I think it is important to teach children how to respect THEMSELF and others.


I think it is growing into a difficult task because the concept of 'respect' has been made so gray and complicated when it really need not be.

I have heard children say (adults no longer seem to consider how quickly children pick up and believe what they hear from adults) that their parents must 'earn' their respect. That has always been a conundrum for me. If you have to GIVE respect to GET respect , how is ANYONE ever on the receiving end,,,,,(presumably we should all be waiting for the other one to give it first,,,)



however, people do EARN respect, by how they carry themself, how they handle their responsibilities, how fair and consistently they treat others, how much they have GONE Through and how much knowledge they have attained and shared with others,,etc,,,

I can view this in others, or know it about others, without them ever having necessarily had a chance to 'give' me respect, and so I respect them for those things,,,

anyhow, what do you teach children about respect?

how do you model respect for them, both self respect, and respect of others?

Children learn what they live.
We teach by example.

I like that. Respect is about you and admiration is about someone else,,,,

Im going to use it if you dont mind,,,lol

excellent and concise explanation

NOW this is a bunch of typing...

I would build their self respect through building their viewed respect.

As I lectured all the time
as they (I'm SURE,would think)

But through letting themknow they have to look up to mom and dad,,and their teachers,,and all who were smarter and older than them..

And with every fuss they had to do with that,I would reasure them why they were wrong,,lol

as they would try and put someone down because they seen them as different or poor,or crazy,,I'd stop the world,,and ask themwhat they just said,,and explain to them,,how lucky they were not to be in that place,,or position in life to be..

With every good point or compliment they shared or praised about another,,AGAIN,,I world stop their world,,our life for that moment to ask them why they felt that about them,,or inside?

and pay them tribute for seeing or thinking in their kind ways.
and remind my other kids what they had done or said and why.

If caught in a fib or lie,,we would go deep into THAT not being true and honest,,and that THEY NEEDED ME TO ALWAYS BELIEVE IN THEM AND RESPECT ME NEVER TO LIE TO ME,,AS I HAD FELT THAT FOR THEM,,AND COULD NEVER LIE TO THEM.

I showed them how their own friends had should them their respect for them in what they said or done to be that,,so they COULD feel their self respect inside,,,AND,,much of them learning their own self respect,,came from their respect for me and their mother,,so as to really believe in what we showed them or told them.

I raised them knowing well the term disrespectful,,and THEN would explain that and what or why they did that..as to how THAT SHOWED THEIR LACK OF RESPECT FOR THEIR ACT.

I have seen many Mom's losing their childs respect,,as they (THEIR CHILD) tells THEIR MOM WHAT TO DO at age ten and eleven?
Most time,,because their is no dad figure in their lives to have.

To me,,IF a child SHOWS disrespect,,,THAT HAS TO BE SERIOUSLY DELT WITH AT THAT FIRST TIME,,THEIR AND NOW,,never to do that again...
Its WHEN THATS LET GO AND FORGOTTEN,,that YOU teach your child TO RISRESPECT YOU and their selves,,as to ALLOW THAT TO KEEP HAPPENING?

A child will not show disrespect.

If it is raise from the Gate by firm respect.

Shrouded in love.

Thank you Father for this lesson.

Though I leaned it to late for you to see it.

I guess it can be a little difficult,
My children do not have to respect anyone, without they are shown the person deserves thát respect.

However, regardless of who the person is they must show them respect. They need to listen if someone is speaking, not be disrespectful or rude.
Hold doors open, offer their seat if an adult is there, all the basic things that are called good manners.

However, their respect is theres to give to whoever deserves it.

My kid is only 3, so respect is about considering others' feelings. It is saying hi to other kids at the playground, sharing toys, waiting your turn, and being careful especially around littler kids.

As a parent, I think that modeling respectful behavior starts with my child's father, but also applies to other role models like grandparents and teachers. So, that means speaking positively whenever possible and choosing not to say negative things. We also talk about emotions-mine, my kid's, friends, strangers, whoever or whatever we see. I think that learning empathy is at the heart of respectful behavior-the old Golden Rule.

I also really like the distinction between respect and admiration! I am going to remember and use that one!