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Topic: Is practical a bad thing?
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 12/28/12 09:44 PM
One of my friends told me the other day that he thought I would never find a woman because I was to practical and grounded. I have to agree I am a very grounded person. Is this something that turns women away? no those are good qualities to have. A lot of women are tired of flakes, cheaters and losers who don't think.....so there you are ready for them! Thanks now if only when I was there for them I didn't end up in the friend zone. the friend zone is too oft maligned. I seldom get involved with a man any more if he has not first been one of my friends. Also remember your females friends have OTHER female friends who could meet you too! Don't sweat the friend zone..it could well be called the "test zone" (this is female top secret I shouldn't be telling you this news) but....a lotta gals friend zone guys to see if they will stick around and really be friends or if they were just trying to get in their pants. that is how we eliminate the losers & users Really? Women put guys in the friend zone to see if they'll stay interested and stick around? That's pretty sh*tty of them to do! Too much game playing for me.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Fri 12/28/12 10:32 PM
We both have the same problem as this is the way I am and because of this I will never meet a man either. You look stunning and from what I have seen of your posts you seem to have a caring heart . Any man would be lucky to have a woman like you. Keep looking your man is out there. You are very kind but its pointless to even bother looking. Getting back to your thread; I have a tendency to keep my emotions in check as that is more practical and yes men think I am cold and have no emotions. I am just used to keeping a cool head in a bad situation as that is part of my military training. Women are supposed to be very emotional according to men but I tend not to be that way especially in a crisis.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 12/29/12 10:58 AM
One of my friends told me the other day that he thought I would never find a woman because I was to practical and grounded. I have to agree I am a very grounded person. Is this something that turns women away? no those are good qualities to have. A lot of women are tired of flakes, cheaters and losers who don't think.....so there you are ready for them! Thanks now if only when I was there for them I didn't end up in the friend zone. the friend zone is too oft maligned. I seldom get involved with a man any more if he has not first been one of my friends. Also remember your females friends have OTHER female friends who could meet you too! Don't sweat the friend zone..it could well be called the "test zone" (this is female top secret I shouldn't be telling you this news) but....a lotta gals friend zone guys to see if they will stick around and really be friends or if they were just trying to get in their pants. that is how we eliminate the losers & users Really? Women put guys in the friend zone to see if they'll stay interested and stick around? That's pretty sh*tty of them to do! Too much game playing for me. I'm still thinking about this. I wonder how many women actually do this as a test to see if men will stick around? I can honestly say that it's not something I've ever done or thought about doing.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14607	Sat 12/29/12 10:58 AM
One of my friends told me the other day that he thought I would never find a woman because I was to practical and grounded. I have to agree I am a very grounded person. Is this something that turns women away? There are many women who may would like a practical, grounded man. If you mean you are conservative or homebody. That is something I would not want in a man. Most conservative men or stingy and a homebody means he is most likely a couch potato.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 12/29/12 11:16 AM
One of my friends told me the other day that he thought I would never find a woman because I was to practical and grounded. I have to agree I am a very grounded person. Is this something that turns women away? no those are good qualities to have. A lot of women are tired of flakes, cheaters and losers who don't think.....so there you are ready for them! Thanks now if only when I was there for them I didn't end up in the friend zone. the friend zone is too oft maligned. I seldom get involved with a man any more if he has not first been one of my friends. Also remember your females friends have OTHER female friends who could meet you too! Don't sweat the friend zone..it could well be called the "test zone" (this is female top secret I shouldn't be telling you this news) but....a lotta gals friend zone guys to see if they will stick around and really be friends or if they were just trying to get in their pants. that is how we eliminate the losers & users Really? Women put guys in the friend zone to see if they'll stay interested and stick around? That's pretty sh*tty of them to do! Too much game playing for me. I'm still thinking about this. I wonder how many women actually do this as a test to see if men will stick around? I can honestly say that it's not something I've ever done or thought about doing. I have never put a man in the friend zone to test him to see if he will stick around. That thought would never have crossed my mind.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 12/29/12 06:18 PM
One of my friends told me the other day that he thought I would never find a woman because I was to practical and grounded. I have to agree I am a very grounded person. Is this something that turns women away? no those are good qualities to have. A lot of women are tired of flakes, cheaters and losers who don't think.....so there you are ready for them! Thanks now if only when I was there for them I didn't end up in the friend zone. the friend zone is too oft maligned. I seldom get involved with a man any more if he has not first been one of my friends. Also remember your females friends have OTHER female friends who could meet you too! Don't sweat the friend zone..it could well be called the "test zone" (this is female top secret I shouldn't be telling you this news) but....a lotta gals friend zone guys to see if they will stick around and really be friends or if they were just trying to get in their pants. that is how we eliminate the losers & users Really? Women put guys in the friend zone to see if they'll stay interested and stick around? That's pretty sh*tty of them to do! Too much game playing for me. I'm still thinking about this. I wonder how many women actually do this as a test to see if men will stick around? I can honestly say that it's not something I've ever done or thought about doing. I have never put a man in the friend zone to test him to see if he will stick around. That thought would never have crossed my mind. maybe subconsciously? The way sweetest girl worded it, she made it sound like women do this on purpose.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 12/29/12 06:21 PM Edited by navygirl on Sat 12/29/12 06:24 PM
Nope; I have never put a man in the friendship zone even subconciously. I know right off the bat whether I like a guy. I will tell him point blank that we will be nothing more than friends.

Lyndy1970 Joined Fri 12/28/12 Posts: 61	Sat 12/29/12 06:28 PM Edited by Lyndy1970 on Sat 12/29/12 06:29 PM
One of my friends told me the other day that he thought I would never find a woman because I was to practical and grounded. I have to agree I am a very grounded person. Is this something that turns women away? no those are good qualities to have. A lot of women are tired of flakes, cheaters and losers who don't think.....so there you are ready for them! Thanks now if only when I was there for them I didn't end up in the friend zone. the friend zone is too oft maligned. I seldom get involved with a man any more if he has not first been one of my friends. Also remember your females friends have OTHER female friends who could meet you too! Don't sweat the friend zone..it could well be called the "test zone" (this is female top secret I shouldn't be telling you this news) but....a lotta gals friend zone guys to see if they will stick around and really be friends or if they were just trying to get in their pants. that is how we eliminate the losers & users Now look what you went and did, you let them in on the most important secret.....shame on you..hang your head miss....

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 12/29/12 06:34 PM
One of my friends told me the other day that he thought I would never find a woman because I was to practical and grounded. I have to agree I am a very grounded person. Is this something that turns women away? no those are good qualities to have. A lot of women are tired of flakes, cheaters and losers who don't think.....so there you are ready for them! Thanks now if only when I was there for them I didn't end up in the friend zone. the friend zone is too oft maligned. I seldom get involved with a man any more if he has not first been one of my friends. Also remember your females friends have OTHER female friends who could meet you too! Don't sweat the friend zone..it could well be called the "test zone" (this is female top secret I shouldn't be telling you this news) but....a lotta gals friend zone guys to see if they will stick around and really be friends or if they were just trying to get in their pants. that is how we eliminate the losers & users Now look what you went and did, you let them in on the most important secret.....shame on you..hang your head miss.... She also let some of us women in on the secret we weren't aware of! Haha.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 12/29/12 06:36 PM
One of my friends told me the other day that he thought I would never find a woman because I was to practical and grounded. I have to agree I am a very grounded person. Is this something that turns women away? no those are good qualities to have. A lot of women are tired of flakes, cheaters and losers who don't think.....so there you are ready for them! Thanks now if only when I was there for them I didn't end up in the friend zone. the friend zone is too oft maligned. I seldom get involved with a man any more if he has not first been one of my friends. Also remember your females friends have OTHER female friends who could meet you too! Don't sweat the friend zone..it could well be called the "test zone" (this is female top secret I shouldn't be telling you this news) but....a lotta gals friend zone guys to see if they will stick around and really be friends or if they were just trying to get in their pants. that is how we eliminate the losers & users Really? Women put guys in the friend zone to see if they'll stay interested and stick around? That's pretty sh*tty of them to do! Too much game playing for me. it's not playing games if u want them to be friends - better than slutting around town

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 12/29/12 06:59 PM
it's not playing games if u want them to be friends - better than slutting around town Ah, so it's just about friendship? Nothing more?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 12/29/12 07:02 PM
One of my friends told me the other day that he thought I would never find a woman because I was to practical and grounded. I have to agree I am a very grounded person. Is this something that turns women away? no those are good qualities to have. A lot of women are tired of flakes, cheaters and losers who don't think.....so there you are ready for them! Thanks now if only when I was there for them I didn't end up in the friend zone. the friend zone is too oft maligned. I seldom get involved with a man any more if he has not first been one of my friends. Also remember your females friends have OTHER female friends who could meet you too! Don't sweat the friend zone..it could well be called the "test zone" (this is female top secret I shouldn't be telling you this news) but....a lotta gals friend zone guys to see if they will stick around and really be friends or if they were just trying to get in their pants. that is how we eliminate the losers & users Really? Women put guys in the friend zone to see if they'll stay interested and stick around? That's pretty sh*tty of them to do! Too much game playing for me. I'm still thinking about this. I wonder how many women actually do this as a test to see if men will stick around? I can honestly say that it's not something I've ever done or thought about doing. it's not a test - it is a genuine desire to have a friend

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 12/29/12 07:04 PM
it's not playing games if u want them to be friends - better than slutting around town Ah, so it's just about friendship? Nothing more? to be continued hey I am just messin with ya really - I lurves my guy friends whether anything else comes of it or not very often it is about love - friendship & love -friendshp to me includes many things - it can include sex. why not? but it doesn;t always

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 12/29/12 08:11 PM
it's not playing games if u want them to be friends - better than slutting around town Ah, so it's just about friendship? Nothing more? to be continued hey I am just messin with ya really - I lurves my guy friends whether anything else comes of it or not very often it is about love - friendship & love -friendshp to me includes many things - it can include sex. why not? but it doesn;t always So it is about testing them. You did call it "test zone" after all.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 12/29/12 08:24 PM
it's not playing games if u want them to be friends - better than slutting around town Ah, so it's just about friendship? Nothing more? to be continued hey I am just messin with ya really - I lurves my guy friends whether anything else comes of it or not very often it is about love - friendship & love -friendshp to me includes many things - it can include sex. why not? but it doesn;t always So it is about testing them. You did call it "test zone" after all. right but I did not mean it in a negative way I like sincerity. I like my relationships and friendships to last - I am careful maybe because I am for the first time in my life in a milieu where I am meeting soooo many new people - I have no problem getting into an intimate relationship, but I do so with the intention that it will mean something positive for both him and me and that a relationship will last (even if the intimacy does not - even if he friggin marries my best friggin friend....boo hoo :)... but I have known of men who do not have these values - Ok fine for them but not for me- I need a minute to figure out where a guy stands on all of this - that I guess is my testing ground seriously - I am prolly testing myself as much as anything - testing my own judgement of him as much as his intent to be a real friend I am really not interested in casual. In the best of all possible worlds everyone is honest and that is the thing of stories and fables....

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Sun 12/30/12 09:32 AM
All ya gotta do is find a chick who is sort of like you and then you'll hit it off, have fifteen babies, white picket fence, and a mini van. with 15 babies he'll need a school bus And then he can teach his kids music, they'll start a band, travel in the school bus, paint it psychedelic, ahhhhhh.....I have seen this somewhere before.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 12/30/12 10:54 AM
it's not playing games if u want them to be friends - better than slutting around town Ah, so it's just about friendship? Nothing more? to be continued hey I am just messin with ya really - I lurves my guy friends whether anything else comes of it or not very often it is about love - friendship & love -friendshp to me includes many things - it can include sex. why not? but it doesn;t always So it is about testing them. You did call it "test zone" after all. right but I did not mean it in a negative way I like sincerity. I like my relationships and friendships to last - I am careful maybe because I am for the first time in my life in a milieu where I am meeting soooo many new people - I have no problem getting into an intimate relationship, but I do so with the intention that it will mean something positive for both him and me and that a relationship will last (even if the intimacy does not - even if he friggin marries my best friggin friend....boo hoo :)... but I have known of men who do not have these values - Ok fine for them but not for me- I need a minute to figure out where a guy stands on all of this - that I guess is my testing ground seriously - I am prolly testing myself as much as anything - testing my own judgement of him as much as his intent to be a real friend I am really not interested in casual. In the best of all possible worlds everyone is honest and that is the thing of stories and fables.... If it works for you, great. However, if a guy tested me by putting me in the "friend zone" to see if I'd stick around and continue to be interested in him as more than friends, it would be a turn off.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 12/30/12 01:15 PM
I wouldnt think of that as testing. I would call that plain ol getting to know someone. I'm just going by the way she worded it, which is why it sounds like she's testing them.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 12/30/12 01:49 PM
I reckon I percieve the words differently. Maybe so. I just take them at face value.

mthom086 Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 76	Fri 01/04/13 12:36 AM Edited by mthom086 on Fri 01/04/13 12:37 AM
What did your friend mean by practical and grounded? I'm practical when I climb stuff, because if not I fall on the ground. And it hurts. But seriously, help me out, what does that mean? It's hard to explain. First off I am not very emotional at all, at least when people can see me. This is great during crisis because I am always the voice of reason. That very same quality is I think what he is talking about I tend to be the voice of reason on most things. I have a very if it isn't broke don't fix it attitude. According to my friend I can be hard to joke with when people first meet me because I am so logical and serious. Thanks for your honesty. I think you are right; in crisis those are great traits to have. In every day life though, your personality may come off as a lack of passion or even being boring. For me, I always ask myself am I fun to be with? Am I supportive? Do I listen? Do I come on too strong? those are things to think about. Fun people are very attractive to most. If you are not fun to be with; and with all that is going on it's kind of sad that so many say how bored they are all the time; then that would be attractive. you may want to try opening up more and be a little more outgoing.