Is it possible that I'm just not cut from relationship material?

I'm not talking about being promiscuous as opposed to being committed to one person. I'm not wild like that and I am a highly loyal person. It seems like no matter how much I care for a guy I feel a sort of weight on my shoulders when it comes to being IN a relationship. Like I have to be the grown up and deal with any issues that come up and they just get to be carefree and in love. Why do I feel like a parent when I'm in a relationship? It's happened to many times to be them... it's gotta be me.

Most people follow a trend in "falling" for the same type of people. Take some time to see the type of guys you have had in your life and see if there is a similarity.
Then...find someone different. Not all men are like that. There are women out there like that as well.
Good luck to you !

Maybe you just don't have enough fiber in your diet.........

"carefree and in love" have yu ever been able to experience this. I think I am picky and I don't fall in love with just anyone. Bt when I know I found a special person, I do let myself become carefree and in love. There is risk in everything without being wild and untamed and yet still allowing your heart to be a lil vulnerable at times. I not saying every guy that makes an offer or gesture, but when you find someone, let your heart go and enjoy the ride.

It's funny how they are all so disimilar in most ways except for this one thing. I wish I knew how to not attract them.

In the beginning but it never lasts long and even that is more like carefree and in "lust".

Do you think its because if you are carefree that you would lose control of your life?

Duh! You are dating the wrong guys for you. Go in another direction.

So...Change it.

The beauty of life and diversity is the ability to change, use it...Or don't, depends if you are happy or not.

Sounds like you're going for guys when you should be seeking men. There's a difference, trust me. From what I've learned of you here, you're not compatible with guys as far as relationships go, you're more suited for a man, a man that knows how to properly treat a lady.

I know what you are meaning. I get that when with the wrong person, when we are not a good complement to each other. Trust the burden. The right relationship will have a good flow to it. You need to be complemented/ equal on all levels.

Everything take time.So,everyone is not same and we have heart to feel what we want to feel.......may be love

I agree with the other posters. When you find someone, resist the urges to "parent them" Accept them for who they are, and if they are worthy of your nurturing, it will show in them returning the behaviors. It is very easy if you are a provider type personality to take the reigns and try to optimize their life to your satisfaction, but that may lead to them taking your efforts for granted, and repeating the cycle.
I too have found I tend to be a "rescuer" and it quickly slips into being resentful for affection not being returned.

its probally beacause those are the type of men that your attracted to, even if your not conciouss about it. Have you tried asking yourself why am i attracted to this person? Many people make the mistake of telling themselfs that they have logical reasons for being with someone. When you start falling for someone regardless of what you tell yourself it starts out with that person having qualities that make them attractive to you

IDK if I can be much help because I refuse to "parent" a boyfriend - even the ones who were younger than me. (and honestly I lost a couple of them as soon as they realized I was not going to support them financially- the scoundrels)

I also tend to keep things light particularly in the beginning. So maybe take more time before committing to a relationship and refuse to parent

it is not your responsibility alone to make a relationship work and your refusal to "parent" your boyfriend will quickly weed out the men who potentially will not live up to their end of things down the road.

we all have habits that we need to work on....join the club

thanks - besides I really do not want my boyfriend to associate me with his MOM - really.

So here is my question... if in fact those are the kind of guys I am attracted to then am I better off alone?

Here's the thing about me, I am VERY independent and I can't handle guys who try to take care of me. So are there really only 2 ways? I find a guy that I have to take care of or one who wants to take care of me?

I'm just a realist... I know life isn't all hearts and rainows

I am the same way as that I don't want guys taking care of me and I sure as hell don't want to be a babysitter for them. You need to find someone that will consider you as an equal and will treat you as such.

Can you clarify what kind of issues?

Myka!
I've been to the OC... I noticed the women are demanding as h@ll and the guys are so aloof, it drives us productive folks batty(I have a supplier in Huntington) It's Just the way it is I guess?