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I send butt naked pix of myself in the first e-mail or two.
It sends the message that I am confident and comfortable with myself and also let's em know that I kinda like them... Sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words. :) |
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Edited by
Sandelwood4
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Fri 07/27/12 12:08 AM
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I never give out my last name, e-mail, or phone until I have met someone in person. Home address is not an option until I know first where he lives, have spend weeks or months with no bad vibes and until I am sure it’s safe. I’m very comfortable talking about myself with people I click with. As long as it’s mutual and people are interested I will talk and I am able to do that because I do not give out the traceable info right away. I do not like to be in situations where I have to dodge a call or change my number. Ugh, such an unpleasant feeling both for me and the other person. Why go through that if you can meet in person instead and then give out your true unblocked number when you know that it’s really what you want to do? People whom I click with usually understand this and don’t mind at all. This makes giving out your info so much more enjoyable because it comes naturally and is much more sincere. See.. I wouldn't meet someone if they wouldn't give me their phone number. I need to have a way to contact them when we're meeting up if I'm running late or can't find them. And preferably would like to talk on the phone before meeting. I think most people would prefer your way. For me the pro's don't outweigh the cons. I have done the phone thing and learned that it doesn't help me get to know someone better. On the contrary, I have this image in my head based on voice and conversation that never matches reality. That's why skip the phone phase and dive right in to face to face. It is so rare that I find someone physically and personality-wise attractive that Id rather see for myself in person who he is if the first few emails go well. Chances of me being late is extremely slim and if he is late, I'll wait 1/2 hr. I only do things I would do on my own anyway, that way it's not any inconvenience. If he is late, he is late and he can write later what happened. Good way to get to know someone.I can't change him being late anyway, so I don't feel like I need to know right at that moment. Yeah, I can understand that. However, if I had not given my phone number out a couple times, I would have missed out on awesome dates. One guy happened to be running late because of a meeting, so he texted to let me know, then called when the meeting was done to let me know he was on the way. The other had asked if I could go out one night, last minute. I did have plans, but was able to see him afterward. Both were at the top of my list of favorite dates. I would have missed out on them had they not had my number. Everyone is so different. It boils down to who you are and your preferences. When it comes to new people in my life or people I don’t know well yet, I feel most comfortable with dates that are arranged ahead of time. I am more spontaneous with friends or people I have already established relationships with but with new people I don’t like surprises and am less willing to receive invitations on the spur of the moment. I never feel like I would miss out something in those situations. I only want to meet people who are interested enough in me beyond a short notice even if we would have a good time hooking up at a moments notice. Also, if someone new or someone I never met before was late over 1/2 hr I would prefer to reschedule. |
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