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Topic: Conflict.........
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Sat 09/15/12 02:28 PM
How do you handle Conflict, confrontation, misunderstanding in your friendships/relationships??

Do you approach it head on?

Ignore?

Run and Hide?

Silent Treatment??

And.....Why??

Myself I prefer head on communication. Get it out...get it over with.
But thats just who I am!!!
I realize some people need a lil time to think things tru....and thats a good approach.....
But the whole run Hide and just be silent thingy is a real....
Turn off.
Just seems like......punishment to me!!!
Kinda....Childish!
JMO

What about....You?

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Sat 09/15/12 02:35 PM
It has to be head on..it's all out in the open and everyone knows where they stand. Once everythings been said, it's over and done with, no good bottling things up or holding grudges..life's to short.

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Sat 09/15/12 03:05 PM
Depends on the relationship. Someone I barely know online? I'll probably just ignore them. A close friend or relative? Talking about it in a non-confrontational way is the best. If you want to maintain the relationship, the silent treatment is never an option.

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Sat 09/15/12 03:09 PM
i useualy ignore it and try to avoid it as much as possible. i know deep down thats not fair to my relationship if i had one that is, lol. but serious i know it not right but i am always afraid if i give my opinion and speak up and they dont like it im left single like now and lonely like now so i just ignore. some is better than none, you might say no but you have not lived my hard miserable life.

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Sat 09/15/12 06:40 PM
headon is the way i do it,it drives me crazy if i dont get it off my chest.

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Sat 09/15/12 06:43 PM
:heart: drinker

How do you handle Conflict, confrontation, misunderstanding in your friendships/relationships??

Do you approach it head on?

Ignore?

Run and Hide?

Silent Treatment??

And.....Why??

Myself I prefer head on communication. Get it out...get it over with.
But thats just who I am!!!
I realize some people need a lil time to think things tru....and thats a good approach.....
But the whole run Hide and just be silent thingy is a real....
Turn off.
Just seems like......punishment to me!!!
Kinda....Childish!
JMO

What about....You?



when good friends disagree or someone had been offended I think a brief time to cool off and/or think about "stuff" is not a bad idea

feelings of those we love mean more than winning a point in my opinion

I usually do not become involved in confrontations - the rest ?? we talk about it - hugs and good beer also helps

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 09/15/12 06:56 PM
Usually approach it head on...Seems not all are so good at communicating their thoughts or feelings back though, so I'm at odds with the bother.

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 09/15/12 07:59 PM
Conflict & misunderstandings are inevitable. I am a gentle head on approach. If that is not heeded, it is lock horns and sort it! I can not bare to loose the love connection for a millisecond longer than necessary. Why waste precious time?

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Sat 09/15/12 09:07 PM

How do you handle Conflict, confrontation, misunderstanding in your friendships/relationships??

Do you approach it head on?

Ignore?

Run and Hide?

Silent Treatment??

And.....Why??

Myself I prefer head on communication. Get it out...get it over with.
But thats just who I am!!!
I realize some people need a lil time to think things tru....and thats a good approach.....
But the whole run Hide and just be silent thingy is a real....
Turn off.
Just seems like......punishment to me!!!
Kinda....Childish!
JMO

What about....You?



Dealing with and talking about the problem right away works best for me. The silent treatment is childish and can cause more problems. Ignoring it or running from the problem goes along with that as well.

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Sat 09/15/12 09:39 PM


How do you handle Conflict, confrontation, misunderstanding in your friendships/relationships??

Do you approach it head on?

Ignore?

Run and Hide?

Silent Treatment??

And.....Why??

Myself I prefer head on communication. Get it out...get it over with.
But thats just who I am!!!
I realize some people need a lil time to think things tru....and thats a good approach.....
But the whole run Hide and just be silent thingy is a real....
Turn off.
Just seems like......punishment to me!!!
Kinda....Childish!
JMO

What about....You?



Dealing with and talking about the problem right away works best for me. The silent treatment is childish and can cause more problems. Ignoring it or running from the problem goes along with that as well.



I agree with sing me sweet flowerforyou

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Sun 09/16/12 02:49 AM
Different people got diverse characters. I guess a proper understanding of your partner would here you know how to approach grey areas in your relationship. Headon doesnt work for everyone and may further escalate issues.

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Sun 09/16/12 02:57 AM
Edited by navygirl on Sun 09/16/12 02:57 AM
A friendship; I would handle it head on as friends are way more understanding than any man I have ever been in a relationship with. A relationship; I would try to handle it head on but would probably end up with one of us doing the silent treatment as I find men in relationships with me are way too emotional to try to talk to when they are upset.

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Sun 09/16/12 08:43 AM

Different people got diverse characters. I guess a proper understanding of your partner would here you know how to approach grey areas in your relationship. Headon doesnt work for everyone and may further escalate issues.


You could really say that for anything. In my opinion, the silent treatment/ignoring the problem doesn't work and could escalate issues.

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Sun 09/16/12 08:49 AM

Different people got diverse characters. I guess a proper understanding of your partner would here you know how to approach grey areas in your relationship. Headon doesnt work for everyone and may further escalate issues.


I totally agree

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Sun 09/16/12 08:51 AM
Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Sun 09/16/12 09:01 AM


Different people got diverse characters. I guess a proper understanding of your partner would here you know how to approach grey areas in your relationship. Headon doesnt work for everyone and may further escalate issues.


You could really say that for anything. In my opinion, the silent treatment/ignoring the problem doesn't work and could escalate issues.


well don't you think there's a (difference)- I mean a different option other than "head on" rush into a confrontation OR the "silent treatment?' I don;t think either is particularly effective. So in a way I basically agree with you both (you & Dan)

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Sun 09/16/12 08:51 AM
Personally I think giving the silent treatment is a window into the lack of character a person has because they show no respect at all for the person they are doing it too and could care less for their feelings.

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Sun 09/16/12 08:54 AM

A friendship; I would handle it head on as friends are way more understanding than any man I have ever been in a relationship with. A relationship; I would try to handle it head on but would probably end up with one of us doing the silent treatment as I find men in relationships with me are way too emotional to try to talk to when they are upset.


On the flip side of that coin... I'll be up front and honest about something, while in a relationship, and then just get told whatever they feel i want to hear?.... only to have the issue brought back up wayyyyyy down the line. Which i always found strange because i wouldn't be nasty about it... I'd just give my personal perspective and feelings on a situation, then just get told something to placate me.. :shrug: IDK

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Sun 09/16/12 08:55 AM

Conflict & misunderstandings are inevitable.
I am a gentle head on approach..

hahaha I keep seeing you doing a 'gentle' head butt :-)

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Sun 09/16/12 09:02 AM



Different people got diverse characters. I guess a proper understanding of your partner would here you know how to approach grey areas in your relationship. Headon doesnt work for everyone and may further escalate issues.


You could really say that for anything. In my opinion, the silent treatment/ignoring the problem doesn't work and could escalate issues.


well don't you think there's a difference between "head on" rush into a confrontation and the "silent treatment?' I don;t think either is particularly effective. So in a way I basically agree with you both (you & Dan)


When I think head on, I think discussing the problem and dealing with it pretty quickly, rather than stewing over it and becoming more angry/upset all the while ignoring the other person.

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Sun 09/16/12 09:03 AM
I think there's a difference between the silent treatment and taking a few moments, walk around the block, or even a solo drive in the country to think.

Once something is said it cannot be taken back - my years (ya, I'm old) have taught me that much as WORD

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