I've been on a few dating websites with absolutely no results unfortunately for me. I know for some of you, you have met your sweetheart this way and I applaud you for that. It just doesn't seem to work for me though. No one in my general area I live in seems to use these sites. I do get plenty of Russian and Nigerian emails but something just doesn't seem right about them. I'd love to love someone but it seems I've been there and done that and maybe love won't come back my way again. I leave open the possibility but life seems to want to **** you over. Am I alone in my assessment?

There are plenty of ways to meet people and if online dating doesn't seem to work for you, try hanging out on places where there's always a crowd..beach, concerts, sport events,weddings,funerals,baptismals,anniversaries,whatever, conversations comes easy in these set up, so more chances of meeting "the one"..but of course, you need to talk..(not type)..lol!.goodluck!
WELCOME!

Welcome to the site. Good luck to you here.

Think of it as social networking rather than dating.

Would you walk into a crowded room, stand on a chair, and yell "this doesn't work for me"?

This is just another way to meet people. I think some rely on it as being the only way to meet people, though, which I wouldn't do. Get out and enjoy life. Meet people in person as well. Just use this kind of site as an additional way to meet them.

I wrote a blog about this very same topic. Haha :) I think you're very wise to not solely rely on the internet to find your match. Sometimes you have to think where the type of person you would like to date goes. It helps I guess. I must say, it made for a very good read. Welcome and good luck :)

I think we are soulmates, inasmuch as your experience parallels mine, but I learned to give up on trying to find love, and keep the Internet, while others and many others as well give up the internet and keep on trying to find love.

I have neither of the best of both worlds.

I don't know why you avoid funerals. They are good parties. There are no loud drunks, no brawls over women or because you made someone spill his drink. Everyone is wearing his sunday best, both in clothing and in behaviour. Women look better in black than in white. Common knowledge. And everyone seems to be so happy and so releaved, there is a grin under the mask of sorrow on every face.

As for meeting people there to date... well, they are one notch better than family reunions. At funeral there is the odd surviving co-worker or philatelic club member of the dearly departed, so you are not forced to commit more than one sin in the biblical sense when you pick up chicks at funerals. Just you have to know what to do, when to make a move tastefully but irresistibly. Don't ask the lady out or try to mount her who is already lying there in the room. That's just not what you do.

My cousin kept saying on his trial, that our aunt never said "no", and he thought that leaving him ten grand in her will was a sign of come-on.

I don't think that anything wrong with. Girls look for something special but any self descriptions look so banal :(.

Yes it is hard to describe one in a profile, but when you post in forums or IM and e-mail you get to know people a little. Anyways that is what I am trying to do. You know talk to people.

Maerz, mein sherzendes Hertz, you are right,and that is the reason why people could use my patented, award-winning approach: Write anything you like in your profile, and people who read profiles will read between the lines and perhaps learn more about you than your straight-line description could inform them, and on the other hand if it's read by someone who doesn't read profiles, then he won't read it in the first place.

Can't argue with that but You are not trying to impress, just get to know. It changes a lot.

Well Wux, looks like you figured out where I hail from

But I have to disagree with you on your "patented approach" Why try to be someone you're not?

I much rather be upfront as much as possible, as reading between the lines can sometimes be erroneous, that is speaking from my own experience, and well lies don't make it very far.

By the way, I do enjoy your witty posts! You can be quite entertaining with your life stories and comments

I do see it that way. I've actually been on this site for years and decided to start fresh with a new profile. I enjoy Mingle as a social site and a way to connect with people even if I'll probably never meet them. Cheap therapy....

The internet is a decent substitute but love would be ideal

I know this site probably won't pair me up with my ideal partner and I'm long past that. I do find myself coming back for the interesting topics and to put my two cents in from time to time. The internet did assist in me finding a gal on MySpace when it was all the rage and we were together for a year so I know it can work. In person is definitely best

you are not alone, it's just not your LUCK this time. keep on believing, have faith love will find a way.

you made me laugh, lol!

i hate to say this on this (mostly) free site but,,,,, the dating sites that you must pay for actually gives you waaaayyy more chances of finding the right one, plus scammers and trolls dont,wont and usually cant pay for it.