I told her that I cared about her and didn't want to lose her and she gave me a list of reasons why she thought it couldn't work out between us she finally admitted that she was still in love with her ex. She had been hanging about with him all of the time that we were together but she said that they were just friends and they hadn't had sex in months. I believe that she was telling the truth about that but her seeing me obviously made him jealous and she says that she couldn't bear to lose his friendship.

It will probably take me a while to get over that and because I have been in an on and off relationship I find it hard to accept that it is really over when somebody dumps me. I doubt that I will hear from her again but I can't help keeping checking my emails and hoping that I will hear from her again. I think I am going to give up trying to find someone on dating sites for the time being at least. I do not regret meeting that girl and the time that I had with her was special but she hurt me and it is really hard to get women on these sites to talk to you and to persuade them to meet up for a date.

I suppose I am going off topic here but in the time that I've been here I have sort of come to think of you guys as my friends and although I came on here to meet somebody and not to just chat with people on the internet I have found it helpful going on this forum and talking about dating and relationships with you while I was trying to make one work.

Wait a minute, I did not even know we was together!


And I haven't even got a tattoo yet!

It will probably take me a while to get over that and because I have been in an on and off relationship I find it hard to accept that it is really over when somebody dumps me. I doubt that I will hear from her again but I can't help keeping checking my emails and hoping that I will hear from her again. I think I am going to give up trying to find someone on dating sites for the time being at least. I do not regret meeting that girl and the time that I had with her was special but she hurt me and it is really hard to get women on these sites to talk to you and to persuade them to meet up for a date.

I suppose I am going off topic here but in the time that I've been here I have sort of come to think of you guys as my friends and although I came on here to meet somebody and not to just chat with people on the internet I have found it helpful going on this forum and talking about dating and relationships with you while I was trying to make one work.


I feel the same Tawt!! No more dating..just like talking to the men and women in the forums!
Im satisfied for now.

I feel the same Tawt!! No more dating..just like talking to the men and women in the forums!
Im satisfied for now.



Well, I wish that I could just be happy being on my own but I am not and I have even been prepared to stay in bad relationships where I felt like I was being treated like crap because I am prepared to put up with a lot from women and I feel like a loser with no life that is going to end up a lonely old man when I don't have a girlfriend.

I'm not ready to just try again with a positive atitude and go through all of that business again after spending months trying to find someone that I got on with and that wanted to meet me. I am trying to take a positive atitude about it because I did meet someone and had a nice time with her while it lasted. I felt happy and good about myself and it wasn't my fault that it didn't work out. I was nervous about getting into a relationship again because my previous girlfriend was always putting me down and telling me that I don't know how to treat a woman and am a crap boyfriend. Well, although it hasn't worked out again she has told me that I am a good guy and that what we had was good. It did hurt being dumped and she didn't even have the decency to have a proper chat about it and I was just dumped by email. I don't want to think badly about her though and I don't want to get a bad atitude about women.

I guess I will keep going on these forums even if it is just out of boredom and loneliness. I don't even know if I will ever get another girlfriend but it has helped being able to talk with you guys about relationships and I do feel that I just need friendship right now.

Memories of seventh grade...memories of seventh grade...memories of seventh grade....scarred me for life. Didn't even try to date again until college.

http://youtu.be/OYwMZs6eSqo

Yeah. By text. How cowardly. He had no guts.

(Tee, your tee-shirt avatar is nutz!)

I see it, and I won't lie on myself. The mere thought of what some might call an overly independent woman (read: you & NavyGirl + others) with me does give me pause.

I ain't saying y'all are too much, but me thinks we would have a harder time than "usual" because y'all have broken away from many things which are IMHO stereotypically feminine. I ain't sayin nothing like "barefoot & pregnant" or "better be in either the kitchen or the bedroom" but I always have wanted to be "the breadwinner" especially after my dad was the farthest thing from it. TV didn't and doesn't help either.

My wife used to tell me, "that's why you didn't marry a black woman!" and me thinks she was partially right. For me, I think it boils down to my 0-to-15 (formative years) of watching my peeps do what they did, and me processing what I saw. I declared many of the things I saw them do as "wrong/fail" and made sure I did NOT do those things. I STILL ended up in a mess though. (sigh)

With all that - maybe you were too much for him at that time. Either that or the Lord had his ear...


Do you think that if you got with a very aggressive, assertive, alpha-male-type guy you would maybe change a little? I would think that if one of you didn't change a little, fireworks (not the happy-sparkly type either) would ensue.

Yep, I have. We'd been dating for about a month. Talked on the phone and emailed/messaged each other every day. We had a final date where he declared me to be an awesome woman. Talked about the next time we'd get together before he left to drive home. He said he'd call when he got home (we lived about 1.5 hours apart). Got an email that said "Home" and went to reply and it said that the email account was no longer valid. Never heard from him again. Maybe he went back in and actually READ my profile, LOL!

well 7th wasn't too bad. no boyfriends yet!! I suppose I have been dumped vaguely and also vaguely dumped others. At the point that it's over I am usually not into long convos.....hence the vagueness



I have also had what Kelsy describes as a guy who did not believe me when I broke up. We'd still be friends and talking except that he 'd assume if we were talking - if I called to talk - it meant we got back together. So I had to end contact because of that. Otherwise I would not have done that.

Love my T-shirt.. It's so me!

Yeah... I'll be the 1st to admit! I'm mouthy, opinionated and a down right Smart a$$! and I love Me some ME!(TO Owens impression)

Which is why i tell you who I am upfront! SO, the faint of heart need not apply!

If I can find a guy who can handle all of this.. *visual* I'm circling myself right now... then he will be the man of the hour for me!

And just think... that kid couldn't handle Teenage me!!! Imagine if he were around after I had some life experience!