Now I haven't lost them all but a little short rundown. Had my school friends from middle through highschool. Got to college and had highschool friends and college friends as separate group. Then moved to the other side of the country. Got a couple new friends. Got laid off and so did they. Moved back home a little bit then moved over seas. New friends again. Moved back home. Hang out with college friends and don't hear much from highschool friends. Moved across the country again. Now I understand I moved a lot. Some of my friends got married and some have kids and I understand that. Idk it's just weird that some just seem to be uninterested in being friends anymore or just ignore me. May that's part of life. (though some of these friends were the type you would think you would be friends with forever). Maybe we have just gone different paths as I am an engineer and many of my friends from highschool went into liberal arts such as theater. It just has me wondering if I did something wrong.

no you didnt do wrong sometimes ppls just grow and move on in life

As we grow, our dreams change.
As our dreams change, our aspirations change.

Then, for some of us, an individual enters our lives.
This can alter our values.
Values beget a new sense of change.

To think you 'played' any part in it.
Is bordering self-destructive.
If you linger on it and take the blame for it..
..that's what I mean by that.

For some, I cannot lie, maybe they did just lose interest, etc.
However, even if such is the case; their values changed.

That's what, in the end, divides or unites us.

Sometimes, when we progress from one stage to the next, its a significant difference in how we see ourselves. They may just associate you with someone they no longer ARE anymore. You are a new stranger really to them.

^ this I find is quite true as far as friends that i had while I was married

they would barely recognize me now...not physically - otherwise

AND possibly not physically

Same here...when u finally love somebody then somehow they just get lost...right? I can feel ur pain..

yea when people grow up then they change their lover aswell right? Its scary man!!

i think it's part of growing, up.
where once we had dozens
we keep just a few, close
inside the venn diagram.

Yes, lots of moving after graduating college...Thinking you will keep acquaintance based friends as you move on through life is probably not realistic....In each "stage" of life we meet people we develop friendly relationships with...classmates, co workers, friends of a spouse or partner....Very few of these acquaintances become life long friends...The friends you invest time in, the friends you stay in contact with no matter where work takes you, no matter where life takes you...True friends...


A QUOTE FOR YOU....

“In your entire life, you can probably count your true friends on one hand. Maybe even on one finger. Those are the friends you need to cherish, and I wouldn't trade one of them for a hundred of the other kind. I'd rather be completely alone than with a bunch of people who aren't real. People who are just passing time.”
― Sarah Ockler, Fixing Delilah

Some of these are people I would have considered my best friends at the time. 3 of us hung out every day for close to 6 years. But I hear where you are coming from. I just moved across the country again a couple of days ago so I don't know anyone in the area and it has me thinking back on other old friends. Well one correction. The person that was my best friend when I used to live in NY is about an hour away coincidentally but he is now married and has a kid on the way.

I grew with many,many friends,,and truly liked then then and still do,,although life and miles now away,,we still catch up in short words from time to time on facebook,,but my ONLY two bestfriends,,who were like my brothers,,they have already passed away,,and we,,get left here to go forward w/o them,,its sad,,and always missing,,,yet that is just life,,and my job has me in new places everyday of my life,,so truly I have no REAL friend EVER around me to see me or know me,,and YES,,that is hard to deal with,,but THAT was missed when I went out a bunch and stayed socially active,,NOW, after thirty years over the road,,and my last ten,,really totally alone out here,,it just something that is there,,and as I have no expectations of having any aroud me out here,,it just passes by,,,and has now started to let me FEEL that alone,,so I'm looking to get working closer to where I have a 9 to 5 job,,and more importantly,,a better quaility of life,,to make new friends,,,I wish you much happiness in finding you more there...

Unless you are the one trying to keep the
connection going, you really can't complain.
Everyone has their own little life to manage.
Men do not keep the closeness that women do.
It is all a very natural ebb and flow.

It gets much worse when you finally hook-up
with the 'one.'
Most just cannot be bothered.

I lost all of mine in 2009, and have been completely unable to find any new ones....!

In short, acquaintances and the such will come and go, for whatever the reason, just the natural course of life. Whatever happens in their lives, you grow apart. It is sad we can't as humans accept each other and our flaws and be there for one another in the good and bad times. I've learned the ones that constantly stay in touch are the real friends. I figure as long as I am invited into their lives, I feel welcomed. That to me is the definition.

I guess i do feel this way sometimes, but only if i overthink it. I understand how some of us had no choice, and had to move to India, and other far away places, as the wages were worth it. It felt bad enough losing my two guinea pigs. My world felt like it had collapsed when they died, but that's life i guess. I can't go about life, regretting about what isn't here right now. Think that would just make it worse.

meh.
i just say i never had friends to begin with.
just people who didn't want to be alone.

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Next!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sometimes people just drift apart. It happens to all of us. And sometimes, you have to work really hard to keep friendships going, especially if you're not near each other all the time.

Frienship is such a strange thing. Some people value it with all their might ,others take it with a grain of salt and throw it away.
Those are the ones I would not waste time worrying about, although I must admit in the past I have, now I don't care.

Don't expect anything from anyone,you will never feel alone.

Oh bullcrap Lex.

You got a friend fo'eva in me. :D