I wish that women would try to avoid communicating during the following:

Football game- Any topics that are not of the emergency status (meaning someone is dying or passed, etc) need wait till halftime. I know halftime is brief, but you'd be surprised how quickly a dude will communicate all the topics his lady wants to go over within that seven minute time span. After the game is over, communication can continue. Respect the football game and your man will love you more for it.

During sex- Okay, unless you wanna know how how your man wants to treat you like the pornstar he loves watching, then all other conversation topics can wait. Don't ask about the bills, or what's for dinner, or how should you guys work on fixing up the house. A man needs to concentrate so he can satisfy his women. No extra undue stress need apply.

When he is working on fixing something that is broken in the home- You want him to be the repair man right? Well, then please be kind and stay back. Allow the man to do his thing. If he is attempting to fix a leaky faucet, then don't come around five minutes (after he has begun to work on the faucet) and talk about other stuff. The man needs to analyze the issue. He needs to focus on the one problem. He doesn't need you coming around with more issues. Give him about fifteen minutes on the faucet and then just simply come by and see if he needs any assistance. Once he has assessed the damage and knows how he is gonna fix it, then let him tell ya about it and then ask him about other things.

These are but a few examples. Guys don't mind communicating. We just hate it when you ladies wanna communicate at the most inappropriate time.

I can relate with that. It can be addictive to just retaliate. In a prior marriage retaliating was how we communicated.

Don't talk to a woman that is putting on her mascara.
Don't talk to a woman when she is doing the dishes.
Don't talk to a woman when she is taking a shower.
Don't talk to a woman when she is on the phone.
Blah blah... excuses....women multitask... if we didn't all you dudes would not have gotten the care and protection it took for you to even still be here.
p.s. favorite porn star?? It's an image.... not the real thing...I will never understand how that is even an option. Your woman should be your favorite thing.

The male species will never give up on their porn star fantasies.
It's useless to try to change that.

As long as women fantasize about being porn stars . . .

Nice wish to have, but it aint gonna happen.
The male species will never give up on their porn star fantasies.
It's useless to try to change that.

Don't talk to a woman that is putting on her mascara.
Don't talk to a woman when she is doing the dishes.
Don't talk to a woman when she is taking a shower.
Don't talk to a woman when she is on the phone.
Blah blah... excuses....women multitask... if we didn't all you dudes would not have gotten the care and protection it took for you to even still be here.
p.s. favorite porn star?? It's an image.... not the real thing...I will never understand how that is even an option. Your woman should be your favorite thing.

Nice wish to have, but it aint gonna happen.
The male species will never give up on their porn star fantasies.
It's useless to try to change that.

I think it works both ways. (For men and women.)...Our partners aren't "things" or our "possessions." Nobody wants to be "talked at" when they are concentrating on something or watching a favorite show or movie..Constant interruptions can be annoying and disrespectful...It's unfair to expect our mate to drop everything and be "on call" for us 24/7...This is how young kids act with their parents and they have to be taught to respect other peoples' boundaries.

As long as women fantasize about being porn stars . . .

good list - can we add when she is cooking dinner while talking on the phone? only so much multi tasking can be expected....

I was in a couple of relationships that could be toxic in the past..It becomes a game of "tit for tat" and emotional blackmail. And things can sure get ugly. YUK!...I think it takes a certain level of maturity to avoid playing "gotcha games" in relationships. Don't you?...Some couples act like brothers and sisters who are stuck in perpetual sibling rivalry...There's too much competition. (Versus caring and sharing and working through problems as best-best friends.)

Exactly... I can and do whatever porn stars do.... I am REAL. They are an image on a screen.
so why use porn....I hate this freaking topic.

The hard part is even being friendly towards each other after a while. She said she didn't like the 'tit for tat'. Early on she said she was worried that she was changing me. She said she had trouble with letting go of control. It is understandable because she was a survivor. She had survived incredible odds. It made me look at 13th stepping in a whole new light. I have been sober and clean for 29 years but even though she had 25 years went back out again. When her sponsor was the go between I was asked if I was going to stay for the meeting. I said 'No'. I wasn't about to come between her relationship with her sponsor. If I had said'yes' I know she would have left the meeting. I always want the hand of A.A. to be there even if it isn't my hand.

Because the way a woman looks is extremely important to men and women just don't take care of themselves in this part of the world. Many of us would prefer a thin, young fantasy to a real, overweight willing partner.