It takes two for things to happen for better or for worse but we all have to start somewhere even if it is just a hi how are you. Ladies you should give the guys a little respect for contacting you at least. Guys this goes for you to the ladies on here deserve just as much. I guess all i am saying is RESPECT goes a long ways.

Agree Mr.jeremyace

seems that should be stating the obvious doesn't it? Did someone disrespect u?

I answer all messages that are normal messages. I've made a couple of friends on here already. But then, I am not on here just for the forums.

I'll answer almost all the messages I get now (non sexual), other than maybe the ones that look like scammers, ya know the ones that spell worth a hill of beans, I can do a typo or 2 but when everyother word, even the simple one r mis-spelled.... eh

Heck, I even had a guy "wink" at me and then "kick me in the butt" and I still messaged him.... WTF?

What I hate is when a guy messages me and I can seem to engage him in a conversation at all! Its like pulling teeth to get more than a 1 or 2 word answer, that gets frustrating after a while.

kick him in the butt

I've heard women on another dating site saying that they get so many messages that they don't have the time to reply to all of them and that they don't reply when they aren't interested because if they do they can get a lot of abuse back from the guys saying that they were leading them on by replying and then saying that they aren't interested in dating them.

I answer and reply any messages I get and the type of replies I send depends on the type of approach I get. So if ladies just wana chat then thats fine too ewe are all here to make friends and get to know each other so its important to keep that in mind when contacting someone??? Thats just my opinion??? :)

At Klc u know if a guy comes out and says alot instead of just ''hi how are you'' that seems a bit too rude and his probly intruding??? I dnt know?? Just saying??

Sweet.... I told him he was supposed to pull my pigtail and then I was supposed to kick him.... lol

this is a good point because we also get a lot of mail from non locals and folks outside the US but generally I will chat or mail them back.

People can't complain when we don't answer and then complain if we DO answer but do not want to take it to the next level...

it can work both ways - that happens to women to - that not all the guys we talk to are planning to date us.

we redheads have a sense of humor!

When a guy contacts me and starts right out with "I love you, dear," then I ignore him to death. Sorry, but that doesn't get any respect from me.

I guess asking for your hand in marriage is out of the question.

I do tend to say little more than Hello and that I would like to exchange a few emails if they want to, and then thank them for at least reading my email. In the hope that I can send more information when and if they reply, there is some more about me in my profile for them to read if interested. The initial contact is always difficult in my opinion.

right I think keeping brevity as an art form in mind is a good way too start...if I get long detailed messages I assume they are cut & paste which is usually what they are............

Respect my Authoritah!!!!!

Oh ya? which authoritah is that?

I thought it was goof's delusion

But Torgo, I'm pretty sure you would only want the hand. . .