I tend to be too free with my personal information. And, I'm sure there isn't much you couldn't find out about me by looking at my past posts. But, when you are emailing with someone new, how much personal information do you give out and when do you give it?

Phone number seems pretty safe since it's something that could be changed if necessary. The city you live in? Where you work? I'm just wondering what others consider too much and what would be thought of as being evasive?

I guess I give out way too much information. I am not really worried about anyone stalking me though. Women have to be much safer.

I don't know. It's a fine line between sharing enough information and not making yourself vulnerable. I hadn't really worried about this before because most people I talk to are from out of state. But, lately I've been emailed by more local guys and I guess it just makes me nervous.

Maybe I'll just go back to talking to no one.

Ohhhh. I thought this was going to be about hooker etiquette.

I guess my thoughts on this is that if they want too much info too fast let the red flag fly high.
I prefer to really try to get know somebody for a quite awhile through emails ,then on the cell phone. If I feel comfortable enough with them I will meet them in a public place ,but not until I have done all that will I give out my home addy.

That was my next question.

Yer so smart.

well that's debatable

I'll wait for that one.

That's exactly what I'm doing, and don't I just feel so lucky I found someone I like with loads in common and shares the same birth date as me on the 2nd day on here. Lucky!!!

I'll give out my phone number if I think we'll have things to talk about. I don't care if they know which city I live in. I don't give out the name of my place of work, though. I always thought it was weird that people want to know the company name right away.

As for other things, it really depends on how the conversation is going.

Well they know the city I live in. Know my picture(s), what I look like. Cell phone can be handled, true. Guys never knew where I work. That's not to hide the info but it changes since I work online and have a free lance ability to take my work anywhere I go. I have a yahoo that I screen loads of dudes on before I give away my digits.

Conversation-wise? There's only a few things I feel uncomfortable knowing. I think knowing too much info about family and personal issues can be a bit awkward. When I get to know someone new I try to keep it short and light. I can talk about anything usually, but mostly I keep it positive. I love to laugh and have a good time getting to know someone new. One of my biggest red flags is when they start talking about their past relationships. I still don't understand the fascination in caring to know this. What's done is done I say.

I do worry about the work thing. If you google my first and last name you will figure out where I work very quickly.

Just say the field you work in, not the location.

I never give out my last name, e-mail, or phone until I have met someone in person. Home address is not an option until I know first where he lives, have spend weeks or months with no bad vibes and until I am sure it’s safe. I’m very comfortable talking about myself with people I click with. As long as it’s mutual and people are interested I will talk and I am able to do that because I do not give out the traceable info right away.

I do not like to be in situations where I have to dodge a call or change my number. Ugh, such an unpleasant feeling both for me and the other person. Why go through that if you can meet in person instead and then give out your true unblocked number when you know that it’s really what you want to do? People whom I click with usually understand this and don’t mind at all. This makes giving out your info so much more enjoyable because it comes naturally and is much more sincere.

not much and later :)~ i get a lot of music enthusiasts or writers,
we tend to build on that and go from there. but, it is wise to
always stay on this side of cautious, no matter how amazing the
click might seem, experience has taught me grasshoppa :)

See.. I wouldn't meet someone if they wouldn't give me their phone number. I need to have a way to contact them when we're meeting up if I'm running late or can't find them. And preferably would like to talk on the phone before meeting.

I think most people would prefer your way. For me the pro's don't outweigh the cons.

I have done the phone thing and learned that it doesn't help me get to know someone better. On the contrary, I have this image in my head based on voice and conversation that never matches reality. That's why skip the phone phase and dive right in to face to face.

It is so rare that I find someone physically and personality-wise attractive that Id rather see for myself in person who he is if the first few emails go well.

Chances of me being late is extremely slim and if he is late, I'll wait 1/2 hr. I only do things I would do on my own anyway, that way it's not any inconvenience. If he is late, he is late and he can write later what happened. Good way to get to know someone.I can't change him being late anyway, so I don't feel like I need to know right at that moment.

Yeah, I can understand that. However, if I had not given my phone number out a couple times, I would have missed out on awesome dates.

One guy happened to be running late because of a meeting, so he texted to let me know, then called when the meeting was done to let me know he was on the way.

The other had asked if I could go out one night, last minute. I did have plans, but was able to see him afterward.

Both were at the top of my list of favorite dates. I would have missed out on them had they not had my number.