need someone who is around and available all the time?

You know I have my "brilliants and amazings" and such people are just not available 24/7.

Because of this, I am the queen of find ways to amuse myself and hold down the fort and be faithful, etc. Almost all science types in my experience, are married to someone eccentric and crazy like me. It's almost like if you have to have someone completely right brained if someone is too left brained, etc. Like when I was married to the engineer, at parties, all of us wives had artsy and different pursuits at all times.

I love the sound of the keyboard, mouse, and intermittent cussing from being raised by a feminist writer and also being married to a programmer.

Even when such people are home, they are not THERE 100%.

I have so many things I like to do. I get annoyed with someone who wants to be involved in EVERYTHING I do.

How do you feel about people who are busy and you are busy and you are not with them constantly either physically or mentally?

U need a man . . Urgently !!

I'm pretty much the same way as you tea.

No...the opposite, actually. While I love spending a lot of my time with the person I'm in a relationship with, I also enjoy spending time by my self or going to dinner and movies with my friends. I think a healthy relationship is one where time together is special and appreciated, but each partner understands and encourages outside interests and time spent with friends and family as well.

I suppose I kind of base this view partly off of my social circle..in my group of friends with have three kind of get togethers: 1. Family get togethers such as BBQs or bowling or game nights where everyone, including children, come along for the fun. 2. Grown up only nights where, well, only the grown ups get together for fun. Couples, singletons, random dates, doesn't matter..but it's only for grown ups and drinking is usually involved. lol 3. No Spouse nights, where either the girls get together and do girly things like plays and chick flicks and dinner and the men get together and..well, do whatever guys do. Burp, scratch and talk about thongs, I guess.

Me, no I can't stand someone around me 24/7. I would get irritated. I like my alone/quiet time and need my space.

Me too. I grew up an only child and I got used to a lot of alone time. I still need that sometimes.

I think there are those who can
entertain themselves.
And those who cannot.
And the cannots rely on the cans.
Probably starts in early childhood.
And curiosity, stimulation, and need
must play some part.

I think we live in our heads anyway.
So, if I were bugged by that,
I would go there.

Me, I was one of 6 kids so had no alone time. Joined the military and were stuck with people on ship 24/7 so had no alone time. So, this is a treat having some time alone. Gives me time to collect my thoughts and sometimes I even veg out.

I despise annoyingly busy people. You know the people with a bucket full of excuses when its obvious they know their a$$ from their elbow. People just have zero time and yet they fill it usually with stupid things more than actual work. Bullocks. Most of time they're boring anyway.

I do not want to be with someone with EVERY SINGLE EXPERIENCE EXACTLY THE SAME. What would you talk about? What would you learn?

I love my time alone, I never get bored or lonely.

I could stand the company of a gentleman now and again though....

While a valid point still Im in the middle in this answer. I wouldn't want smothering but to be and feel lonely some nights Id trade it for the other.

People need to do their own thing.

Me too.



I also agree with this...having to provide a certain amount of 'entertainment value' to those who are can't stand their own company is emotionally draining.

If she cannot appreciate Star Wars, then no dice.

Gee, then you would love my Storm Trooper costume.

Stop teasing me.

Hell I usually have a good time wherever I go. Don't pay me no mind who's around.....

Ok, I am probably needy,
Although i grew up in the bush, I always had my brother or someone else with me.
I have six children and hate being without at least one of them.
i like to have my man on call at all times. I don't have to be with him, but I like to know I can call him if I need too.
I really have very few moments alone, my days are in a busy motel where there are always peole around me, my nights are there as well, with my children's friends, parents and various people dropping in at most hours.
I feel lost when I am alone.
i can sit quietly but don;t really like sitting quietly by myself