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Topic: The kinds of people that get attracted to you
Jesally's photo
Thu 06/07/12 04:52 AM

I wonder why i always attract men much younger than 22 years old unlike the ones in my age bracket (between 25 - 36). I really find that weird. Have you experienced the same? Do you have specific categories of people that get attracted to you?

Prosperity1122's photo
Thu 06/07/12 05:16 AM
Same here. I'm now 29. I dated a 21 y/o last year! I have dated a couple men in their 30s. Back in 2009 I dated three 24 y/o's in a row. I have no idea how I did it but I would love to have some of that luck this year. :)

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Thu 06/07/12 05:25 AM
me 2.u know the funniest thing is that most of them don't believe me wen i tel them my age.esp wen we c one on one.most wld say i add to my age to scare them off thou i have a nine yr old son. very funny.i humor them bt i do enjoy d fact i luk younger.

Jesally's photo
Thu 06/07/12 06:12 AM
Edited by Jesally on Thu 06/07/12 06:28 AM

Same here. I'm now 29. I dated a 21 y/o last year! I have dated a couple men in their 30s. Back in 2009 I dated three 24 y/o's in a row. I have no idea how I did it but I would love to have some of that luck this year. :)


If you were "lucky" like you said and fell in love with yet again a 20 year old, would you get married to him regardless of 9 years age difference?

Prosperity1122's photo
Thu 06/07/12 07:02 AM
Edited by Prosperity1122 on Thu 06/07/12 07:09 AM


Same here. I'm now 29. I dated a 21 y/o last year! I have dated a couple men in their 30s. Back in 2009 I dated three 24 y/o's in a row. I have no idea how I did it but I would love to have some of that luck this year. :)


If you were "lucky" like you said and fell in love with yet again a 20 year old, would you get married to him regardless of 9 years age difference?


At this point in my life I'm not looking to get married again. And I don't think I'd have much in common with someone that young. I don't really believe in love anymore. It's been too long since I loved someone who treated me right.
But if he was 20 and we loved each other, yes, I guess I would marry him. I do dream about having children and a loving husband.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Fri 06/08/12 11:50 PM
You must choose a lover that chooses you. Maybe they're not exactly what you're looking for, but no one's perfect.

Age be damned.

Jesally's photo
Sat 06/09/12 02:13 AM

You must choose a lover that chooses you. Maybe they're not exactly what you're looking for, but no one's perfect.

Age be damned.


When the wrong one loves you right, is that it?

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Sat 06/09/12 02:51 AM
I've thought about this at great length. I'm kinda old fashion myself. I can remember when I was growing up my grandmother talking about older men with younger women. When I was growing up it was a common thing to see a man in his 40' or early 50's with a woman of 28 to 35.

I believe what it was at the time women wanted a man with plenty of experience. Not only in the bedroom, But life experience. That way they knew they would be taken care of. Now, I don't believe women in general want a man who will take care of them. They are doing it for themselves now. So, The older guy isn't looked at the way he once was.

I don't mean this to be ugly. It's just truth about men in general. For the most part a great number of men are not attracted to women their age. It's something that's hard-wired into a lot of men. They look for what they are physically attracted to. And that is usually someone younger than they are. Since most women now do not need a man to take care of them they for the most part will look for someone their age. Even if his experience doesn't match theres.

It's an old saying, But it still stands true. Men mature slower than women. So now for the most part a lot of women wind up with men that are way to immature. If they decide to be with this man, A lot of times his immaturity causes strain on the relationship. Another cause for our divorce rate.

All in all women in general use to look for a mature experienced man. Now a lot of them don't. They use to think about what kind of life they will have with the man of their choice. Now they have to think about how they will raise the kids on their own when this immature "manboy" they love so much refuses to grow up.

The days of women wanting to be with an older man because of his maturity and his ability to love and take care of her, Stay with her and the kids are all but gone.

Jesally's photo
Sat 06/09/12 04:20 AM

I've thought about this at great length. I'm kinda old fashion myself. I can remember when I was growing up my grandmother talking about older men with younger women. When I was growing up it was a common thing to see a man in his 40' or early 50's with a woman of 28 to 35.

I believe what it was at the time women wanted a man with plenty of experience. Not only in the bedroom, But life experience. That way they knew they would be taken care of. Now, I don't believe women in general want a man who will take care of them. They are doing it for themselves now. So, The older guy isn't looked at the way he once was.

I don't mean this to be ugly. It's just truth about men in general. For the most part a great number of men are not attracted to women their age. It's something that's hard-wired into a lot of men. They look for what they are physically attracted to. And that is usually someone younger than they are. Since most women now do not need a man to take care of them they for the most part will look for someone their age. Even if his experience doesn't match theres.

It's an old saying, But it still stands true. Men mature slower than women. So now for the most part a lot of women wind up with men that are way to immature. If they decide to be with this man, A lot of times his immaturity causes strain on the relationship. Another cause for our divorce rate.

All in all women in general use to look for a mature experienced man. Now a lot of them don't. They use to think about what kind of life they will have with the man of their choice. Now they have to think about how they will raise the kids on their own when this immature "manboy" they love so much refuses to grow up.

The days of women wanting to be with an older man because of his maturity and his ability to love and take care of her, Stay with her and the kids are all but gone.



You are very right, let's face it why would a 28 year old young woman want to date a man much older than her?
I know most young women are creeped out at the thought of dating a guy who existed when their grand parents were still giving birth(No offence please). Truth be told; to the older men you have to know that these young women were born in the eighties, they grew up in the world of "Dot.Com". Their interests are more to do with Rihanna, partying till sunset...

If a young woman has a number of options within her age range, why would she settle for a guy who's 18 years older than her? I mean these guys have seen it all, they've had careers, kids, experiences in marriage, nevertheless a young woman would want to build her career, start a family with a man in her age range so that they can discover new things together.

Very few young ladies would settle for much older men on the account of wisdom,money,stability, protection & sometimes lust. However most young women i know in their late 20s would prefer to date men in their age bracket (30-35 0r even 40)

They want a guy who shares the same interests with them e.g a guy that dances to the tunes of Jayz, a guy that will take them out for skiing,partying, to the beach and exploring new things 'coz this is the age at which they start discovering new things in the world.


TexasScoundrel's photo
Sat 06/09/12 04:53 PM
I've been dating women in their late teens and early 20s most of my life and I'm 50. I have no idea why they want to be with me, but I have no trouble finding one to date.

wux's photo
Sat 06/09/12 05:37 PM
Edited by wux on Sat 06/09/12 05:45 PM
In my case, it's always the british. particularly the english, mostly and only of all britons.

Some canadian women wanted me and liked me in the past. They were much older and I pedalled hard for them.

But for almost immediate, playful and serious, thoughtful and sexful, feelings, I can always count on English women.

I don't know why that is so. They feel my vibes? They resonate, for sure.

Also... any beggar or hooker or really sick woman will like me if I show them respect and not animalistic behaviour, or if I don't kick them in the loin, like other guys always do as a "how do you do". As if the women were retreads on some junk heap in a used car lot.

Drunk women do like me, but they are not ones I like, irrespective of social status, economic/fiancial attainment, educational level, or IQ range. Drunk or high does not appeal to me at all.

And the only one type I've never been able to break through into, as far as an effort to make them open up, to my approaching them with a light, innocuous joke, or similar, are women who are fat in wheelchairs. They are impenetrable, emotionally. I guess they've had too many negative experiences, and being wheelchair bound has made them feel physically vulnearble, which translates / evolves into their becoming paranoid in a sense, to a point, so to speak. I am sure exceptions exist, and kudos to them, but in my experience wheelchair ladies are morose at best, or running around with girlfriends pushing them, and not giving any man a chance, if the wheelchair girl is good looking.

But for immediate, steady, and consistent dependability to be liked, I only have the British to fall back upon.

wux's photo
Sat 06/09/12 05:42 PM
I said there that I am not interested in drunks. I at this moment realized that this might perhaps be my biggest obstacle to getting laid. Of course!! If the woman is not drunk, what other reason would she have to go to bed with me?

Duh. How could I ever be so dumb.

time to hit the drunk scene.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Sat 06/09/12 06:00 PM

I said there that I am not interested in drunks. I at this moment realized that this might perhaps be my biggest obstacle to getting laid. Of course!! If the woman is not drunk, what other reason would she have to go to bed with me?

Duh. How could I ever be so dumb.

time to hit the drunk scene.


If you really think this way, your problem to getting laid may be self esteem issues.

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Sun 06/10/12 02:01 AM


I've thought about this at great length. I'm kinda old fashion myself. I can remember when I was growing up my grandmother talking about older men with younger women. When I was growing up it was a common thing to see a man in his 40' or early 50's with a woman of 28 to 35.

I believe what it was at the time women wanted a man with plenty of experience. Not only in the bedroom, But life experience. That way they knew they would be taken care of. Now, I don't believe women in general want a man who will take care of them. They are doing it for themselves now. So, The older guy isn't looked at the way he once was.

I don't mean this to be ugly. It's just truth about men in general. For the most part a great number of men are not attracted to women their age. It's something that's hard-wired into a lot of men. They look for what they are physically attracted to. And that is usually someone younger than they are. Since most women now do not need a man to take care of them they for the most part will look for someone their age. Even if his experience doesn't match theres.

It's an old saying, But it still stands true. Men mature slower than women. So now for the most part a lot of women wind up with men that are way to immature. If they decide to be with this man, A lot of times his immaturity causes strain on the relationship. Another cause for our divorce rate.

All in all women in general use to look for a mature experienced man. Now a lot of them don't. They use to think about what kind of life they will have with the man of their choice. Now they have to think about how they will raise the kids on their own when this immature "manboy" they love so much refuses to grow up.

The days of women wanting to be with an older man because of his maturity and his ability to love and take care of her, Stay with her and the kids are all but gone.



You are very right, let's face it why would a 28 year old young woman want to date a man much older than her?
I know most young women are creeped out at the thought of dating a guy who existed when their grand parents were still giving birth(No offence please). Truth be told; to the older men you have to know that these young women were born in the eighties, they grew up in the world of "Dot.Com". Their interests are more to do with Rihanna, partying till sunset...

If a young woman has a number of options within her age range, why would she settle for a guy who's 18 years older than her? I mean these guys have seen it all, they've had careers, kids, experiences in marriage, nevertheless a young woman would want to build her career, start a family with a man in her age range so that they can discover new things together.

Very few young ladies would settle for much older men on the account of wisdom,money,stability, protection & sometimes lust. However most young women i know in their late 20s would prefer to date men in their age bracket (30-35 0r even 40)

They want a guy who shares the same interests with them e.g a guy that dances to the tunes of Jayz, a guy that will take them out for skiing,partying, to the beach and exploring new things 'coz this is the age at which they start discovering new things in the world.




The young now in general are very immature. Like you said above, They want someone to "party" with. They are not interested in wisdom,stability or protection. It doesn't matter to a lot of them if they get knocked up by the wrong guy as long as they had fun getting their. They don't think about how hard it gonna be to raise kids alone with an absentee father. I do believe that is one reason why we have kids growing up now with their minds messed up.

I'm not saying that they don't do there best to raise them right. It's a fact it takes two. A mother and a dad. But now, The young in general are only thinking of having a good time. Damn everything else.

Back about two yrs ago I met a woman. She at the time was 25. She had a 9 yr old son. The father no where in sight. She told me point-blank that at one time she wouldn't even consider dating a guy my age. I was 48 at the time. She told me all about her life. I'm not going into the whole thing here. But because of her bad decisions she had made her life hell up until she met a guy before me. He was older and showed her a part of life she didn't know existed. I never knew what happened between them. But she did speak well of him.

After him she wanted to keep dating older men. She use to think it was gross. Not anymore. We dated for two yrs before she went back to South Africa. I couldn't go. All I can say now is, She will never date another man her age.

Somewhere along the way you have to grow up. You have to realize that partying and a lot of other things are childs play. You have to put on the mind of an adult. Think about things in the right way.

Yes, A lot of older men are perverts just looking for a young piece of a$$. But, In the wind up, Older men in general can bring things into your life that young men can't.

You said something about discovering things in the new world with someone their own age. I'll give you that much. Maybe so sometimes. But not all. Most of the time that trip down discovery lane can be very bumpy and down right scary with a young inexperienced man/boy. But with someone older that ride becomes, most times a lot less bumpy. Discovery lane is a lot more fun when it's less bumpy. That's something only an experienced man can give.

leoz77's photo
Mon 06/11/12 03:13 PM
I think is a matter of personality, it depends how do you feel inside, maybe you feel younger than what you really are!!!

I used to attract older women since I was very young and I really likes older than me....

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Mon 06/11/12 04:01 PM


..considering gender doesn't seem to matter these days i find it odd that age would..providing they are both of legal age...spock

motowndowntown's photo
Mon 06/11/12 05:20 PM
I've always wondered why I seem to attract ex-playboy bunnies and pole dancers. When my obvious preference is for "girl next door" types.
Oh well, in this world you take what you can get, and live with it.

PacificStar48's photo
Mon 06/11/12 05:39 PM
I have never figured out why I get so much play from much younger guys but it sure seems to happen. Sad because I have zero attraction to younger men even with similiar interests . May have something to do with having sons of my own but just seems kind of creepy to me messing around with someone young enough to t be my kids.

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Mon 06/11/12 11:33 PM
Edited by Charles1962150 on Mon 06/11/12 11:59 PM



..considering gender doesn't seem to matter these days I find it odd that age would..providing they are both of legal age...spock


I've thought about that same thing myself. In this day of "everything goes" "If it feels good,Do it" Why would age to a degree be a factor? I will say that a man of 50 maybe shouldn't be messing around with a girl of 18 because they are so immature now. But seems to me when a woman hits around 25 her options are wide open unless she decides to leave those options.

The one thing that gets me is, It seems that a great majority of younger women seem to think when a man hits 50 he's over the hill. That he can't keep up. He's no fun. For most who think that way it's a lack of maturity on them. A lot of them seem to think that when a man hits 50 he can't keep up in the sex department. When in most cases that's not true either.

Women for the most part hit their prime at around 30 to 35. It starts to go down hill for most women around 45. After their child bearing years. A lot of men hit their prime at about 17 or 18. And with a lot of men, Depending on if they have taken care of themselves, Can last well into there 70's. Me personally, I'm still going strong at 50. I'm the same now as I was when I was 20. except now I'm smarter and know more now about what it takes to please a woman. And not just sexually.

And just an observation here. I'm sure I'm not the only one that has noticed this.

It seems that young women in general want to find a man/boy to have fun with. That includes getting knocked up a few times. Maybe even knocked out. All in the name of having fun. They wind up raising the kids on their own because he refuses to grow up. He just wants to have fun. When she gets knocked up, She is ready for him to man up. Thing is he didn't love her to start with. He just wanted to bang her. Lie to her. Have fun, Tell her he loves her while he is treating her like shyt. All because she wanted someone she could have fun with. But the older guy that has more experience and knows how to really treat her, Well,the idea of being with an older man gives her the willies.

Doesn't this seem just a little bassassards?

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Tue 06/12/12 01:14 AM
what do you do when you have a woman that you love but you dont and you do everything you can for her and i know im the best man she ever had but she wont admit to her self and how can i tell her she has a guilty contious with out her getting mad cause deep down she knows she doing wrong but of course she wont admit it and makes it sound like im picking fights with her what can i do should i just walk away or continue trying to get threw to her

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