because their loved ones don't love them enough

But isn't this just cheating yourself even more?

Being tied to someone too cruel or selfish to love you back is a terrible situation to be in.

Being tied to that person and meeting someone who you think you want, and MAYBE wants you, but can't have you because you have not freed yourself to be loved respectfully and without limits seems like and even worse situation.

True DIVORCE is difficult and even/often punishing when you un-entangle yourself from a selfish person. The pain to children is high no doubt. But so is years of indoctrination in living in a loveless home.

And what price is your happiness and freedom to be loved like you so want worth? Cheating will not get you any closer to that. Someone who will cheat with you will cheat on you. Why set yourself up for only temporary comfort and long term magnified pain?

I think it is a misguided notion that is all they can get or deserve. Maybe some kind of self punishment if it goes on for long. At the moment I think it is escape. And often just temporary comfort. The risks are sure not worth the payoffs so I really never got it. Hope I never do. I have enough things to regret with out adding that to the list.

I don't cheat. I say goodbye. No mess.

'Keeps your heart healthy'

tears: : cheatin is just makin the situation worse

There are probably multiple reasons that anyone would cheat on someone they loved.

I agree with the poster that said if its bad enough to want to cheat just get out.

But then u have the guys (or girls im sure) That want to have their cake and eat it too!

My X SO is the perfect example. After a time of no sex, no affection, little conversation, atc. ( u can imagine my stress!) We would have fights and I would ask him "why r u here?" and he wouldnt have much of an answer other than I love u. Finally I would tell him, "look if ur that unhappy that u dont even want to b around me then just go"

After me finally just telling him to go (for other reasons) I discovered he had been on a dating site for the 6 months before we split.

Basically he wanted to live with me where I paid at least half the bills, cleaned up after him and his kid (picture coming home to overflowing ashtrays) and doing his laundry, while that left his days free to hang out on a dating site and Im guessing probably hook up with others....

Someone tell me why I didnt cheat? The only thing i can think is that im a little more loyal.... better morals maybe.... IDK

Why do women cheat? It's pretty obvious if you think about it. The man wasn't fulfilling their needs (and no not all sexual) so she decided that she needed to look elsewhere. It works both ways though, men cheat too. Actually, according to recent statistics, polls, whatever, men tend to be more likely to cheat.

Because in a femenist society where she gets to sell her melons for an upgrade in work or social status its easier to walk away from something then work on improving it.

Dont ponder too long on why they do it (from personal experience) its like fishing. Catch of the day depends on lures. "Cant turn a hoe in to a house wife" -2Pac but instead, look at the situation from a bring point of view.

In a world where you can upgrade to a loving caring woman, its a small price to pay for finding out who she really was (Thats the negative side of it)

Positive side of that situation= it is better that she cheated and left then cheated and stayed. If she continues to cheat and stays but you dont know about it, consider this next fact: "how much dick are you tasting while kissing her?" do you want to blow every guy she gave an oral report to in a 15 minute making session?

Until families start raising and educating their own kids (not public school, home schooling) women will remain as worthless as some of them are today. At the end of the day, she has to be so amazing that you want to cook her dinner after returning home from work, because she raises your kids and tends to the property while you are at work. {{but she beats you to it, puts the kids to bed, has a meal waiting for you, but only after "welcome home i missed you" spoken without words but well understood with an oral report.}}

You can build your perfect woman from what you want. Dont let Hollywood sell you an image of a "home maker" that is no more useful then a toaster for social life. You are created in an image and likeness of an all powerful GOD. Dont damn your life to the instructions and definitions of others, all you have to do is imagine it and look for it everywhere you go.

NEVER plan on having a significant other that does not make it an effort to stay productive. From lack of thing to do and abundance of idle time, the only thing a human body will want is to: SLEEP, EAT, ****, ****.
If it's a husband, he has to get a job or volunteer, if its a wife, she has to be raising kids at home, homeschooling (for that is her purpose as it is a mans purpose to provide for her and offspring)

When we as society misplace things and come up with "innovative" ways to live, we **** things up and then wonder why our life is the way it is. Everything has a time and a place under the sun and everyone has a purpose and a reason. Try a new approach, accountability. If there is none, dont waste your time if the person is not admitting their lack there of and willingness to change.

Insanity.

They were crazy about that guy.

Well said.

sex and variety

Fear

The same reasons men do.

The man wasn't fulfilling their needs.

You placed the blame on the man (or the other half). This is false and a dangerous thing to say. A cheating spouse may blame the other half, but it was their choice. There is nothing a spouse can do to make someone be loyal or make someone be a cheater.

True the husband (or wife) maybe a complete azz, but that doesn't cause someone to cheat.

And when someone blames their other half for there affair, they reveal more about there own problem then they realize.

Popping in to wish you a Merry Christmas John! Never forget people, it takes two to make a marriage and two to break a marriage...It's a partnership built upon love.....

Word.

I'm always pretty confounded by the belief that women and men are really that different in motivations.

Hummm well I have been in that situation where my ex cheated...Sorry to say yes it does take two to build a relationship but...........it only takes one to destroy it.......

Hikerjohn thanks for clarifying that putting the blame on the other is just so wrong. Put the blame where it should belong on the one that cheated.....

Everyone has a choice to walk away before they cheat on the one they are with....it is no harder walking away then it is to cheat... just more convenient to the one doing it.....

I suppose it's different for all of us, unique to all of us and cheating is never acceptable, but I think solid marriages are loyal marriages...My heart was broken when my ex husband cheated and hindsight being 20/20 I readily admit I missed a lot of signs and I did my share to contribute to the unrest within our marriage...I really believe when one steps outside their vows the reasons are never black and white...On an added note...If a person who is thinking about cheating just walks away, it ends any chance of working things out plus, how do you ever find closure?....