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Thanks for your replies. I don't think I need professional help as one post suggested... I'm not crazy, just seems like I can't find someone who is on the same page as I am. You don't have to be crazy to seek professional help, but if you don't feel that it's necessary that's OK. Don't think you have to be crazy or insane or anything to get help when needed though. We all need help from time to time and sometimes it's not such a bad idea to go to a professional, even if we are "normal" or "sane". Just saying, be open to it. Not that I think you need it or anything, that's your decision to make. |
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In my own view, it seems the issue with you is that you aren't able to put up with guys who are really able to steer the ship of a relationship! You actually love being in control :-) and it seems initially, you enjoy being the one 'taking care' of your men, and in the long run, the let you run the show :-) and this later puts the load on up shoulders :-)
If you meet a guy who seems capable of being with you on equal terms or being able to take the lead, why don't you allow him the chance and be the pampered baby for once? :-) It doesn't hurt you to allow the man take charge while you enjoy the relationship. I'm not asking you to simply let go of your life completely and hand over to some man :-) I simply ask that you give your men (the capable among them i mean) an opportunity to play a significant part in deciding how your relationship works :-) I'm not inferring that you're the bossy type :-) but maybe instead of taking decisions unilaterally, using the 'Do you think WE should.....?' kind of method could help you identify who is right for you :-) As for remaining alone, i wouldn't wish that on you :-) Life is sweeter with love :-) It is a simple fact of life whatever our past experiences of love may have been. Life itself is a gamble :-) and i'd better continue trying to meet that real love than sentence myself to perpetual bitter loneliness of a loveless life :-) Wish you all the best :-) |
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The control I seek is for my own life, not others. I do like things a certain way but am also very laid back when it comes to other people and what they like or do. It's hard to find a guy who is man enough to stand up to me but can also let me have my way sometimes too. I'm just looking for a happy medium and not finding it.
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The control I seek is for my own life, not others. I do like things a certain way but am also very laid back when it comes to other people and what they like or do. It's hard to find a guy who is man enough to stand up to me but can also let me have my way sometimes too. I'm just looking for a happy medium and not finding it. We have that problem in common. I agree with what you said. 
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Maybe you need much older guys.
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The control I seek is for my own life, not others. I do like things a certain way but am also very laid back when it comes to other people and what they like or do. It's hard to find a guy who is man enough to stand up to me but can also let me have my way sometimes too. I'm just looking for a happy medium and not finding it. |
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