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Topic: It takes two for things to happen.
Toodygirl5's photo
Fri 12/07/12 02:46 PM

I've heard women on another dating site saying that they get so many messages that they don't have the time to reply to all of them and that they don't reply when they aren't interested because if they do they can get a lot of abuse back from the guys saying that they were leading them on by replying and then saying that they aren't interested in dating them.


This is very true, why many women do not answer messages. But I will answer and say Not interested we are not a match. Some sites have a auto reponse to use to say that to anyone that messages You. It would be nice to at least receive something in reply I would think. Many Men just look at photos. I had so many views a day from Men out of my age range. So I took down the main photo. Most men don't read profiles.laugh

MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 12/07/12 03:02 PM




Respect my Authoritah!!!!!


Oh ya? which authoritah is that? :wink:


I think its Cartmans.


I thought it was goof's delusion:tongue: laugh


Oh that makes perfect sense.

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Fri 12/07/12 03:30 PM



When a guy contacts me and starts right out with "I love you, dear," then I ignore him to death. Sorry, but that doesn't get any respect from me.


I guess asking for your hand in marriage is out of the question.

But Torgo, I'm pretty sure you would only want the hand. . .


Or a foot.

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Fri 12/07/12 03:34 PM
Edited by msharmony on Fri 12/07/12 03:37 PM

I've heard women on another dating site saying that they get so many messages that they don't have the time to reply to all of them and that they don't reply when they aren't interested because if they do they can get a lot of abuse back from the guys saying that they were leading them on by replying and then saying that they aren't interested in dating them.


exactly, you cant please everyone

these sites should carry an expectation that not everyone will respond to every message, and life should have taught the lesson that a no response is often times as good as a polite no thank you

its just more difficult to politely type 'no thank you' without inviting a discussion about reasons or invoking ill will


and there is the possibility that the receiver is frustrated or offended by something you typed in your message, however innocently it was meant, or perhaps stated in their profile a certain preference or mandate that your post seems to have overlooked,

and doesnt want to further engage you ( I use 'you' generally and not in reference to anyone specific)


and there is always the possibility that someone just forgot to respond before other messages came in or that they havent been checking their mails or in the forums for a bit

we tend to be too 'cyber' connected these days, expecting constant and instantaneous feedback which just isnt a realistic standard for most people with any life to live up to,,,,

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Fri 12/07/12 04:53 PM

It takes two for things to happen for better or for worse but we all have to start somewhere even if it is just a hi how are you. Ladies you should give the guys a little respect for contacting you at least. Guys this goes for you to the ladies on here deserve just as much. I guess all i am saying is RESPECT goes a long ways.


There is nothing wrong with a woman choosing not to reply to a private message sent by a complete stranger. A woman has a right to make that choice if she wants to. Whining about that choice shows disrespect for a woman's right to make that choice.

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