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Good grief. If a woman gets upset or offended by being called "Honey" it probably says alot about there personality. I would imagine any that make a big deal out of it is called something a little different after they walk away....... 
Oh, I don't get offended. It just makes those people sound cheesy and fake. If they're ok with they, so am I. Yeah; I feel pretty much the same way about it being cheesy and fake. I am not likely to even give that a person a second thought and would likely just walk away from them. It may be acceptable in some cultures where as others would find it offensive. I think one should get to know a person before using these terms. Its called respect. I also agree with the other comment that we have the right to decide what we want to be called. |
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I think we all have the right to decide what we want to be "called." Some names and terms may not "fit us."...One red-headed man might enjoy being called "Red." (By family and friends.) But another man with red hair might not want to be called "Red."...Some women may love being called "honey" and "sweetie" etc. But other women may have different preferences. Exactly. If I hear something that I find unflattering, I say please don't call me that. Mostly anything sweet is okay, I like made up silliness names too. Those are fun and personality filled names.... |
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Basically everyone I know just calls me by my first name too. I've never lived in an area where women are called "sweetie" or "honey" or other terms like this. (On a routine basis.)...So it's just not normal for me. And it does make me feel a little uncomfortable and even nervous at times...I grew-up and still live out in the West. (In "melting pot" type of areas.)...Even when I was a kid (way back in the 50's and 60's) I didn't hear terms of endearment used very often. Women were always addressed by their first names. (Or called "Mrs. so and so" back in the old days.) ...I don't think one culture is necessarily better or superior (or inferior) to other cultures...It's not about who is supposedly "right" or who is supposedly "wrong." It's about what we've become "used to" and what seems "foreign" to us based on our culture and background. (And "neck" of the "woods!")
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around here, it's almost cultural. Honey and sweetie are basically part of the language. Not everyone uses it or is ok with it, but I think they are a small minority. It's just cultural here just like saying ain't and fixin to.
Strangers say these things a lot around here. I think nothing of it and say it myself. Most people that don't like it, usually aren't from around here and they aren't used to it. But it's part of the culture. I do think it's more prevalent in the South Now if someone said it in a flippant way, then that is different. it's basically an insult and condescending. Or if someone calls me something more personal (like including body parts or something), that is different too. The hon, honey, sweetie, sweet heart, etc is almost expected here. |
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On the west coast, you don't really hear a lot of Darling' sweetie, or Hun. If you are in Marriage it is more heard of but not so much just random or even at a restuarant they don't say, what can I get you Hun? Most people are addressed by their names until a relationship is formed, then let the games begin. Dimple cakes
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On the west coast, you don't really hear a lot of Darling' sweetie, or Hun. If you are in Marriage it is more heard of but not so much just random or even at a restuarant they don't say, what can I get you Hun? Most people are addressed by their names until a relationship is formed, then let the games begin. Dimple cakes See....this is why I say it's cultural depending on where you are from. It's common to hear this in a restaurant or grocery store. There is no right or wrong...it's just the area. I was at a restaurant the other day with my family and the waitress said to my grandmother "can I get you anything else hon". No one batted an eye. It was common to hear. I didn't even think twice about it until the threads about it a while back popped up. Now I just giggle when I hear it and I'm not a giggler 
But I think if I went to a place that doesn't say it...might be hard to control the habit, but I would try to not say it. When in Rome type of thing |
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On the west coast, you don't really hear a lot of Darling' sweetie, or Hun. If you are in Marriage it is more heard of but not so much just random or even at a restuarant they don't say, what can I get you Hun? Most people are addressed by their names until a relationship is formed, then let the games begin. Dimple cakes |
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On the west coast, you don't really hear a lot of Darling' sweetie, or Hun. If you are in Marriage it is more heard of but not so much just random or even at a restuarant they don't say, what can I get you Hun? Most people are addressed by their names until a relationship is formed, then let the games begin. Dimple cakes Yes I agree, I like when people call me by my name as well. But mostly they use the word, mam or miss if you are at a business. I think some people consider it snooty, but since we are used to it, we know it is just the lifestyle we were raised in, as a form of respect nothing derragatory. |
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Good grief. If a woman gets upset or offended by being called "Honey" it probably says alot about there personality. I would imagine any that make a big deal out of it is called something a little different after they walk away.......
Oh, I don't get offended. It just makes those people sound cheesy and fake. If they're ok with they, so am I. Yeah; I feel pretty much the same way about it being cheesy and fake. I am not likely to even give that a person a second thought and would likely just walk away from them. It may be acceptable in some cultures where as others would find it offensive. I think one should get to know a person before using these terms. Its called respect. I also agree with the other comment that we have the right to decide what we want to be called. |
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Good grief. If a woman gets upset or offended by being called "Honey" it probably says alot about there personality. I would imagine any that make a big deal out of it is called something a little different after they walk away.......
Oh, I don't get offended. It just makes those people sound cheesy and fake. If they're ok with they, so am I. Yeah; I feel pretty much the same way about it being cheesy and fake. I am not likely to even give that a person a second thought and would likely just walk away from them. It may be acceptable in some cultures where as others would find it offensive. I think one should get to know a person before using these terms. Its called respect. I also agree with the other comment that we have the right to decide what we want to be called. No problem asking. The guys would never address me as honey or sweetie on or off duty as that would be demeaning and we do have to work together. They respect me and I respect them. |
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On the west coast, you don't really hear a lot of Darling' sweetie, or Hun. If you are in Marriage it is more heard of but not so much just random or even at a restuarant they don't say, what can I get you Hun? Most people are addressed by their names until a relationship is formed, then let the games begin. Dimple cakes See....this is why I say it's cultural depending on where you are from. It's common to hear this in a restaurant or grocery store. There is no right or wrong...it's just the area. I was at a restaurant the other day with my family and the waitress said to my grandmother "can I get you anything else hon". No one batted an eye. It was common to hear. I didn't even think twice about it until the threads about it a while back popped up. Now I just giggle when I hear it and I'm not a giggler
But I think if I went to a place that doesn't say it...might be hard to control the habit, but I would try to not say it. When in Rome type of thing |
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On the west coast, you don't really hear a lot of Darling' sweetie, or Hun. If you are in Marriage it is more heard of but not so much just random or even at a restuarant they don't say, what can I get you Hun? Most people are addressed by their names until a relationship is formed, then let the games begin. Dimple cakes See....this is why I say it's cultural depending on where you are from. It's common to hear this in a restaurant or grocery store. There is no right or wrong...it's just the area. I was at a restaurant the other day with my family and the waitress said to my grandmother "can I get you anything else hon". No one batted an eye. It was common to hear. I didn't even think twice about it until the threads about it a while back popped up. Now I just giggle when I hear it and I'm not a giggler
But I think if I went to a place that doesn't say it...might be hard to control the habit, but I would try to not say it. When in Rome type of thing I never mind, I think it's more of being caught off guard than anything. |
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On the west coast, you don't really hear a lot of Darling' sweetie, or Hun. If you are in Marriage it is more heard of but not so much just random or even at a restuarant they don't say, what can I get you Hun? Most people are addressed by their names until a relationship is formed, then let the games begin. Dimple cakes See....this is why I say it's cultural depending on where you are from. It's common to hear this in a restaurant or grocery store. There is no right or wrong...it's just the area. I was at a restaurant the other day with my family and the waitress said to my grandmother "can I get you anything else hon". No one batted an eye. It was common to hear. I didn't even think twice about it until the threads about it a while back popped up. Now I just giggle when I hear it and I'm not a giggler
But I think if I went to a place that doesn't say it...might be hard to control the habit, but I would try to not say it. When in Rome type of thing I never mind, I think it's more of being caught off guard than anything. I tend to agree with that statement. I just find it odd when a total stranger calls me these names. My best friend calls me "Luv" but he is a close friend so I don't mind. |
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navygirl...Great that you receive so much respect. (On and off duty.)...My husband was Asst. Fire Chief when the very first female firefighter entered his crew... Most of the male firefighters handled it well but a couple of guys had to be "set straight" a few times...Does the navy teach classes about "male and female relations" and sexual harrassment etc.?
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On the west coast, you don't really hear a lot of Darling' sweetie, or Hun. If you are in Marriage it is more heard of but not so much just random or even at a restuarant they don't say, what can I get you Hun? Most people are addressed by their names until a relationship is formed, then let the games begin. Dimple cakes See....this is why I say it's cultural depending on where you are from. It's common to hear this in a restaurant or grocery store. There is no right or wrong...it's just the area. I was at a restaurant the other day with my family and the waitress said to my grandmother "can I get you anything else hon". No one batted an eye. It was common to hear. I didn't even think twice about it until the threads about it a while back popped up. Now I just giggle when I hear it and I'm not a giggler
But I think if I went to a place that doesn't say it...might be hard to control the habit, but I would try to not say it. When in Rome type of thing I never mind, I think it's more of being caught off guard than anything. I tend to agree with that statement. I just find it odd when a total stranger calls me these names. My best friend calls me "Luv" but he is a close friend so I don't mind. |
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Edited by
GreenEyes48
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Mon 08/20/12 06:17 PM
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When men routinely call me "sweetie pie" kind of names it makes me feel like I am suppose to play the female role in their "movie.".. And this just isn't me! I don't "do roles."...It was different with my husband. I let my husband see all "sides" to me. (Even my "girly side!")..But most of the time I feel like a person first and a woman second. (In everyday life.)...And it just feels weird when strangers or men I barely know expect me to play out some kind of "girly role." It's just not me! They have the wrong woman!
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On the west coast, you don't really hear a lot of Darling' sweetie, or Hun. If you are in Marriage it is more heard of but not so much just random or even at a restuarant they don't say, what can I get you Hun? Most people are addressed by their names until a relationship is formed, then let the games begin. Dimple cakes See....this is why I say it's cultural depending on where you are from. It's common to hear this in a restaurant or grocery store. There is no right or wrong...it's just the area. I was at a restaurant the other day with my family and the waitress said to my grandmother "can I get you anything else hon". No one batted an eye. It was common to hear. I didn't even think twice about it until the threads about it a while back popped up. Now I just giggle when I hear it and I'm not a giggler
But I think if I went to a place that doesn't say it...might be hard to control the habit, but I would try to not say it. When in Rome type of thing I work part time at a restaurant and I'd never even think of calling customers hon, sweetie, or anything else like that. I feel it would be rude of me to do. |
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On the west coast, you don't really hear a lot of Darling' sweetie, or Hun. If you are in Marriage it is more heard of but not so much just random or even at a restuarant they don't say, what can I get you Hun? Most people are addressed by their names until a relationship is formed, then let the games begin. Dimple cakes See....this is why I say it's cultural depending on where you are from. It's common to hear this in a restaurant or grocery store. There is no right or wrong...it's just the area. I was at a restaurant the other day with my family and the waitress said to my grandmother "can I get you anything else hon". No one batted an eye. It was common to hear. I didn't even think twice about it until the threads about it a while back popped up. Now I just giggle when I hear it and I'm not a giggler
But I think if I went to a place that doesn't say it...might be hard to control the habit, but I would try to not say it. When in Rome type of thing I work part time at a restaurant and I'd never even think of calling customers hon, sweetie, or anything else like that. I feel it would be rude of me to do. As I was saying...it's common here depending on where you are from. Maybe it's rude to you but when it's normal in an area, it's not. I was a waitress at Steak N Ale when I was younger and said it all the time. The tourists actually loved it. It was like experiencing part of the Texas culture...like seeing the Alamo |
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On the west coast, you don't really hear a lot of Darling' sweetie, or Hun. If you are in Marriage it is more heard of but not so much just random or even at a restuarant they don't say, what can I get you Hun? Most people are addressed by their names until a relationship is formed, then let the games begin. Dimple cakes See....this is why I say it's cultural depending on where you are from. It's common to hear this in a restaurant or grocery store. There is no right or wrong...it's just the area. I was at a restaurant the other day with my family and the waitress said to my grandmother "can I get you anything else hon". No one batted an eye. It was common to hear. I didn't even think twice about it until the threads about it a while back popped up. Now I just giggle when I hear it and I'm not a giggler
But I think if I went to a place that doesn't say it...might be hard to control the habit, but I would try to not say it. When in Rome type of thing I haven't seen anyone get upset over it around here, but there are some (that don't like it) that can ignore it and I'm sure there are some that would tell a person off lol. Everyone talks the way they talk and everyone handles things in their own way I guess. It's normal for me, so it has no effect on me. I can see someone that isn't used to it being uncomfortable though. |
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I work part time at a restaurant and I'd never even think of calling customers hon, sweetie, or anything else like that. I feel it would be rude of me to do. Maybe you might get better tips if you tried to extend a little southern kindness......
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