Anybody have any advice for easing my boyfriend into Christianity? If I can't get him to come to Christ, I'm going to have to break it off with him, because I can't deal with the pain of loving him, but loving God too.

~Ki

Change yourself all you want to, but don't try to change anybody else. It just doesn't work..............

It does; I know it does, because that's how I came to Christ.

~Ki

i know how u feel im christ and and sweetguy all hgrs i date dont want a guy like me

What worked on you may not work on everyone .

Personally I am very offended when someone starts to preach at me about my beliefs and why I should convert or believe what they do . It makes me want to run away not come closer .

Kinomachan,

I hope that you came to Christ primarily because you wanted to, not because someone else wanted you to. People can help other people to change, but you can't (and should not) control other people's change.

Personally, I don't understand why it causes you pain to love him and to love Christ.

Doesn't loving someone involve respecting them? Do you not respect their choices in their belief?

Just punch him in the face and tell him to start going to church

The Bible says: "Do not share your life with someone who does not believe that Jesus Christ is their Savior." It also says: "A person cannot serve two masters; they will love one and hate the other." This is why I can't love my boyfriend AND love Christ; because being in a relationship with a non-believer is like serving another master.
I don't want him to convert just for me, and I certainly don't want to control him in that way, but I think I can at least answer his questions the best way I can.
You people are so judgemental. x|

~Ki

You found Christ and it made you this awesome person, huh? Okay, this is gonna come out blunt, but sorry that's how I say what I think.

Here's the vibe I'm getting, so I'm asking.

Are your beliefs really what you truly deep down heart/gut level believe or are you just spewing what you've heard and think you should believe?

Ki,

Please don't take any of this personally, we are all just expressing our own feelings, our own thoughts.

But aren't there actually three masters when you consider yourself into the equation?

check the original post, that's what was answered. Hmmm, judgmental versus opinionated......back to the dictionary.......

From you're last post, you got the book; therefore, you'll find your answers if that's the path you truly walk.

Enjoy!

I am not a christian and I don't believe in hell. However, I do understand that many/most christians believe that those who do not share their beliefs and practices will go to hell.

From the descriptions, I've heard hell seems like an extremely unpleasant place and it is supposed to be FOREVER. Given this set of beliefs, shouldn't Ki try everything in her power to "convert" those she cares for to save them from such a fate?

Just playing devils advocate- pun intended ; )

my question is...why you ever went out with him in the FIRST place if this is an issue for you?

unless you were deliberately trying to sabotage the relationship...(yes, i've done this. dated men that i KNEW i would never commit to...to prevent said commitment.)

On the other hand, I personally know several christians who accept that their may be many paths to God and living a good and ethical life is entirely possible outside their belief system.

Ki, perhaps you should discuss this possibility with your spiritual advisor (reverend, priest, whoever) and allow for the possibility that his soul is not your responsibility which might allow you to respect his beliefs.

I usually just invite people to hell that don't believe in it. I keep a welcome mat in front of the house. I usually don't very many visitors, though.

personally dont cram what you beleieve down thier throat.and dont push anything thing on them if they dont want change then dont try and change them that means you cant ecept them for who they really are

Well, Look at it this way except for the deciples Christ never hung out with believers that much.

There is no easy way to **Ease** somone into to Christ most people who are **reBorn** have there own Personal **Revelation** and then choose to come to Christ on there own.

You won't convert him from atheism, so you should break it off immediately. You will be doing him a huge favor.

If you think the people here are being too judgemental, exactly what do you think your boyfriend is going to think when you give him the ultimatum of "Christianity or else?" You don't suppose he's going to consider you to be incredibly judgemental when you tell him that he's simply not good enough for you because he doesn't see things from your perspective? Do you really think he's going to be consoled when you start quoting scripture to justify your decision?

If you require that your boyfriend be a Christian, then go find a Christian. Otherwise, accept your boyfriend for who he is and for what he believes and let him make his own decisions as you have made yours.