i am a single my self it is hard for me so that why i got on this website so i can mingle and meet some lovly women by way my lil angel is 2 n i love her mo den ne thing n my life

aaahhhh...l'm moved ....did you know l can make tears big as an egg


..a sweet smile to you.... thank you very much

well, being a single dad is not an easy job but you manage it very well, you work hard for your children and still can find time to make your kids laugh or to be with them you are strong to being able to support your kids on your own and thats what made you awesome single dads! what makes you sad that can make your tears big as an egg?

Hi

I am a very sensitive man.. unfortunately this is a cruel world

hello..dont worry be happy..yes this world is cruel lets all be positive in life, let your kids be the reason to make you laugh

I agree I know I am 26 but all men want from me is sex it's like I deserve more than that and so do my kids I have three childrn it isn't easy but I have a 6 year old son who is autistic so it's even harder for me to find a man who would want to help with him. He has improved so much with all his skills it's amazing and I have a 5 year old and an almost 1 year old so yeah dating sucks!!! That's why I just want to find friends and people to talk to maybe one day I will get my cinderella story but I am a college studnt wanting to be a teacher I made goals for myself and I am proud of my life it sucks I haven't found anyone to share it with but it's better to be single than go through more heart breaks, kids have felings to and that's why I haven't had sex in 8 months I know it may be a shocker but really I am happy with just having my kids to wake up to everyday! :)

I am 25 years old and I have full custody of my 5 year old Daughter. I would say I don't date. Now I say I don't date because between my Daughter, my Job, and keeping my house clean I have no time. I wish I had time to find someone for me. I always think the the perfect girl for me is out there. I just need time to find her.

I raised two and didn't have time to date. It is a lonely route but you do get the most pure love in the world back.

Hang in there, maybe someone will walk into your life and give you time to date?

My daughter and my job is my life, someday I will have someone. :D

single dads are sexy,,,,,

hang in there, plenty of people out there that arent turned off at all by children, some even LOVE them

(unless they are brats, hard to love brats,,lol)

I dated this one woman once that had two kids and they were so bad "they destroyed stuff at this woman's house and she would just laugh" I had to break it off with her after I met her kid...

There is someone out there for everybody keep your head up you never know what could happen if you just give up wish you the best :) And congrads for being a good dad hugz

I also agree!

I was thinking about this thread after another one and I think it is only fair to add that as a Single Parent of eithr Gender it is a GOOD idea to try to put some time in your life for yourself.

I am not suggesting tying your kids ankles together and hanging them on a hook like a sack of taters (I am kidding people) but you can and really should set some time aside for relationships both what I would consider friends and at some point a love interest.

No I don't think jumping in the sack is a smart idea, even with protection, unless you really are seriously courting not just dateing. I don't think sex before marriage is mandatory but then I really doubt I would get into a marriage if I had not gotten really close if not actually made love. That whole concept comes down to your personal choice and faith beliefs. Thing is you can talk the talk but if you want your kids to walk the walk you have to also.

I am a big believer in first in time first in line. You have your life first only up tot he point you have a kid. Then your life takes anose dive and you end up in the single lane the next relationship has to earn equal footing.

That doesn't happen over night if it happens at all. Personally I think if you are serious about a real marriage that does has to happen or your spouse is kind of getting a raw deal. Sometimes you are lucky enough and offer enough in a relationship a partner will accept that if you are not oppressive about it but most people don't like feeling like a second class partner or family.

I think the trick to blending families is getting your kid's mind wrapped around the idea that you DO HAVE A RIGHT TO YOUR LIFE. just like you have to eat, sleep, and work ect having relationships do make you a well rounded person and if you teach your child that by example well all the better.

If your kids know who your friends are, at least a cival introduction from the start, short sweet mannerly you are going to get a vibe as to how they react. Kids are very instinctual. If my kids didn't like someone it carried a lot of weight with me and NEVER proved unwarranted. Probably because I was really picky who I picked as friends in the first place but I am sure a part of it is they loved me and wanted me happy and as much as I wanted them happy. AND becasue meeting Mom's friends, co workers, even customer's (I had a business and even traveled taking them) was not a big deal.

I think introduceing some one late in the game when it has been this big epic decsion "they are the one" is something akin to emotional suicide. How would you warm up to the idea that the most important person in your life left you out until everything was a done deal?

I don't know that it is all that different for Single custodial Dad's now as it used to be (when it was way more rare) and Thank God it isn't because I don't see kids fair any better or worse with effective parents of either gender but I do think dad's still lean toward thinking of a mate as a potential "parent" a lot more than just a mate. Even at my age I have guys say "oh I was attracted to you because you are such a great mom" and the first thing that pops in my head is well why don't ya just hire me as a nanny. It is kind of like are they marrying me or recruiteing a mother and will decide if we stay together later. Sorry guys I am not looking for a temporary deal here. You have to want me when the kids are gone too. So it is kind of dot your i's and cross your t's before we get to the kid's.

I do also think single dad's have a lot more intimidateing situations for women because more rarely are the existing women in their life going to be about relinquishing the "Mommy role" so not only are they having to come into their own as your lover but as the Mom. Biological Mom's, Grandparent's, and even established daycare providers are usually VERY attached to your kid and they are majorly territorial about a single Dad's kids. I have seen (step and oh how I hate that term) Mom's catch heat from pediatrician's, teacher's, and neighbors that step Dad's never run into. Step Dad's are heros and step mom's OMG you are the wicked witch no matter what.

And I don't think single Dad's always mean to sometimes they try to switch back to Dad role too fast in some areas and then hang on to the fun parts about being Mr. Mom and that causes a lot of heartburn.

Single women who have gotten stung a couple times dateing single dad's and they are going to be really leery.

As a Dad if you go into dateing with a nice over all view from the other side it can make it easier.

The idea of hooking up with other single parents is excellent Some of the single parent ing groups seem to have died out somewhat but it is pretty easy to to find other parents if all you do is post it on a couple community boards. Word of mouth it pretty much spreads like wild fire. And most hospitals, churches, recreation centers, and places like YWCA or even child support enforcement offices will refer people and give you a place to meet. Sometimes even give you free place to make coffee and have snacks. Many major metro places even sometimes offer daycare space. You get a group of people you take turns. For years my parent groups met on military bases and not all the parents were military by any means. I have almost always used Holiday Inn's for parenting conferences because of their kid's ammenities but now days many hotels have kid camps and places like Mcdonald's, Home Depot, and JoAnn's and Michel's craft's have kids classes that are a natural for single parent's to mingle after. I am not suggesting take starangers into your home but eventually you can get to know your few favorites and then trade off for parent's night out. Heck if you are only dateing once a month that is better than not lol.

It doesn't mean you don't deserve what everyone else does, someone who will be with you through thick and thin. I applaud all single fathers, mothers, and hell, grandparents out there raising these little angels on their own.

Just take your time, be a little more selective from now on, because, you have to remember, you're a package deal now, and know that there are more single parents out here than you realize, in the same situation, and are struggling through the dating pains just like you.

Great posts people! Thank you for the motivation. HAPPY NEW YEAR and I hope everyone's life (me too please) gets better than last year. However small, Lord please let it be...

Very well put even when there are two parents its not perfect sometimes one is just enough. Happy New Year!!!

I'm 27 single mother with 2 kids. Honestly for the first time when my exhusband leave our home 5 years ago, i feel my world collapse. Our problems begin when he start to took credit for 4 motorcyle. When its time for second payment, he use the motor for getting money from broker, he confuse how to pay the credit until my dad gave him a job in a bank. Again and again, he make a problem there. So he leave my house and he runaway. I have to face collector everyday for 2 years, until i give up and annouce him to police. Sometimes i cry when my kids get fever or need anything, cz they dont have a papa beside them. They feel ill, they feel sad, they feel joy just with me. Its really make me ill and traumatic about men. But then i realize, i have to move on and raise them, i have to prove that i can succeed raise my children though i'm single mother. Thank god my first kid always get first rank in class, and she often win a competition,such a paint and dance. And my last child she is very humble and funny.. I admire them, i love them so much. Being single parent not always bad,Just move on and keep cool and fighting:-)

I'm agree

It's only a problem to the kind of person that doesn't want children. At least you can have children naturally, as I can't, so count yourself lucky. Anywho, there ARE single women out there who wouldn't mind taking on someone else's kids. You will just have to see which one's are willing.