As I surf the profles, see someone that sparks an interest, ck their profile & see their limits. I wonder, how many poss. friends do they miss, by setting distance & age limits. Totally understand freedom of choice & not wanting to get hit on. It is just that I have had the privledge to meet some fantastic people, at distances & ages, that I would have never known, if I set limits. I value all of the people that contact me. Many are just short "Hello's" that go NO where. But ever once in awhile, a new friend that's a keeper.

As the title says "Just A Thought."

Care to share a thought that is significant to you?

although i love meeting new peoeple and makeing new friends,ive been stalked before and hit on by some really creepy and crazy people (not on here) well not yet anyway..


but once i feel its safe and im comfortable i might remove my limits...

I agree Sage...

My thought I'd like to share today is this...

Don't be afraid to take the risk of telling someone something. If they're not understanding or empathetic, then they weren't the person to be told and their lack of appreciation for your words shouldn't go unnoticed.

I've noticed that a lot of people here have said that people don't speak up...people don't voice their feelings or their emotions...

Why?

What is everyone so afraid of?

So that's my thought for today....Don't be afraid to have your voice be heard...

Sage, I agree. I have absolutely no restrictions on my e-mail settings, I would prefer that anyone who wants to write can do so. And I reply to almost everybody -- there have been a couple trolls, and the occasional nutjob, who don't get replies, but everyone else does.

And I get lots of e-mail here, mostly from people I know from the forums, but sometimes from someone who has never posted anything, just saw something I wrote and wanted to talk about it. And that's fine. I'm always up for more communication.

The only downside is I never hear from anybody closer than 897,000 miles. Don't get me wrong, I've made some great friends here, and I like the forums. But it's hard to feel like you're on a "dating site" when all the people who want to date you are in other countries, or might as well be.

So it would be nice to hear from some local people -- but it would also be nice to find a million dollars in my sock drawer!

Maybe some people are not looking for friends? maybe they are actually only here for serious dating. Therefore they set their limits according to age and distance to meet their needs.

nice, well then in that case i won't be afraid to have my voice heard, FPBN, your getting sexier everyday!

yeah very true but i feel that if you have settings up then you miss out talking to alot of great pepple and and like lex said the occasional nut job

i just changed my settings lol

Thanks Dayv....

HI EVERYBODY. I HAVEN'T BEEN ON HERE TOO LONG, BUT REALLY ENJOY TALKING TO EVERYBODY I HAVE MET. I DON'T SET LIMITS, I LOVE TO MEET NEW PEOPLE ALL THE TIME. THAT'S WHY I SIGNED UP.

Lex & all, understand my purpose here is rather unique, just looking for friends; totally realize that most are wanting more. In this day & age distance shouldn't matter, to easy to grab a plane, if you really want to meet. Take the chance, life is a risk, reach for that brass (or golden) ring. I have enjoyed every planned risk I have taken. Some BOMB"D, big time/others were well worth the expense.

INTENTION = RESULTS

Think about it.

yeah sage i agree,i had a long distance relationship,but long story short i found out he was cheating lol!so i dont do the long distance any more!

lex, you and i discuss before too about the locals, you find lots of picture on sites but don't find them in reality.

sage, im not inerested in long distance relationships. just long term. i have 22yrs on my job and at my age no desire to start over somewhere else, i was in a long distance once and it was not any fun at all. i am all for limits. why waste your or their time. chatting is fine but im looking for a partner.

Frank, I think all of the local girls on here are fake pictures on bogus accounts, created by my ex-wife just to torture me and drive me insane!

It won't work, though, not as long as I have my Magic Green Spatula.

lex, be strong with it

you mean THIS >> ---[ ] one???


who has the green crayon??

Lex what are you doing with a Magic Green Spatula........when you don't cook............now pass it here please..............


and I changed my settings because I couldn't chat to a friend via email.......and was goofy enough not to realize that I couldn't do that with the settings I had.


once June of 2008 comes........Im free to relocate anywhere I wish....so I have no distance settings.......

plus I don't want to miss out chatting with friends of all ages........that would be a loss to me

Alex, I think it needs to be a little bigger!

OK, I can see if someone is solely concerned with finding someone local for dating, then the restrictions could make sense.

For me, while I'd LIKE to find someone local, I signed up with the intention of also being open to the idea of talking to people from anywhere and everywhere, to make some new friends regardless of location. It's more a case of having multiple goals when I signed up here.

What I've found is MORE good people than I expected (having been on so many other sites where the good ones were basically non-existent), more friends, but fewer (well, really none) prospects for relationships within a reasonable distance. So there's a sort of a trade-off.

I've come to see JSH as a "friend site," hence my lack of any need for e-mail restrictions. I'm trying some other sites for meeting someone local now, since I haven't had any luck here initiating conversations with anyone in the area.

Sage, once again you hit the nail on the head. Now where did I put that Excedrin?

Sage,

Great topic! I'm glad you are bringing this up. I understand many are here to find a partner - but making friends with people can be a great way to find that partner. For the people who are worried about being stalked via email - you can always block particular people if that seems like it might become an issue.

I have often wanted to have a quick little exchange of thoughts about something someone posted in the forums, and was unable to because, say, that person was a guy who wouldn't accept emails from a guy, or similar restrictions.