Topic: Poly Life: Why so secrective?
TxsGal3333's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:06 AM
Humm I don't share well at all...I barely can handle one at a time much less more then one....

For those that can more power to them not for me nor would I even want too..

Myself have never known anyone that has done it... Most think the same way as I do.

Trying to make one relationship work out is hard enough....whoa

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:12 AM
Edited by Shy_Emo_chick on Tue 03/20/12 09:16 AM

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:13 AM
Edited by Shy_Emo_chick on Tue 03/20/12 09:14 AM

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:14 AM
You're life is your own. You're free to live it as you choose. Nothing should have to be secret. We all die in the end, so screw what other people think of you :)

Totage's photo
Tue 03/20/12 10:44 AM

You're life is your own. You're free to live it as you choose. Nothing should have to be secret. We all die in the end, so screw what other people think of you :)


As long it is not harming others.

TheCaptain's photo
Tue 03/20/12 10:48 AM

You're life is your own. You're free to live it as you choose. Nothing should have to be secret. We all die in the end, so screw what other people think of you :)


I agree. Just go into the venture with your eyes wide open.

no photo
Tue 03/20/12 12:17 PM

You're life is your own. You're free to live it as you choose. Nothing should have to be secret. We all die in the end, so screw what other people think of you :)


Absolutely...make your life your own and make it work for you.

Not my cup of tea but at least you're honest and upfront with the people that you're involved with and honesty goes a long way in my book.

Ruth34611's photo
Tue 03/20/12 12:19 PM
Sounds exhausting.

Two_Scoops's photo
Tue 03/20/12 01:40 PM


You're life is your own. You're free to live it as you choose. Nothing should have to be secret. We all die in the end, so screw what other people think of you :)


Absolutely...make your life your own and make it work for you.

Not my cup of tea but at least you're honest and upfront with the people that you're involved with and honesty goes a long way in my book.


Honesty is the only way to make something like this work. In fact bravery too, especially if you are having feelings of jealously or possessiveness. It really is hard to admit vulnerability to a loved one. So yes I can imagine the journey being exhausting but the reward of it all seems worth it. I will keep you posted ;)

Two_Scoops's photo
Tue 03/20/12 01:40 PM
Thank you!

Two_Scoops's photo
Tue 03/20/12 01:48 PM
I completely agree and sometimes I wonder if I am just being greedy. I have spoken to my family about this and I have been very open with my friends and I realize this is really something I need to try. The honest approach just seems right.

I am in a relationship now with a bisexual male who has Aspergers. Just dealing with regular relationship stuff coupled with the additional set backs of dealing with his learning disability consumes me. Yet we both feel one day we will be ready to open are hearts and home to another partner. So in time, we shall see. :)

no photo
Tue 03/20/12 01:48 PM



You're life is your own. You're free to live it as you choose. Nothing should have to be secret. We all die in the end, so screw what other people think of you :)


Absolutely...make your life your own and make it work for you.

Not my cup of tea but at least you're honest and upfront with the people that you're involved with and honesty goes a long way in my book.


Honesty is the only way to make something like this work. In fact bravery too, especially if you are having feelings of jealously or possessiveness. It really is hard to admit vulnerability to a loved one. So yes I can imagine the journey being exhausting but the reward of it all seems worth it. I will keep you posted ;)


Breaking away from what is considered the ‘norm’ is an act of bravery which is why I think you need to make your life your own and live by your own standards...I won’t always like it or accept it but I will always go for honesty over deceit any day of the week.

Two_Scoops's photo
Tue 03/20/12 01:49 PM

Humm I don't share well at all...I barely can handle one at a time much less more then one....

For those that can more power to them not for me nor would I even want too..

Myself have never known anyone that has done it... Most think the same way as I do.

Trying to make one relationship work out is hard enough....whoa

I completely agree and sometimes I wonder if I am just being greedy. I have spoken to my family about this and I have been very open with my friends and I realize this is really something I need to try. The honest approach just seems right.

I am in a relationship now with a bisexual male who has Aspergers. Just dealing with regular relationship stuff coupled with the additional set backs of dealing with his learning disability consumes me. Yet we both feel one day we will be ready to open are hearts and home to another partner. So in time, we shall see. :)

Two_Scoops's photo
Tue 03/20/12 01:49 PM




You're life is your own. You're free to live it as you choose. Nothing should have to be secret. We all die in the end, so screw what other people think of you :)


Absolutely...make your life your own and make it work for you.

Not my cup of tea but at least you're honest and upfront with the people that you're involved with and honesty goes a long way in my book.


Honesty is the only way to make something like this work. In fact bravery too, especially if you are having feelings of jealously or possessiveness. It really is hard to admit vulnerability to a loved one. So yes I can imagine the journey being exhausting but the reward of it all seems worth it. I will keep you posted ;)


Breaking away from what is considered the ‘norm’ is an act of bravery which is why I think you need to make your life your own and live by your own standards...I won’t always like it or accept it but I will always go for honesty over deceit any day of the week.



Amen!

Two_Scoops's photo
Tue 03/20/12 01:50 PM


You're life is your own. You're free to live it as you choose. Nothing should have to be secret. We all die in the end, so screw what other people think of you :)


As long it is not harming others.


Exactly!

Two_Scoops's photo
Tue 03/20/12 01:51 PM

I've seen a few people try it.

And the few that were married are all divorced now.

I've read that some people can make it work, but I've never actually seen it done.

When you enter a poly relationship, at least know that you are fighting a huge uphill battle that very few (if any) really win.


Best of luck to you.


Thank you!

Dragoness's photo
Tue 03/20/12 03:50 PM

How is this different from the very widely popular 'promiscuity'?


Polamory is an agreement like a relationship between more than one partner. All involved are in agreement to be faithful to each other.

Promiscuity is a free for all with no agreements, spontaneous hook ups, ya know?

Dragoness's photo
Tue 03/20/12 03:56 PM
I have been approached by a man who is polyamorous. So I considered it and analyzed myself and if he can't be all mine (and I know that isn't really factual, we never own another but) I don't want him. I have yet to meet a woman who brought out sexual desire in me so that hasn't been an option for me up to this point.

So I don't think I would fit it well. But I do not knock what others do as long as they are of age and mental consent.

Two_Scoops's photo
Tue 03/20/12 04:03 PM

I have been approached by a man who is polyamorous. So I considered it and analyzed myself and if he can't be all mine (and I know that isn't really factual, we never own another but) I don't want him. I have yet to meet a woman who brought out sexual desire in me so that hasn't been an option for me up to this point.

So I don't think I would fit it well. But I do not knock what others do as long as they are of age and mental consent.


I agree with you on both posts. All the people I know who are poly are committed to each other and faithful. For me I know that being poly is a destination, when I get there I will enjoy it. Right now I am just getting ready. ;)

Dragoness's photo
Tue 03/20/12 04:19 PM
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