Okay--- For everyone that does not know. I go out with this guy once a month-- kind of a friends with benefits thing--so that I am not having to "sleep" with tons of guys while dating. He knows that I am looking for a LTR and that when I find one he is out of the picture.
Now--- I have been on three dates with this other guy. He is sooooo sweet. He did not kiss me the first date. He did the second, but only because I asked for it. No initial sparks, but not sure if they are starting to develop. Then I am not sure they are only because he is a gentleman...a nice guy!!! Not sure yet he is "the one"
Questions:
1) no initial sparks-- is that bad?
2) at what time do i tell my friend? my sister saids date them both- that I am single and do not have to tell either one?

If you are not honest upfront what kind of relationship do you think you can have with either one of them, Would YOU like it if men did that to you?

i am honest with my friend-- i told you he knows i date and that when i find what i am after he is out of the picture!!!
i guess i am asking at what time would i push him out?
i am not sure i have found the right person yet.

geez and I thought you were saving yourself for when we got married

At the point you begin having feelings for new guy and anticipate entering an intimate relationship, it's time to cut the other guy off.

since he understands that does the man that you are dating know about the "friend".

thank you!!!
scotty---if you lived closer.....you know it

when you find the right one you'll be sure

joyce...
Hi you..
well I can say that i know what ever you do will be the right thing for you..

thnak you lazyj
i think you know me...i am shy, inexperienced, quiet!!!
i am not out to use someone or sleep around!!!

well you know i know that..
that isn't you and your qualities
are much better than that..
I know you don't want to be alone and
want a partner..
you will find him..

wish it was as easy as finding great friends like you!!

thank you..

whoaaaaa, wtf, My Nurse, what about me??

joshy--you are young--just a boytoy LOL

hey sweetie, have not talked to you in forevvvvvvvvvvvvvvver
how are you?

This is simple it's one guy or the other or you may end up alone.I think your new guy is just being a gentleman.

oooh aaaah, creepy and all that stuff. maybe that's what I need to find, one of those friends with benefits sort of things. How does that work exactly? I've never done that but then if I ever meet a nice hot woman who thinks I'm such a good friend that I deserve to share the excitement... Well. I suppose I would have to be nice to someone to work that out though. This could be difficult.

But. Maybe that would save me from having to sleep with tons of girls. I just get so emotional when that happens.

I think you should date both of them until the new guy tells you he only wants to date you. How do you know he's not seeing other people too?

hi joyce well i was in the same boat as you once before i had lot of guys friends then started dated my best friend who was a guy till my last bf came long an well were all still friends so just go by what you think is right for you