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I get what you're saying, but what about the people who go years being single? like me? well, i don't dwell on it. it will (either) change (or not) when the time is right. trying to force it will only lead to mistakes and/or settling. i am not willing to accept either. Ditto, I have been divorced for 21 years... Sure I have dated in that time and a few long relationships. But through it all I have only had one live me that lasted 3 months and one 6 months lmao. Seems the ones that lived with me were the shortest ones... Even though in that time I have not found the so called one that fits me, I will not give up. Even though I don't really try to find one either. I feel that if it happens it happens........ |
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I believe the longer you live a single life, the longer you become adjusted and like it that way.
There are exceptions though. You just don't know them until you live them. |
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I want the one in the middle. The one on the left is all mine. :P The middle one is all MINE. |
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After reading some comments by some people, I've gotten curious about something. After so long, and so many dates/relationships, I see so many people that say they want something real or that they are looking for the one who's right for them. Is there a point, where some people give up? Where you think it's not going to happen? Yes. |
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I've been single most of my life. Wouldn't say I'd given up, but I'm a realist. Do I think 'IT's' gonna happen? Probably not in this lifetime but ya never know!
  They say IT happens when you least expect it so I have no expectations whatsoever. I'm not a flavor of the month and I'm definitely an acquired taste, so if IT does happen, it'll be a dang miracle! For now I just keep doing my own thing... you know what they say... "what will be, will be". 
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I want the one in the middle. The one on the left is all mine. :P The middle one is all MINE. You have chosen, wisely. |
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I'm a libra, we are wise ones. :P
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Thinking about this thread and have to admit I just have not tried that hard. If you are busy living your life and it isn't that bad over all it is not a big motivation to go out of your way to make the time and effort it takes to sift through the chaff to meet someone.
I have enough means I could live independently permenently and friends I can enjoy most things I want to do with them if it is necessary. I like how I live so not that eager to go through the agony of re-arangeing to co habitate. Even for Mr. Makes my teeth sweat I still miss my own bed and knowing where the toilet paper is in the dark. I would rather pull my own teeth than go through the "first date " process where you have to hear all about the Ex's, and get the rude questions about have you ever done half the stupid stuff you wouldn't do anyway but evidently a lot of people do. You hear a few war stories or have a couple of "close calls" you kind of avoid anyone who seems flakey even if you don't know they are for sure. Researching someone is harder in someways and easier in others. And with the computer/cell phones/disposable income so much can go on on the sly it is kind of dishearting. Not to mention health issues. If you are up against a round of the Big C, car accidents, and God forbid a sick kid, or grand, or parent it is kind of hard to focus on something as "fluffy" as dating. I don't know how many people have actually had a "person of interest" die that kind of discourages the interest. . |
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no, there are many 'right ones' for each of us; even though we don't always meet them at the correct time. time is a fickle thing, but as with most other things, it gives us what we need. unfortunately most people are fixated on wants. Well said KC |
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Edited by
Simonedemidova
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Tue 08/14/12 10:13 PM
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Thinking about this thread and have to admit I just have not tried that hard. If you are busy living your life and it isn't that bad over all it is not a big motivation to go out of your way to make the time and effort it takes to sift through the chaff to meet someone. I have enough means I could live independently permenently and friends I can enjoy most things I want to do with them if it is necessary. I like how I live so not that eager to go through the agony of re-arangeing to co habitate. Even for Mr. Makes my teeth sweat I still miss my own bed and knowing where the toilet paper is in the dark. I would rather pull my own teeth than go through the "first date " process where you have to hear all about the Ex's, and get the rude questions about have you ever done half the stupid stuff you wouldn't do anyway but evidently a lot of people do. You hear a few war stories or have a couple of "close calls" you kind of avoid anyone who seems flakey even if you don't know they are for sure. Researching someone is harder in someways and easier in others. And with the computer/cell phones/disposable income so much can go on on the sly it is kind of dishearting. Not to mention health issues. If you are up against a round of the Big C, car accidents, and God forbid a sick kid, or grand, or parent it is kind of hard to focus on something as "fluffy" as dating. I don't know how many people have actually had a "person of interest" die that kind of discourages the interest. . I agree with all that. I'm comfortable with my lifestyle as well in many aspects. I do not think I need that other half to survive financially or emotionally. Do I want it though, of course. I don't go around looking but when opportunities arise I always give them a chance. One guy I dated had a stroke and I found out it was his second one in the past year. I left him after that not to be mean but if I am going to be committed I want that relationship growth to last and not have one foot in the grave. I always keep the door open to opportunities and let the cards fall where they may. It's not say its a need but a natural human desire, I would say so. Some just become comfortably numb and just can not feel that desire any longer, but it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. It's called being paralyzed. It's there, you just can't feel it. |
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After reading some comments by some people, I've gotten curious about something. After so long, and so many dates/relationships, I see so many people that say they want something real or that they are looking for the one who's right for them. Is there a point, where some people give up? Where you think it's not going to happen? Yes; I have given up too. I have been single all my life so why change it. Its not like I am missing out on living a wonderful life doing things solo. |
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When you meet the right one, you'll know. At that point nothing else will matter.
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Yes; I have given up too. I have been single all my life so why change it. Its not like I am missing out on living a wonderful life doing things solo. Ditto. Except for the "single all my life" part. |
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I saw this quote and had to share.
"Relationships are like garage sales. From a distance it looks like it good be interesting but up close its just a ton of sh_t you don't need.
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When you meet the right one, you'll know. At that point nothing else will matter. True. However, there comes a point when some things are no longer possible. |
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I'm young, so I can't see myself giving up anytime soon. If it happens for me, it will happen. I can't force it.
I don't really understand why anyone would give up, though. |
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I'm young, so I can't see myself giving up anytime soon. If it happens for me, it will happen. I can't force it. I don't really understand why anyone would give up, though. I think you hit a certain age when you know you are just spinning your wheels and you have just had enough. |
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I'm young, so I can't see myself giving up anytime soon. If it happens for me, it will happen. I can't force it. I don't really understand why anyone would give up, though. I think you hit a certain age when you know you are just spinning your wheels and you have just had enough. Yep. |
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I saw this quote and had to share. "Relationships are like garage sales. From a distance it looks like it good be interesting but up close its just a ton of sh_t you don't need.
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I'm young, so I can't see myself giving up anytime soon. If it happens for me, it will happen. I can't force it. I don't really understand why anyone would give up, though. YES!  Never give up on love. Even with a nasty divorce, I refuse to give.There is someone special for each of us.....
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