Hey,

I've been browsing profiles for men on here but maybe the same goes for women.

I just want to say, when your general "attention grabber" intro headline or bio just says "I'll fill it in later/bored/hey/etc", it doesn't say much about you or do much to make you stand out. It just seems like you really don't care, so why should anyone else?

Also not great to hint at relationship baggage and issues in these areas, where you are making your first impression. Saying things like looking for an honest person FOR ONCE, or prove me wrong and show me there is such a thing as a decent girl... this sort of thing comes across as kind of sad and off-putting as far as first impressions go.

Couple more things. First, if your profile says you are looking for dating or relationships, your username or profile blurb probably shouldn't say things like lets ****, looking for hot chicks, etc. If you are, change your profile to reflect that, otherwise again you come across as insulting or won't be taken seriously. Also be careful just saying "lets have fun" because its hard to know if you're expecting general fun or friends with bennies fun.

Guys, if you're going to post pictures of yourself, make sure there is at least one or two good, clear pictures of your face, reasonably close up, WITHOUT YOUR SUNGLASSES ON. What are you hiding?? We will wonder.

Lots of spelling errors make you sound less intelligent, proof read.

Just consider this... does your username come across as genuine or intriguing, or does it make you sound egotistical or womanizing? Think about how you're coming across, if you actually care about getting attention.

If not then go on and do whatever you want.

Hope this helps. Comment if you agree or disagree?

Great advice. You bring up some very good points here. Welcome.

Welcome to the site! I'm no expert in creating a dating profile that works but to me you seem to make a good argument.

Maybe one day I'll find a winning combo of an awesome username, headline, pictures and essay that will have them knocking down my doors. Okay, I'm being a bit sarcastic, not about what you wrote, just dating sites in general being that I haven't had a lot of luck with them. Just saying hi to someone your attracted to offline I think can be far more effective, plus they aren't halfway around the world. Your results may vary

How about "I leave snout prints on the bathroom mirror!"

I don't know if it matters that much. I reckon most of the women on these sites just look at whether you smoke, what you do for a living, your age and so on. Also your picture obviously.

I had lots of replies on the last site I was on without even having a picture and minimal information but hardly anybody will even talk to me on here.

I don't know if that's because of my profile, the messages I'm sending or what.

well...

your very pretty....

didnt tell me to much about you....

I'm not sure what to think is it because I am honest and put that I smoke ? I see that I am getting a few views but less nudges or messages is there something I could be doing different on my profile ?

Great advice, Saymarian!

Spelling mistakes really bug me, too, but I figured I was just being uptight, and actually, if the woman's pretty, I can put up with a lot of mistakes.

Yeah, smoking's a turn-off for some, but I'm betting the only reason you're not getting enough attention is because there aren't very many members who live around you. Actually, I don't know. I know I wouldn't like to date a woman who smokes, but lying about it won't make it any better.

Gotta remember some people are shy, so they won't open up to just anyone. They might want to talk, but figure you may not want to talk to them or share anything in common. I only date men who aren't into pretty women. As they have other traits that impress me, like intelligence. So yeah.

how about the guys that pose without shirts...not sure if that's a good or bad idea.