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| Topic: Is it hard for a man to say No? | |
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Can I be perfectly honest with you?....  Seriously, I have experienced that when I do say "no" it not feels like I am the bad guy. The majority of women I say no to make me out to be that. Sure, it's due to hurting their feelings, but it also makes a man not want to be the "bad guy". Ugh! Decisions....decisions. If the majority make you out to be the bad guy, maybe you're not doing it right....Just thinking out loud here... |
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Can I be perfectly honest with you?.... Seriously, I have experienced that when I do say "no" it not feels like I am the bad guy. The majority of women I say no to make me out to be that. Sure, it's due to hurting their feelings, but it also makes a man not want to be the "bad guy". Ugh! Decisions....decisions. Aww. The poor wittle girls don't want their tender feelings hurt. [/sarc] Seriously, are you talking about grown women? |
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well, from my experience, if a guy really is not interested (..anymore) hes gonna say no without a problem. -.-
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or "sorry but I suffer from ED"
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I will have to let you know if/when a man ever says no to me :-)  
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I will have to let you know if/when a man ever says no to me :-) Well, I keep waiting to be asked. 
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I will have to let you know if/when a man ever says no to me :-) really they are righteous pests! |
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I will have to let you know if/when a man ever says no to me :-) really they are righteous pests! Who is a pest? |
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I will have to let you know if/when a man ever says no to me :-) really they are righteous pests! Who is a pest? they |
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Who are "they"?
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the pests
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the pests So, you refuse to explain your comment. Now, that is behaving like a pest. |
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Can I be perfectly honest with you?.... Seriously, I have experienced that when I do say "no" it not feels like I am the bad guy. The majority of women I say no to make me out to be that. Sure, it's due to hurting their feelings, but it also makes a man not want to be the "bad guy". Ugh! Decisions....decisions. If the majority make you out to be the bad guy, maybe you're not doing it right....Just thinking out loud here... That makes no sense. Sure, if I approached the situation by saying, "Yo biatch. We are through", then yeah....I need to learn more tact. But I don't do that. I simply try to find the best way to say no to them, and even with the honesty it doesn't go well. Face it. People (not just women) will say they can handle honesty, and there are those who can. But a lot simply can't deal with rejection. And that's where I am coming from. I'll admit that I don't like to hurt someone's feelings at all. Being honest means you sometimes will have that happen, and it sucks. And Dodo, a lot of grown women act like schoolgirls (just as a lot of grown men act like boys). I'm sure that happens on your planet too.
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Can I be perfectly honest with you?.... Seriously, I have experienced that when I do say "no" it not feels like I am the bad guy. The majority of women I say no to make me out to be that. Sure, it's due to hurting their feelings, but it also makes a man not want to be the "bad guy". Ugh! Decisions....decisions. If the majority make you out to be the bad guy, maybe you're not doing it right....Just thinking out loud here... That makes no sense. Sure, if I approached the situation by saying, "Yo biatch. We are through", then yeah....I need to learn more tact. But I don't do that. I simply try to find the best way to say no to them, and even with the honesty it doesn't go well. Face it. People (not just women) will say they can handle honesty, and there are those who can. But a lot simply can't deal with rejection. And that's where I am coming from. I'll admit that I don't like to hurt someone's feelings at all. Being honest means you sometimes will have that happen, and it sucks. And Dodo, a lot of grown women act like schoolgirls (just as a lot of grown men act like boys). I'm sure that happens on your planet too. Iwasn't acting like a schoolgirl - well maybe I was but it is because I refuse to answer his stupid questions. but I agree being honest is not the easiest. How we handle it can help - I mean you can be honest in a nice way. I always try that first.... |
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I agree. There is a thing called tact. Still, being honest "in the nicest way" does not guarantee it will go well. Fact is, people hate being told no. So, knowing this, when you tell someone that (even being nice, and honest) hurt feelings, emotions are gonna come up.
Why do you think a ton of break ups these days are done via texting? Simple...it's a means to (1) not having to be face to face with the person to deliver the bad news, (2) the one delivering the bad news doesn't have to respond to the other person's texts, (3) it's still being honest (albeit in a cowards way, but hey...most people will do that). Sure, the one who received the texts will be tons more hurt cause (1) he/she got the bad news, (2) it was in a text, and (3) IT WAS IN A FREAKING TEXT! Lol. Anyways, this topic was about men saying "no". And, while it isn't the easiest thing in the world to do, a man can do it. I would also like to point out that women are evil and tempting, and it's your fault when we say "yes".
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I always say its not you its me im not ready
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And Dodo, a lot of grown women act like schoolgirls (just as a lot of grown men act like boys). I'm sure that happens on your planet too. Well, where I am from, the school girls doubled as the school bullies. So, there really isn't any comparison . . . or is there? |
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I was trying to remember a guy telling me no....I don't think I have ever had to ask or have a situation that was uncertain with him. It always came down to me making the choice because he approached me.
Now in my relationships I have been told no to sex when I want it too often but that is the only time I can remember something close to no. 
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I always say its not you its me im not ready Need some viagra? How about a postvac? Blow job? 
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lmfao all thee above
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