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Edited by
josie68
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navygirl...Great that you receive so much respect. (On and off duty.)...My husband was Asst. Fire Chief when the very first female firefighter entered his crew... Most of the male firefighters handled it well but a couple of guys had to be "set straight" a few times...Does the navy teach classes about "male and female relations" and sexual harrassment etc.? Actually; yes the Navy gives courses on being politically correct and what is considered sexual harassment. Fortunately; the men I served with were smart enough to know how to treat me with respect before these classes were ever introduced. Fact is I was there boss at times so calling me sweetie and honey wouldn't have been acceptable. Well; overall its not in our culture to address women with honey or sweetie, so I would say no these guys would not slip back to that. We are taught to address people by their names or titles and not in a familiar way. I don't know many Canadians that would call a complete stranger honey or sweetie and for sure they would not address their boss that way. I do agree it can be interesting when different cultures meet up and try to relate. It is funny, when the American Army or Navy arrives here as when they open a door or anything they use the word mam  it always makes us laugh as it sounds like they think we are an old woman. Yes Mam, it is just so strange for us. We like it though as they always seem so polite and helpful.
I manage a motel and am in charge, and everyone still calls me love honey gorgeous sweety, darlin, my love or a pain in the butt. But definately not by ,my name, even the people I employ. 
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As a kid I knew I was in "trouble" if my parents (or other relatives) called me by my "full" name. (My first and middle name together.) How about you? Yep if she'd chuck my middle name in I was really gonna cop it. |
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Edited by
josie68
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Tue 08/21/12 01:49 PM
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One name that almost got my hubby in trouble was calling me SHE
I would be standing right next to him and he would say, she did this or she did something else  like I wasnt standing right next to him.
Now here it is sort of insulting for someone to use she on you when you are there, it's like they cant be bothered, using your name, or whatever name you are called by. My Mum almost throtled him when he used she to talk about something she did at the table. If the evil eye could kill, he would be dead
Example, "She would like a drink" BAD "Josie would like a drink"" Good 
simple but that is a little offensive here. From the time you are little you are told, "She's a cats mother" Not sure why it's a cats mother but it's definately bad to use it on someone when you are talking about them when there there,
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navygirl...Great that you receive so much respect. (On and off duty.)...My husband was Asst. Fire Chief when the very first female firefighter entered his crew... Most of the male firefighters handled it well but a couple of guys had to be "set straight" a few times...Does the navy teach classes about "male and female relations" and sexual harrassment etc.? Actually; yes the Navy gives courses on being politically correct and what is considered sexual harassment. Fortunately; the men I served with were smart enough to know how to treat me with respect before these classes were ever introduced. Fact is I was there boss at times so calling me sweetie and honey wouldn't have been acceptable. Well; overall its not in our culture to address women with honey or sweetie, so I would say no these guys would not slip back to that. We are taught to address people by their names or titles and not in a familiar way. I don't know many Canadians that would call a complete stranger honey or sweetie and for sure they would not address their boss that way. I do agree it can be interesting when different cultures meet up and try to relate. It is funny, when the American Army or Navy arrives here as when they open a door or anything they use the word mam it always makes us laugh as it sounds like they think we are an old woman. Yes Mam, it is just so strange for us. We like it though as they always seem so polite and helpful.
I manage a motel and am in charge, and everyone still calls me love honey gorgeous sweety, darlin, my love or a pain in the butt. But definately not by ,my name, even the people I employ.
I always think ma'am sounds strange when someone's talking to me, too, because it does seem like a term for an older woman. 
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Edited by
navygirl
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Tue 08/21/12 01:58 PM
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navygirl...Great that you receive so much respect. (On and off duty.)...My husband was Asst. Fire Chief when the very first female firefighter entered his crew... Most of the male firefighters handled it well but a couple of guys had to be "set straight" a few times...Does the navy teach classes about "male and female relations" and sexual harrassment etc.? Actually; yes the Navy gives courses on being politically correct and what is considered sexual harassment. Fortunately; the men I served with were smart enough to know how to treat me with respect before these classes were ever introduced. Fact is I was there boss at times so calling me sweetie and honey wouldn't have been acceptable. Well; overall its not in our culture to address women with honey or sweetie, so I would say no these guys would not slip back to that. We are taught to address people by their names or titles and not in a familiar way. I don't know many Canadians that would call a complete stranger honey or sweetie and for sure they would not address their boss that way. I do agree it can be interesting when different cultures meet up and try to relate. It is funny, when the American Army or Navy arrives here as when they open a door or anything they use the word mam it always makes us laugh as it sounds like they think we are an old woman. Yes Mam, it is just so strange for us. We like it though as they always seem so polite and helpful.
I manage a motel and am in charge, and everyone still calls me love honey gorgeous sweety, darlin, my love or a pain in the butt. But definately not by ,my name, even the people I employ.
The military is taught to always address women as Mam and men as Sir regardless of age as it is a sign of respect. These are also considered general terms rather than a personal one like sweetie or honey. |
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Edited by
josie68
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Tue 08/21/12 01:59 PM
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navygirl...Great that you receive so much respect. (On and off duty.)...My husband was Asst. Fire Chief when the very first female firefighter entered his crew... Most of the male firefighters handled it well but a couple of guys had to be "set straight" a few times...Does the navy teach classes about "male and female relations" and sexual harrassment etc.? Actually; yes the Navy gives courses on being politically correct and what is considered sexual harassment. Fortunately; the men I served with were smart enough to know how to treat me with respect before these classes were ever introduced. Fact is I was there boss at times so calling me sweetie and honey wouldn't have been acceptable. Well; overall its not in our culture to address women with honey or sweetie, so I would say no these guys would not slip back to that. We are taught to address people by their names or titles and not in a familiar way. I don't know many Canadians that would call a complete stranger honey or sweetie and for sure they would not address their boss that way. I do agree it can be interesting when different cultures meet up and try to relate. It is funny, when the American Army or Navy arrives here as when they open a door or anything they use the word mam it always makes us laugh as it sounds like they think we are an old woman. Yes Mam, it is just so strange for us. We like it though as they always seem so polite and helpful.
I manage a motel and am in charge, and everyone still calls me love honey gorgeous sweety, darlin, my love or a pain in the butt. But definately not by ,my name, even the people I employ.
The military is taught to always address women as Mam and men as Sir regardless of age as it is a sign of respect. I know, we have a huge amount come through here, and my daughter likes to follow them in the supermarket to listen to their accent and try and get them to call her mam. Obviously there is not a lot of entertainment here
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It's very true what Josie says.. The Aussies like to take a name and jazza it up a bit so that if you go by the name of Darren, you'll soon know you're in the presence of Aussieism when you hear Dazza...or if your name is Barry..it becomes Bazza. Sharon becomes Shazza, Warren becomes Wazza, and so on and so forth. IF, though you happen to be a redhead...then it's just Bluey. Where that came from i have no idea, but ya just go with it. The term "mate" is used as frequently as one blinks...even when they're pissed off with you. Ha!..you know it's not going to end well when an Aussie says Maaaate. :-) I would fit in good there haha. We all have nicknames in our circle... Slut, funky bunch, minachs, crystaloca....whatever your name is you can lose that when you walk through the doors hahaha 
haha...with a name like slut, you'd fit in anywhere hahaha Oh that's not my nickname, it's my gf, but we all have one....we never use our real names,
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Edited by
GreenEyes48
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Tue 08/21/12 03:27 PM
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One name that almost got my hubby in trouble was calling me SHE
I would be standing right next to him and he would say, she did this or she did something else like I wasnt standing right next to him.
Now here it is sort of insulting for someone to use she on you when you are there, it's like they cant be bothered, using your name, or whatever name you are called by. My Mum almost throtled him when he used she to talk about something she did at the table. If the evil eye could kill, he would be dead
Example, "She would like a drink" BAD "Josie would like a drink"" Good
simple but that is a little offensive here. From the time you are little you are told, "She's a cats mother" Not sure why it's a cats mother but it's definately bad to use it on someone when you are talking about them when there there,
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I never hear the term "ma'am" used where I live. (Well maybe once in awhile by a stranger who ventures into town.)...Of course I live in the west. And this is suppose to be the land of "eternal youth!"...So it would probably be in bad taste to use a term (or name) that might make some people feel old!
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I think Yellow Rose said it earlier and I gotta agree....Terms of endearment are simply a part of the vocabulary. They don't actually mean anything personal unless we actually like you. It is no different than saying "Ma'am", "Sir", "Mr." or "Mrs."
Just cause we say "Sugar"....don't mean you are sweet. Just cause we say "Honey"....don't mean you are sweet. We are just giving everyone else the benefit of the doubt. It's up to ya'll to prove us wrong by being a b*tch. :) (Just trying to translate "southern" for all you foreign Cats and Dolls....yer welcome) |
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I think Yellow Rose said it earlier and I gotta agree....Terms of endearment are simply a part of the vocabulary. They don't actually mean anything personal unless we actually like you. It is no different than saying "Ma'am", "Sir", "Mr." or "Mrs." Just cause we say "Sugar"....don't mean you are sweet. Just cause we say "Honey"....don't mean you are sweet. We are just giving everyone else the benefit of the doubt. It's up to ya'll to prove us wrong by being a b*tch. :) (Just trying to translate "southern" for all you foreign Cats and Dolls....yer welcome) |
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I think Yellow Rose said it earlier and I gotta agree....Terms of endearment are simply a part of the vocabulary. They don't actually mean anything personal unless we actually like you. It is no different than saying "Ma'am", "Sir", "Mr." or "Mrs." Just cause we say "Sugar"....don't mean you are sweet. Just cause we say "Honey"....don't mean you are sweet. We are just giving everyone else the benefit of the doubt. It's up to ya'll to prove us wrong by being a b*tch. :) (Just trying to translate "southern" for all you foreign Cats and Dolls....yer welcome) No No No don't thank him, it's just normal, so just keep chatting |
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Josie...Thanks to you too! It's all been interesting!..A lot of couples run into problems because they don't take the time to understand each other's culture. (And "ways" and "norms" and expectations etc.)...People can grow-up as next door neighbors and still have some "differences."...Anyway it sounds like you have a great sense of humor! This helps! Don't you think?...I try to stay away from people who "freak-out" over every little thing. "Differences" are bound to come up...Everything doesn't have to be "do or die" or "life and death!"
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I have always dated older men. The one that gets me is when a boyfriend calls me "Kiddo". I am used to it because most people could not guess my age until recently but when someone you are sleeping with calls you "Kiddo", it's a little creepy.
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Not sure what the big deal is really.
I just love a southern gal calling me suga or hun. I don't take it as her trying to get to the johnny sausage. It's just a warm greeting that makes people/me feel comfortable and welcomed. I dig it! 
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well, where am from we mostly use names like mummy for your woman and daddy for your man.. You hear names like, my tom tom, my pumpkin, my choco milo, my tomato joss, eggovin yoyo, etc. Lol..
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I think Yellow Rose said it earlier and I gotta agree....Terms of endearment are simply a part of the vocabulary. They don't actually mean anything personal unless we actually like you. It is no different than saying "Ma'am", "Sir", "Mr." or "Mrs." Just cause we say "Sugar"....don't mean you are sweet. Just cause we say "Honey"....don't mean you are sweet. We are just giving everyone else the benefit of the doubt. It's up to ya'll to prove us wrong by being a b*tch. :) (Just trying to translate "southern" for all you foreign Cats and Dolls....yer welcome) Translate "Yankee" for me then, Krupa. Seemed to me it was not used in a friendly way. And no BS, because no Southerner who comes to the North is ever addressed as Southerner or Dixie or whatever. |
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I have always dated older men. The one that gets me is when a boyfriend calls me "Kiddo". I am used to it because most people could not guess my age until recently but when someone you are sleeping with calls you "Kiddo", it's a little creepy. |
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