BORROW BOOGIE?

Ohhhhhhhhhh hell to the no!

learn to love yourself...and entertain yourself.



*snickers*

Make sure you get out and live life. You don't need to date someone to do that. Meet people and make friends. Make plans with them and get yourself out of the house.

Finding someone who you can totally be yourself with is helping me. The sharing is so freaking awesome. This masochism to masochism interchange is so uplifting since recovery is already so wonderful any way. The attraction is so real since we are interacting in a fashion that is very positive as the common goal. It is nonjudgmental towards the significant other except when that judgement is meant to help the other. The more she tries to be self destructive the higher I try to raise her self esteem and visa-versa with her towards me. All the negative value judgments her former husband projected towards her I am counteracting with positive statements that state her true nature. I am totally kicking her disease's butt and the negative disease realizes this and backs down because after a while because her own survival instinct is kicking in to help me help her.

This is the first masochistic bond I have ever been able to establish and just feels so totally refreshing and invigorating.

Anytime I feel lonely, I stop being lonely and be awesome instead.

OF course! PETS! That is a good one. I forgot all about this advice. I knew it but forgot to add. Thanks!

Yeah, be like that Tom Cruise character in "Risky Business" when he was listening to music and dancing with just his underwear on and his Ray-Ban Glasses on. "That ol'... time rock n roll!" Yeah, that song struck in my head ever since. I used to can hear better with hearing aids. Oh well! Good thing I got this one! Hahaha.

You are definitely awesome.

Hey ya all thanks for bumping the thread along. All good ideas I think. Years ago it seemed like there were more orgaizations for singles; Parent's Without Partners, Party's With A Purpose, even Singles Matinee's at the movies or Single Shoppers night at the grocery but I guess a lot of that has gone on line.????

Myself when I get lonely I go visit my grandbabies, go out to eat, see a movie, or just watch tv and cuddle up with my dog....or even mow the yard.....if you keep the mind busy the loneliness seems to go away~~~~

Very true...and frankly, since I've been more available (aka single) I've found I've got more friends than I realize and that who are happy that I'm able to go do things/meet up with them more often. Single or taken is a double edged sword!

I don't get lonely. I do plenty of things on my own, and find I'm usually happier doing that then trying to do things with friends.

I keep busy, dive into a book, and am constantly harrassed by my animals. But I love it!

With some disturbing changes to my family, I find that after preparing the baby bag, going on a walk about town helps a lot. On todays walk, I noted that I'm not the only single dad in town and that we're pretty well received where ever we go. I'm guessing it's my baby girl causing that effect. Today, we went out to breakfast, the coffee shop, and looked through various stores for things. If anything, my face is getting older and crustier. Even with the mother choosing drugs over family, I feel very blessed to be a daddy.

A single parent home is not necessarily a "broken" home...you won't be able to be fully two parents but your baby will be FINE with that kind of love. Kudos to you!

One thing I found is useful moving around is that it pays to have diverse friends and make and effort to have as many as is possible. Not just aquaintences but a number of friends of various ages and interests. Tehn when your kids grow up . your marital status changes, you get laid off or retire, even your health changes then you have people that you can be comfortable hanging out with

That's one of the best pics. lol

If you look at meetup.com you're sure to find groups like these. They organize events online and you just show up.

Hey thanks for the idea. I like the friends I have nade on line but think I just kind of got in the habit of off line venues to make friends. Funny because I like the folks at Mingle so much for conversation.

LOL os that anything like warming your heart? But ummm your heart should not be down there huh? ROFLMBO