After reading some comments by some people, I've gotten curious about something. After so long, and so many dates/relationships, I see so many people that say they want something real or that they are looking for the one who's right for them. Is there a point, where some people give up? Where you think it's not going to happen?

Yes mamm and I have reached it!
But thats ok..I am good with it.

I have also given up. I like several people as friends but have yet to strike "gold." I've been alone, except for my kids, for the last 28 years. I guess I forgot how to flirt and pick up a woman I care for. Such is life.

no, there are many 'right ones' for each of us; even though we don't always meet them at the correct time.

time is a fickle thing, but as with most other things, it gives us what we need. unfortunately most people are fixated on wants.

"Something real" is a meaningless phrase unless it is defined.

I get what you're saying, but what about the people who go years being single?

I don't think I have given up but sometimes I do get tired of the effort.

I have seen so many nice people and distance or small things seem to keep "it" from happening and I wonder why? Sometimes I know of course; family obligations or not enough in common. Sad to say sometimes it is money or distance that seems to keep us from nurtureing a relationship or the person I am just doesn't match enough of who they are.

I think I am a nice person and I know I made someone really happy and probably will again but it does get a little discourageing sometimes. I know all this heat sure seems to wilt the energy out of me. Maybe if I am lucky it will keep me on this silly computer enough to trip over them or them me.

I want the one in the middle.

like me?
well, i don't dwell on it. it will (either) change (or not) when the time is right. trying to force it will only lead to mistakes and/or settling. i am not willing to accept either.

I didn't mean you personally. I understand what you're saying. The reason I asked about people who go years is because of a conversation I had with someone at work, who says he's been single for a few years now.

no, no...i was just giving an example from personal experience.

I admit I am a lot more pessimistic about it these days than I used to be, and have more reservations than hope sometimes it seems, but I still believe anything is possible.

So, just out of personal curiousity, you two above me, do you think that sometimes people say they won't settle, but that sometimes it's just fear?

I've been single for 17 years, no girlfriend , and that's the way I like it .

yes!

How come?

Fear of what... settling?

I don't buy into that honestly. You either want a relationship or you don't. All that fear of commitment, settling or intimacy or similar mumbo jumbo is just lame excuses 99% of the time.

If you are really looking for something, then you should be open to it and not ducking like Mormons in an adult theater. Obviously you are searching for a connection with someone special, but if you find one, it's pretty ridiculous to then start throwing excuses out why you can follow through.

The one on the left is all mine.

I just have no time to meet more women but sometimes I like to spend a weekend alone ;)

Hmmm what i believe is there is no right one etc because no one is perfect most couples etc will have similar interests n its about give n take mutual respect too thats how ppl can accept the others imperfections if u like, but ppl wont do that because of fear n dont settle down i was gona say more but i forgot wat i was gonna say blank moment all thanks to a text message lol