No, I don't think there are only two types of guys out there. Though, many assume they're supposed to take care of women. The kind you're looking for are just harder to find, I think. I prefer those guys as well.

You know I get where she is coming from. These are two extremes that I have also encountered. Its hard to find that balance where you just respect each other and can care for each other equally without making the other person feel like a child.

Well I for one have always thought U were one beatiful lady with so much class!! Who could ask for more?

shouldn't a man and a woman take care of each other? why do you resist a man's desire to take care of you?

- not in a "helpless" sense but more a sense of mutual appreciation, intellectual nourishment and moral support

Get a dog......problem solved.

:)

IMO. Your last sentence in your opening post is your answer.
Not implying yer insane or whatever.
Proffesional help might be the key to changing the type of person you attract/are attracted to.

No one is meant to roam the world alone.

I don't believe that for a moment.

I think she doesn't want this to be one sided. Perhaps if it were mutual; she might accept that but for her it seems to be one extreme to the other.

There an endless list of possibilities beyond just those 2 choices. Before you can "find the one", you must define the one you seek. When you encounter him, you'll find your match. Doesn't have to be a either-or thing. More like a grey area in between. Maybe somebody that has themself together and doesn't NEED to be taken care of, but does appreciate you trying to be supportive to them. Strike a balance, define your target and settle for nothing less.

This makes sense to me.

If both people are independent to start and the relationship has give and take then I can't see the problem.

I was standing on my feet a long time before the person I allowed to come into my life picked me. He said "I would like to do what I can to make your life better and I think you can make mine better as a great partner." Wasn't long before I was contributeing greatly to his over all happiness and career success even though he made almost ten times a month what I made supporting three people to his one. What I could not give in assets I gave in time and listening to him and helping him attain his goals.

Sometimes letting a person help where they are strong does not imply you are weak it may just mean you are strong in other areas.

Navy Girl you would be an excellent example of this. You can easily take care of your self but appear to be a loyal and dependable friend, contribute to the community, and already have contributed to the country and I would think most men would see that as a major attraction. Being able to give something to someone who has earned that benifit in life is often what men who have been involved with the spoiled ungrateful princesses of the world are looking for. they are not expecting undying gratitude but they don't really relish casting their pearls around the necks of swine.

hi navy

yes that is exactly what I am suggesting that it should not be one sided and that perhaps it might be useful for her to consider in what ways she could accept nurturing from a man - so that she is not doing all of the nurturing, and not rejecting men who do nurture - because that is a positive quality

- to the extent that she does not feel smothered. so keeping things light and taking it slow might be a way to build up a mutual rather than one sided caring pattern - that evolves gradually in ways that both she and her partner are comfortable with. I agree with whoever said that she just may not have met the right man yet

ah, forgive my dumbness. I think the heat fried my brain today.

Sometimes I live in denial.

Of course I speak only for myself with that statement; it wasn't directed at you personally.

I know, i was half agreeing with you and half living in denial. haha

I have a dog and I adore her :)

Thanks for your replies. I don't think I need professional help as one post suggested... I'm not crazy, just seems like I can't find someone who is on the same page as I am.