Cyber-sex, would that ruin or enhance your relationship?

Do you believe it's considered cheating?

Ruins, I believe it leads to cheating so you might as well bail now.

This is difficult. Is looking at porn cheating? What about reading erotica? I suppose the line can be drawn by the fact that there's another (live) person involved.

However, cheating is about feeling betrayed. If one person considers it cheating, it doesn't matter what the other thinks.

Im of the belief that cheating has to involve a physical element,, so,,,no

anything else is fantasy,, but I would prefer to be included in the fantasy or it could be considered, at the worst, dishonesty or sneakiness,,,

well said but not entirely in agreement with ur view! cheating is not necessarily physical.... right is right.... wrong is wrong! the fact that the thought of such act is there and the partner engages in it in front of the system is just enough to cause an uproar.

though we can both enjoy a fantasy together!

Jimmy Carter said he strayed in his mind, reading magazines.

You can watch porn and read erotica by yourself. So no, I would not consider that cheating. However, cyber sex would be with another person, so yes, I can see that as a form of cheating.

What if someone is watching a live cam show where you get to chat with a nude girl and she does whatever she's ask? Still cheating?

I see nothing wrong with letting my boyfriend (if I had one) watch porn.
I had a friend that was married and she denied her husband any porn whatsoever. If it's pornos or dirty magazines, he can't reach out and touch them. I don't consider it cheating of the mind.

However, cyber sex is completely different. They are using their words describing what they would do.. that is a big no no for me.

It will depend on the two people in a relationship. Same thing with the cyber sex issue. If one thinks it's cheating, then it is.

It is a form of cheating, yes.

Yes its cheating, porn isn't another person. Nobody is on the other end of the screen beating off to you! Cyber sex is a form of sex I mean I don't consider it really sex however. But you are purposely and intentionally exposing yourself and turning another guy on to orgasm!

It is intimate and it is personal. When your dating or married the person your with should be the only one getting off with you regardless of whether it is physical sex or cyber sex.

Porn is completely different.

Heck even destiny is pretty much cheating. Why are you turning someone else on? Why are you doing it? Obviously because your looking at that individual as a partner.

I know a guy who was getting nude pictures and sects from a girl for years while she dated another guy. Then she finally got engaged. When he finally found out the marriage was over and she came to my friend and he didn't want her either.

Why? Because she was keeping my buddy on the side. She was keeping him their as her back up she always had an escape plan. She wasn't actually dedicated to her relationship. Then she writes on Facebook how a guy needs to love you unconditionally etc..etc...

Look if you get a good guy and he's actually staying with you, especially if he proposes or marries you. Why are you needing this other guy? Why? Your husband should be there to do what ever you need! If he's doing something wrong tell him how to do it better.

But this comes down to my earlier thing. If your doing this then your relationship was built on sex, because if it was genuine you wouldn't require sex to be so great or need other partners.

I've been abstinent my whole life I could do it the rest of my life if I had to, I'm not saying you should. But if your married or dating you should have some self control.

Actually what I'd suggest is councilling for that couple. Because obviously the girl needs it and if her husband isn't performing and its that much of an issue, then it should be addressed!

Sorry my phone keeps auto correcting Destiny was sexting and sects was sexts blame the dang phone lol!

wrong is wrong.

harmless is harmless.

We all know the distinctions....

Personally...I wouldn't be happy if I was sitting on the couch next to my woman and have her getting crazy on phone sex to some random dude....I should somehow think it is cooler to have her web-cam him the action?

Cheating is cheating and if you would rather spend your free time with someone other than the one you say "I Love you" to...then yeah..it's cheating.

Ps (edit)....unless you are making a living at it..then, it's just a job and that is ok.

i think the response you would get from your partner to the question
"honey, i had the most amazing cyber sex last night", would probably
give you the cheating or not answer you seek.

Defintely cheating in my book. If it is not your mate getting your moter going it is cheating wheather it is two demensional, audio, anonomous cyber or what ever.