Do you feel that if you pull her aside and ask her what is wrong, that that would help or hinder the situation?

I think ...well, I don't know. In a way, i think it will make it worse, that it will get turned around on me, and I don't want that. I'm not really a confrontational kind of person. I will say what I think, most of the times, but as far as actually arguing with someone, I hate that. I will walk away or get really quiet.

Have you worked with this woman a long time? Has she ever done this to anyone before?

I've only worked with her since June. As far as I know, it's just me. There could be others, but I don't think there is.

Who is the new girl, you or her?

go away. deal with someone who is not in drama mode or whatever the problem is. life is too short to spend it with people that dont want to go there anyway.

I think we both started around the same time, but I work more hours, and more positions.



i try to stay away or move. When I see her coming, I just head a different direction. When I can't, I don't react to anything she says. but I was thinking if I was handling it all wrong? It seems when I don't say anything, it encourages her? Maybe not, i don't know

I usually tread with care until I find out more about their background and what it is that may have caused their stankiness,,,,lol

then I can empathize and nullify them with kindness..,..

It would depend on how they were 'voicing' their dislike of me.

Like you, I'm not confrontational but sometimes these types of people/bullies perceive no action as being weak and won't leave you alone. In those cases, I'm left with no other course of action and I have to meet it head on.

I definitely would not go out of my way to avoid her.

I would not avoid contact but I would ignore her unless she spoke to me. I would let it lie for awhile to see if anything comes to light, sometimes these things fizzle out as quick as they start, remember she has to work their to. Hope things improve soon but if it starts to become more noticeable to others, and possibley affecting your work, you will need to think about speaking to your boss in my opiniion.

I feel your pain. I have this problem now and I've had it before. And you confront it it can get worse and if you don't confront it, it gets worse or never goes away. 

I've done both with bad results. Just going to join you in feeling yucky. I just know I want to at least be able to do my job and possibly enjoy it and the environment I work in. 

Somehow ignoring or avoiding it doesn't seem right. And confronting it without compassion and respect for her isn't right either. I know ignoring it makes the other person uncomfortable to. They know something's is wrong but they are clueless to why. 

Love to here updates to the conflict and how it progresses. 

Sometimes, it isn’t about making a situation better/worse. It’s about knowing that you did something.

For me it would be about having someone have that much of a negative impact on my emotional well being and knowing that I did nothing to address it.

Doing something doesn’t always equate to happily ever after. It’s about knowing that you have done everything you can do regardless of a positive outcome.

I went back to your OP. you state that she obviously doesn't like you. Here is something I learned through some counseling I did during messy parts of my life. It's a real bad idea to assume another's persons feelings. She is clearly negative towards you but does she dislike you? Could it also be jealousy envy or hurt. Could she be dealing with rejection with someone you remind her of. And should you even care.

Maybe your good looks makes her feel inferior or your job performance makes her feel inadiquate.

Maybe try and detach yourself from the conflict and try an observe her as a project to see if she gives clues to what is her underlining emotion. Just a thought.

If this is happening at work and she makes comments loud enough for you to hear them every time you walk by her...sorry but I could not keep my mouth shut. I am the type of person that would walk up to someone and confront them and find out what their problem is. If I didn't do anything, then they need to cool it or if I did do something then they need to tell me what I did.
It seems like you are very uncomfortable around this person and go out of your way to avoid her? I think if you would give her a cold stare a few times...she might not be as tough as she thinks she is? I would just ask her if she had a problem with you and if so what is it?
Good Luck

Don't confront them at work, it will make it seem you have a problem. Talk to your boss in private.

Best I could do.

Throw rocks!

Sounds like you are better at your job and will end up being promoted away from or over her so I think I would just out live the *******.

Then if/when you have sufficent power return the favor in spades.

If she is getting away with this kind of aggregieous behavior with impunity she knows someone, or something on someone, or she would have already lost her job.

I think I would be aware of who and what before I fell on my own sword starting a battle with her. You might prevail but it will still hurt your upwardly mobile record.

Sorry you have to deal with this but just relish a couple of thoughts.
One; that "there is no punishment so painful as silence for a fool."
Two; If you starve a wolf long enough they loose their teeth.

Hang in there. Good Luck.

I just keep my distance and do not associate with them. Some people thrive on drama.

i usually laugh and be extra nice to them, then they'd get really angry that their dislike of me didn't effect the way they had hoped

Dude. Sing the Barney song. "I love you...you love me".....and they will either run away, or they will start speaking in tongues. Either way...you win.