Communication. Yup. They want you to talk to them once in a while. Go figure. I mean we were doing so well not arguing with the silent treatment. I still don't get it. Why mess up a good thing?

I can't find anyone who wants me AS me....

That's a biggie!! I've had 3 girls just this week ask me why I like music so much that I have a music system in every room? AND, if I would be willing to have a "normal life".

If you are happy with yourself, then they aren't right for you. If you aren't entirely happy with yourself, then use their rejection or attempts to control you as the impetus to change.

There is nothing better than finding someone who will love you for who you are and not who they want you to be. Good luck man.

I guess that's the problem. I'm happy with myself, but everybody else seems to think there's something dreadfully wrong with my feeling this way. I"m "supposed to" live the kind of life THEY think people are "supposed to" live. I have no interest in that. And that makes it really difficult to find anybody compatible....!

Me

And I refuse to compromise

I think we are all mere grains of sand. With our own uniqueness. And there is another that "fits" somewhere on the beach

With that said, there certainly are imperfections in my sand. However, I would be willing to work on them for the grain that fits

So am I "changing" Me for them?

pfffffft,

It's part of the we

However, my basic "core" remains me, and the other would have to accept that first

Crap!!!!!!! I done gave up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What is your biggest barrier in a relation ship?
Answer: A lack of a lifeboat.

That is cause you gotta do it different Mr. Bad.

It ain't easy but, it is very doable.

Ask yourself this....how many ex's do you have in your hometown?

...probably more than you have across the rest of the world.

I don't care if your woman is halfway across the U.S like mine is or living next door....to make something real and lasting (love) takes actual effort. It takes patience and devotion. Not just getting your d**k sucked in the next 1/2 hour.....(though I ain't against it)

But, then again..most people stand staring at thier microwave screaming "HURRY UP!!!!"...cause most of us won't wait 2 damned minutes for satisfaction.

Basically...everyone expects everything to just be handed to them and love don't play that game....

the good stuff is earned.

The easy and realistic answer to this question applies to everyone....

There is one common denominator to your failure....YOU.

Think about it.

Selfishness and..........

Stupidity!!!!


I rest my case!!!

I see that you have met my ex-.

On behalf of all men... I will throw this one in....

giant p**sies.

If the chick has ever asked "is it in yet?"..you may as well feed a whale a TicTac..it is an exercise in futility.

Nope. Never had that problem.

Oh COME on now...whadothey say?

The biggest barrier in a relationship is just me.

my biggest narrier is knowing what I like and knowing all to well what will drive me up the wall as far as personality traits, attitude, or lifestyle.

to marihasfantasy - ooh yoga

i have learned some stuff watching this post most everything makes sense. i realise ive bottled up to much of my past i need to set that aside an move to the future with or without some one at my side. i chated with an old x girl jus a bit ago she told me i have a warriors spirit i fight for everything but my self. and i jump b4 i look to often. thats what hurt our relation ship.

* steps off again to ponder*

Trust, communication, being sexually satisfied...


Just saying.

You know Lex even if you did live the kind of life others wanted you to; it still wouldn't be enough as they would always want more. People are just too damn demanding and controling. Better off to stay single.