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Topic: Fear of Intimacy
Whywherewhenwho Joined Fri 10/01/10 Posts: 322	Sat 08/18/12 03:51 AM
Indeed...I wouldn't give a second glance at a middle aged man chasing women twenty years his junior, so you would never have to worry about finding yourself in that "won't put out" position champ Oh well to each their own. At least I got some today. But...is that your nose growing in front of your face?

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Sat 08/18/12 06:23 AM
Indeed...I wouldn't give a second glance at a middle aged man chasing women twenty years his junior, so you would never have to worry about finding yourself in that "won't put out" position champ Oh well to each their own. At least I got some today. Being intimate with ones own hand does not count as "getting some"

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Sat 08/18/12 06:40 AM
I suppose the opposite could also be true. Women who are so desperate for intimacy that they'll have sex with anyone. Why would you think that women in their 40's are "so desperate?" There are just as many single men out there as there are women...so why do you say women are desperate??? Crazy remark!!!!

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Sat 08/18/12 06:45 AM
I havent dated a woman over 40. But if she didnt put out I wouldnt stick around. So you expect a woman to put out on the first date? If not, you wouldn't ask her out again? Here is where we get the double standards...if a woman puts out on the first date, she is a slut. BUT if a man gets it the first date, he is a stud. I am sorry but you my friend sound like a dog!

Benmedwaylad Joined Wed 08/15/12 Posts: 10	Sat 08/18/12 12:10 PM
I lost my virginity in my late 20s.I worried a lot about sex not only because i was a bit shy but the fear of being rubbish in bed.I bottled the courage and lost my virginity.I then fell in love with a woman i wanted to be with forever and we really hit it off.I never thought we could ever split and i would have sex with any other woman.I grew to enjoy sex very very much that was after we went 3 months without sex when we first met.It was a confidence thing when i knew she was really enjoying intercourse i got very confident and it helped me a lot.Sometimes a person who is in fear of intimacy just needs to take things at their own pace and be supported by having nice things said to them after intimacy.When 2 people are both enjoying intimacy it is the best feeling in the whole world.If i'm being too honest about my experiences then i'm sorry but we are all adults.

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Sat 08/18/12 06:12 PM Edited by markc48 on Sat 08/18/12 06:15 PM
Indeed...I wouldn't give a second glance at a middle aged man chasing women twenty years his junior, so you would never have to worry about finding yourself in that "won't put out" position champ Oh well to each their own. At least I got some today. Being intimate with ones own hand does not count as "getting some" Yea but banging a 26 year old does. Wait a minute sge called me. I wasn't chasing.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Sat 08/18/12 06:55 PM
Ok..whatever you say Mr Delusional

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Sat 08/18/12 07:52 PM
Whatever luckily not all women are frigid some actually like sex.

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Sat 08/18/12 07:56 PM
Indeed...I wouldn't give a second glance at a middle aged man chasing women twenty years his junior, so you would never have to worry about finding yourself in that "won't put out" position champ Oh well to each their own. At least I got some today. Being intimate with ones own hand does not count as "getting some" Okay... even if I do it in my bedroom, behind closed curtains? And not during a communist mayday parade, on the podium, overlooking the laddies? I figured out at age eight why the Big Cheeze always stand on an elevated podium. That way they get the best view of the blouses. You know, in communist times, during the poverty years, not every blouse had every of its buttons in place. Think about it.

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Sat 08/18/12 08:13 PM Edited by markc48 on Sat 08/18/12 08:32 PM
I havent dated a woman over 40. But if she didnt put out I wouldnt stick around. So you expect a woman to put out on the first date? If not, you wouldn't ask her out again? Here is where we get the double standards...if a woman puts out on the first date, she is a slut. BUT if a man gets it the first date, he is a stud. I am sorry but you my friend sound like a dog! Back up a minute. I never said she had to put out on the first date. And well not even the second. But if we like each other and she doesnt like sex. It's going to be a deal breaker for me. Oh and I have known her for 3 years. I used to date her younger sister. But we arent going steady or anything like that. I guess Im just a lucky dog.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Sun 08/19/12 01:45 AM
Whatever luckily not all women are frigid some actually like sex. Well yes we do...but i don't think it's because of the "some women" are frigid thing. I would lean more to the waiting for something spectacular other than the 'just banging' thing. Because that doesn't sound enticing...at all.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 08/19/12 02:05 AM
I lost my virginity in my late 20s.I worried a lot about sex not only because i was a bit shy but the fear of being rubbish in bed.I bottled the courage and lost my virginity.I then fell in love with a woman i wanted to be with forever and we really hit it off.I never thought we could ever split and i would have sex with any other woman.I grew to enjoy sex very very much that was after we went 3 months without sex when we first met.It was a confidence thing when i knew she was really enjoying intercourse i got very confident and it helped me a lot.Sometimes a person who is in fear of intimacy just needs to take things at their own pace and be supported by having nice things said to them after intimacy.When 2 people are both enjoying intimacy it is the best feeling in the whole world.If i'm being too honest about my experiences then i'm sorry but we are all adults. I agree, there can be confidence issues when it comes to having sex (which differs from being intimate with someone IMO), when having sex with new people as there can be a tendency to over think things and I’m definitely an over-thinker .

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Sun 08/19/12 04:37 AM
Whatever luckily not all women are frigid some actually like sex. Well yes we do...but i don't think it's because of the "some women" are frigid thing. I would lean more to the waiting for something spectacular other than the 'just banging' thing. Because that doesn't sound enticing...at all. Banging is just the short version.

Whywherewhenwho Joined Fri 10/01/10 Posts: 322	Sun 08/19/12 04:48 AM Edited by Whywherewhenwho on Sun 08/19/12 04:50 AM
Banging is likely what you do with your 26yr old blow up babe. Then back in the box she goes...