There is? How do you know you're lonely unless you have the sense, the "feeling," of it? And if you had no sense of it, or "feeling" of it, what would make you recognize yourself as being lonely?



Agreed, but I don't see what that has to do with the original premise.

Prashant, if I remember correctly, your first language is not English.

It seems to me that most of the problem here is you're using the wrong words. Perhaps you meant "self-centered" in your first post rather than "selfish."In that case, I would have possibly agreed with you. There is a big difference in the meaning of those two words. Most people do think of self-centeredness as a bad thing, but it's not as completely, unequivocally negative as selfishness. Self-centeredness means being overly focused on your own thoughts and feelings (narcissism), whereas selfishness implies lack of consideration for other people, even greediness. Personally I have sometimes thought that people who talk about feeling lonely a lot may be focusing too much on their own feelings and not enough on taking action to change things. But it's still possible it comes from a chemical imbalance in the brain the way depression does. At any rate, it doesn't imply some moral failing the way selfishness does.

You also are using "lonely" in places where "alone" or "solitary" would be more appropriate, as other people have pointed out.

Loneliness is a feeling. I think (but am not positive) that what you're trying to say is that people can be alone without feeling lonely, and other people can still feel lonely even when they're surrounded by people. This is a feature of loneliness which is illogical but true.

My post was not "nasty," as you know the mods would have deleted it and/or warned me if it was. You overreacted. I'm sorry you felt personally attacked, but the fact is your original wording was a personal attack on anyone who has ever felt lonely.

If my dissability,life's circumstances,overly shy makes me lonely then don't it mean that it is due to my excess thinking about myself?

Instead of thinking too much for myself,if I'm thinking about other under given circumstances,if I share their sorrow,joy,If I try to make them happy,then will I remain alone?

Those who are not lonely in nature comes out of loneliness quickly but it is true that some people ENJOY LONELINESS. & it's okay,not an offense at least.May be that is good for their health too.