I guess my question is...are you aware of your issues? Do you feel that it really is ‘them’ and not ‘you’? Or don’t you date enough to really know?

Of course it's them...duh.

This one is easy and it applies to incompatabilities across the board...internet, physical relationships, work...

The one fact that people absolutely refuse to acknowledge....


In all of your failed relationships...there is one common denominator.....you.

I generally leave it as an unspoken thought but, I have thrown that one in more than one persons face. (when they won't quit b!tchen and whining about an endless string of failures)

But...this is America....accepting any form of personal responsiblty ain't very high on the "to do" list.

I think most people perceive me as having enough "negatives" to where they wouldn't want to get involved.

And I do have some negatives, insofar as the standard methodologies are concerned. I don't see them as negatives myself, I see them as rational guidelines, but that's just me.

Women seem to be more focused on those negatives; they clearly outweigh things like however intelligent or creative or understanding or humorous I am.

That's life.

You didn't answer the question Lex.

This one is easy and it applies to incompatabilities across the board...internet, physical relationships, work...

The one fact that people absolutely refuse to acknowledge....


In all of your failed relationships...there is one common denominator.....you.

I generally leave it as an unspoken thought but, I have thrown that one in more than one persons face. (when they won't quit b!tchen and whining about an endless string of failures)

But...this is America....accepting any form of personal responsiblty ain't very high on the "to do" list.

I'm a rebel.

Now there'a an answer I wasn't expecting

Proves what? That you can recognise sarcasm in print Lex? Funnily enough, I'm not all that surprised

I don't think negatively about you or the comments that you have posted since I've been on here...I have always appreciated honestly (or what I perceive to be honesty) even if it bucks the trend.

I think "bucks the trend" is the operative phrase here.

Some people just seem to be really uncomfortable when someone says anything that doesn't fit in with the standard-response model. I don't think the standard-response model gets anybody anywhere (other than into an unending cycle of more standard-response model verbogarbage) and I prefer not to see it as a legitimate form of communication.

But -- and this gets back to the point I was trying to make earlier --if you don't play that game, some people see it as a negative.

On another note, yes, I'm aware of my issues, the "me or them" thing is largely irrelevant unless/until I run across somebody I might actually be interested in, and, no, I don't really date enough to really know, assuming "zero" qualifies as "not enough."

I find it strange (especially with people that I have never met), that they hold me responsible for their perception when they are the ones that haven't taken the time to do anything other than 'read' the surface veneer.

I always blamed myself until recently, then I realized that the only thing I was guilty of was being myself, So if that was not good enough for them too darn bad! I am who I am ,I have faults ,so do they .I have good points and so did they.
But funny thing looking back at the men that "Dumped" me they have never held a relationship for more than five mins. So thats when I stop blaming myself totally and realized that I am not always too blame.