What is with people expecting others to make the first move? My philosophy is 'Just do it'. So what if you get burned or shot down, you will never know unless you take that risk? Do you make the first move when a special someone has caught your attention?

Im not being sexist n I knw this may sound it but most women wait n expect guys to make the first move lol n becoz of that some guys get nervous n overconfident n say silly things n blow thier chance lol

I think it depends on how you are brought up as well, I have found that Australians and people from NZ don't tend to be as careful of what we say, maybe because we can speak freely without others judging us, or maybe that we just dont care if nobody agrees with us or doesnt like us.

It's probably the same way we tackle a relationship, just have a go and see what happens, if it doesnt work then no worries we havent lost anything,
But not everyone tackles the world that way.

Others tend to tread carefully and test the waters first.

Hmmmm could be why I have made so many mistakes

I used to. I'd tell someone straight up if I was interested in getting to know them better or going out with them. Now I wouldn't, but, yeah, I used to be very straightforward about my feelings.

Josie I think it is because kiwis and aussies dont put much stock in what others say and think of us. We have that edge also that you either hate or love.

it hurts every time a beard says no.
D':

I dont ming rejection. That life right?

The right one will 'get you'.

Agree with you there. It is all about your attitude to life. There are mountain top and valley experiences. You cant have one without the other.

This is a paradox for me, due to what I call the goofiness factor. If a woman approaches me, I can size them up pretty quick, in fact all my LTRs were with women who approached me. However, if a woman attracts me enough to approach her (outside of the one night thing), I get goofy in the head and my crazy meter doesn't work as well.

I have made the first move and am fine doing that. Though, I am not into guys who don't have th confidence to do so as well.

I don't, I try and drop hints if needed, if they don't pick up on my cues than they are either not interested or dumb.

I think if a guy is truly interested, he will say something. I used to think otherwise. But, if a guy is really into you, he'll make a move. If he doesn't, he's not that interested.

That would be nice, but I don't think it's always the case. Several times, I've seen men in the forums say they don't make the first move... For whatever reason they have.

Some guys are shy even if they are interested. That's why it is good to let them know you are interested as well. You can tell if a guy is flirting. He could be testing the waters though and fear rejection.

I agree with Singmesweet. A LOT of men have been hurt and they have lost confidence in themselves or whatever. Also some do not like the possibility of being rejected.

Yeah, I've heard that from them. I'm not buying it.

Yeah, I get testing the waters. That's normal. We all do that. But, of you respond positively and they do nothing, they're just flirting in the forums. Which is fine. Its all good.

Meh, their loss.

Absolutely.