This can be very hard as you dont really know the person at the other end. How many remain faithful or how can we be sure its not someone who just wants a greencard.

What do you think?

Long distance relationships can work as long as you don't expect that person to remain physically faithful.

I mean... I guess that they've worked out for some people. I'm talking about broad statistics here and recognizing likelihood.

i had a long distant relationship with my ex hubby way before we got married
and yes it was hard but yet we lived 400miles away from each other

when he would decide he wanted to live close to his mom

but he would come down on the weekends

we were together on and off for 2years before we got married
and it was actually a mistake

we got married soon after our son was born, and i think(pretty sure) that was the only reason

he cheated before during and after we got married and i put up with his crap

i kicked him out of the house 4differnt times and the 4th was the last


after 23yrs of being divorced. we still talk every now and then, hes got remarried about 21yrs ago.

the lady he was with while we were separated he cheated on her with his 2 wife( who he has been with for 21yrs)

and of course he has been talking about having a fling with me......HECK NO..



he hasent changed and never will

I'm sure it works for some but not for others..

Myself I want local only done did the LDR and did not like it...

I would suggest to stay away from those that are not within the states then there is no worrier of them only wanting a green card....

But if those are the women your seeking then I suggest you look out for the red flag and run at the first one...

A classic case of cheating once again. Sorry to hear

they seem to work for some. personally I don;t think they can work unless one or both people has the time and money to invest for considerable travel and one has to eventually relocate. And, that is why I generally avoid them.

what kinda irks me is some men on here... who get mad because I am not interested in jumping right into something long distance. to me that attitude is a red flag. so I'd say watch for that

if it is not a financial possibility to meet and do a lot of traveling, the reality is you are nothing more than online friends...which is fine....but some seem to think it is more than it is before even meeting in person. you have to meet in person in my opinion to know if there is anything there that will develop into a romantic connection.

@TxsGal3333

Yes one can meet someone and all of a sudden "ohhh I need money for whatever bull reason they come up with"


Like Pink Floyd says Run like Hell lol

@sweetestgirl11

Yes before making any comitement I agree to meet them. They may have to spend some money if they are serious.

My lover would at least have to live in my country. That means he could be english, welsh, irish, or scottish. We only have four kinds, here, but that is certainly enough to choose from.

three words...
DOES NOT WORK.

If you both have a mutual interest in one another, out of State can work out. A person can cheat while living in the same city.
Some couples even work out living in other countries should One be willing to Relocate.

Im not actually in any relationship besides chatting just starting up some chat. Many men and women use sites like this for improper use so we all have to watch out.

I suppose in some rare cases it may work if the 2 people join up at some point but how much time would one wait?

We are only human and need some kind of interaction so the faithful part comes in.

I have seen it work....

I have seen it fail....

It has worked for me....

it has failed for me....


oy vey....who knows!

Haha it has failed for mr....

Well, I have to say I prefer the long distance.
For 2 years we talked 7 times a day on the phone,
he flew half a continent twice to visit for a
week+ each time.
He moved to me in August of this year.
Could not have worked any better :-)

For me the distance was a barometer of the
intensity of the connection, it tells you
a lot that someone is willing to wait, just
for you, and do whatever it takes to
make it work.

We were both willing to move to the other,
that helped.
I have to highly recommend the long-distance
relationship :-)

i agree with that now

you got a rare one

sorry sweetie (ugggg)

ya know this whole site can crash cause of one little letter...

I am so happy I was a sause of entertanment....lol

therein lies the reality. a lot of people have trouble enough with expense of local phone calls and outings without adding on a lot of extra cost. it is a realistic consideration, not unsurmountable for those really wanting to go that route.. I just wish men would be more understanding when I tell them I am not interested in that....

Been there; done that; wouldn't waste my time even trying.