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| Topic: So this is a dating site---- what do you have to offer? | |
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Are you a great catch or not? As it happens, I'm not looking to date anyone, nor do I see it happening any time soon. The mother of my baby over the past few weeks decided drugs were important and left us. Explaining that to our baby girl, who already signs mom to me and knows something is wrong in the family really needs my full attention. Also, planning around a complete economic collapse, gardening, and working with neighbors to make our lives survivable is really of priority and personally, I find the idea of dating anyone new somewhat revolting and the last thing I want our daughter too have as an example is a male sl*t who will sleep with anyone. What I discovered about this question, however, is that whether or not I think I'm a great catch is irrelevant. Women see a single daddy with a baby, especially a baby girl as a great catch. I'm the same guy I was years ago for the most part, and yet now, everything's changed. I wouldn't be at all surprised if one woman visits me before midnight and again, nothing will happen. Another neighbor's trying to set me up with another single parent and I'm thinking let the paint on the tombstone of the old relationship dry, will ya? My baby and I will be fine without a woman in our lives. |
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Answer this one question: If you're new and spent the last 6 months to a year messaging men and get little if any response what will your reaction be? After a while you'd cease writing. I've read countless posts here and on another site where men say they eventually cease writing. Marketing 101: if the existing program isn't producing results why continue? Online dating isn't very productive for men with regards to finding dates. Real life is much better. If I wasn't getting any responses at all, I would have tried to figure it out way before six months. I would change what I'm doing. Change how I'm writing to people. This is just another way to meet people. It should never be the only way to meet people. Everyone should be getting out in real life to meet people as well. A lot of men aren't in NEED of a women (like 20 to 40 years ago) so we tend to give it time. Hormones don't drive us crazy like they use to.  1. As one ages, locations for social interaction with members of the opposite sex and same age go down. 2. As people age, fewer single people (men and women) attend public gatherings for the purpose of meeting. So many convince themself that this "may be" a way to meet. |
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A lot of men aren't in NEED of a women (like 20 to 40 years ago) so we tend to give it time. Hormones don't drive us crazy like they use to. 1. As one ages, locations for social interaction with members of the opposite sex and same age go down. 2. As people age, fewer single people (men and women) attend public gatherings for the purpose of meeting. So many convince themself that this "may be" a way to meet. Sounds like you've convinced yourself that it's too tough to meet people in person. Many people here have convinced themselves of that, no matter their age. Around where I live, there are all kinds of people out socializing with each other. Sometimes, when I go out, I feel really young, because many of the people are older. Sometimes I feel older, when the crowd is younger. So, there are definitely all ages out, enjoying life. |
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1. Because most men who are interested in a relationship seldom get responses from women. 2. The majority of women complain that most of the guys they respond to and/or who they choose to go out with end up only want sex. So explain how the gentlemen are bypassed and the bad boys qualify for a message response? I would assume it's because the bad boys know how to say all of the right things and play on womens emotions. A man looking for a relationship doesn't do this but (I assume) seems less interesting up front. Men can only guess that women try to filter out the jerks but only end up filtering out the guy who wants a relationship: Ex: Where are all the nice guys? Why can't I find a real man? What I can tell you is what I've already said. Most of the messages are like what I've said earlier. I'm guessing those kind of first emails get ignored a lot, as there is no effort. I don't believe that men have to be "bad boys" to get a response. They just have to put a little thought into what they're writing. If something doesn't work, they have to change it, rather than whining that no one is responding. Answer this one question: If you're new and spent the last 6 months to a year messaging men and get little if any response what will your reaction be? After a while you'd cease writing. I've read countless posts here and on another site where men say they eventually cease writing. Marketing 101: if the existing program isn't producing results why continue? Online dating isn't very productive for men with regards to finding dates. Real life is much better. Yes, a life outside the internet does bring a lot more results, twice as quick. but let me tell you this, the quality is ****. I'd met many a great lady online, nothing like the big headed wannabes in real life. |
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Since this is a dating site some (not all) people here are looking to find a mate, partner, date or spouse. I see many people talking about what they want in a partner, but I don't see much about what they have to offer their partner. How would you sell yourself? What do you have to offer? Are you a great catch or not? A most appropriate question, too often we are inwardly focused and are unaware of exactly what we are bringing to the banquet. I will assert what I know and have been told that I am above anything a true friend, honest and loyal. Fortunate to be a good communicator I have learned to listen as well, and am learning to ask my partner when I am not sure. And then there's the other side of that question. What aren't we bringing to the banquette....'cause if its something the other party needs, and you don't have it, get ready to get dumped again. |
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What do you have to offer? Nothing. |
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My extensive schlock cinema knowledge, and witty repartee.
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Since this is a dating site some (not all) people here are looking to find a mate, partner, date or spouse. I see many people talking about what they want in a partner, but I don't see much about what they have to offer their partner. How would you sell yourself? What do you have to offer? Are you a great catch or not? I can be boring and talkative. Choose. 
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Oh this would be easy if I was still looking.
I have 6 munchkins. A home that is always chaotic and full of more people than it should be. Lot's of insanity, no organisation skills. But hey there is always lots of laughter, anything else doesnt really matter. |
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Since this is a dating site some (not all) people here are looking to find a mate, partner, date or spouse. I see many people talking about what they want in a partner, but I don't see much about what they have to offer their partner. How would you sell yourself? What do you have to offer? Are you a great catch or not? Absolutely nothing, apparently  
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not much
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Are you a great catch or not? As it happens, I'm not looking to date anyone, nor do I see it happening any time soon. The mother of my baby over the past few weeks decided drugs were important and left us. Explaining that to our baby girl, who already signs mom to me and knows something is wrong in the family really needs my full attention. Also, planning around a complete economic collapse, gardening, and working with neighbors to make our lives survivable is really of priority and personally, I find the idea of dating anyone new somewhat revolting and the last thing I want our daughter too have as an example is a male sl*t who will sleep with anyone. What I discovered about this question, however, is that whether or not I think I'm a great catch is irrelevant. Women see a single daddy with a baby, especially a baby girl as a great catch. I'm the same guy I was years ago for the most part, and yet now, everything's changed. I wouldn't be at all surprised if one woman visits me before midnight and again, nothing will happen. Another neighbor's trying to set me up with another single parent and I'm thinking let the paint on the tombstone of the old relationship dry, will ya? My baby and I will be fine without a woman in our lives. Good for you.  You have taken on an enormous task.
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Since this is a dating site some (not all) people here are looking to find a mate, partner, date or spouse. I see many people talking about what they want in a partner, but I don't see much about what they have to offer their partner. How would you sell yourself? What do you have to offer? Are you a great catch or not? A most appropriate question, too often we are inwardly focused and are unaware of exactly what we are bringing to the banquet. I will assert what I know and have been told that I am above anything a true friend, honest and loyal. Fortunate to be a good communicator I have learned to listen as well, and am learning to ask my partner when I am not sure. And then there's the other side of that question. What aren't we bringing to the banquette....'cause if its something the other party needs, and you don't have it, get ready to get dumped again. Great answer!! |
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What do you have to offer? Nothing. Not true tazzops, try harder. |
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Hey people, don't put yourselves down. I know you like yourself a little.
Tell us why. Don't be hard on yourselves. Brag a little!!! |
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Hey people, don't put yourselves down. I know you like yourself a little. Tell us why. Don't be hard on yourselves. Brag a little!!! I definitely like myself. I just don't feel the need to brag in order to get someone. |
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About me:
I say what I think. I value truth and freedom. I strive to be true to myself and others. I am healthy, I don't take drugs or smoke. I find joy in living and being creative. |
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Hey people, don't put yourselves down. I know you like yourself a little. Tell us why. Don't be hard on yourselves. Brag a little!!! I definitely like myself. I just don't feel the need to brag in order to get someone. If its true, then its not bragging. You still need to sell yourself a little. |
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To be clear, I'm looking for true friends, not a husband.
I don't believe in the institution of marriage. It sounds too much like an institution to me. LOL. I do have a cyber husband though. We are planning to get together next year. I painted his portrait:  |
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A lot of men aren't in NEED of a women (like 20 to 40 years ago) so we tend to give it time. Hormones don't drive us crazy like they use to. 1. As one ages, locations for social interaction with members of the opposite sex and same age go down. 2. As people age, fewer single people (men and women) attend public gatherings for the purpose of meeting. So many convince themself that this "may be" a way to meet. Sounds like you've convinced yourself that it's too tough to meet people in person. Many people here have convinced themselves of that, no matter their age. Around where I live, there are all kinds of people out socializing with each other. Sometimes, when I go out, I feel really young, because many of the people are older. Sometimes I feel older, when the crowd is younger. So, there are definitely all ages out, enjoying life. No, meeting new people isn't difficult. Understand that north central Indiana isn't the social center for those over 50. |
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