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Topic: Spoiled
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 09:23 AM
Maybe one of those guys will speak up and let us know why they want to spoil women. I'm betting they got small pe**es.. ..since a majority, nowhere near all though, of women these days seem to be very materialistic; they they make up in another area by satisfying their one desire over one that they clearly cannot. Just a guess. >.> I will say again NOT ALL WOMEN. Before I get gang tackled.. ..though, that'd be kinda hot. -.- I do think it has to do with a guy wanting to show he has money to spend on her, in hopes of her liking him more. And materialistic women will eat that right up. Though, from the women I know, I wouldn't say the majority of women are materialistic like that. You often speak for others, rather than yourself, I see. And I often give my own opinion .

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Tue 01/31/12 09:27 AM
Maybe one of those guys will speak up and let us know why they want to spoil women. I'm betting they got small pe**es.. ..since a majority, nowhere near all though, of women these days seem to be very materialistic; they they make up in another area by satisfying their one desire over one that they clearly cannot. Just a guess. >.> I will say again NOT ALL WOMEN. Before I get gang tackled.. ..though, that'd be kinda hot. -.- I do think it has to do with a guy wanting to show he has money to spend on her, in hopes of her liking him more. And materialistic women will eat that right up. Though, from the women I know, I wouldn't say the majority of women are materialistic like that. ..yeah, well, most I've met then. :/ I wanna move. D;

FindMe1113 Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 35104	Tue 01/31/12 09:28 AM
IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. theres probably nothing wrong with some1 that wants to give there partner pleasure in life.theres probably nothing wrong with some1selfworth if they wanto pleasure their partner. I never said there was. There is a problem when a man ignores his own needs in an attempt to spoil a women.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Tue 01/31/12 09:35 AM
Maybe one of those guys will speak up and let us know why they want to spoil women. I'm betting they got small pe**es.. ..since a majority, nowhere near all though, of women these days seem to be very materialistic; they they make up in another area by satisfying their one desire over one that they clearly cannot. Just a guess. >.> I will say again NOT ALL WOMEN. Before I get gang tackled.. ..though, that'd be kinda hot. -.- I do think it has to do with a guy wanting to show he has money to spend on her, in hopes of her liking him more. And materialistic women will eat that right up. Though, from the women I know, I wouldn't say the majority of women are materialistic like that. You often speak for others, rather than yourself, I see. And I often give my own opinion . So we both speak for others and give our own opinions (and Sin_and_Sorrow has done the same in this thread), but you only question it when I do it. Hypocritical much?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 09:49 AM
So we both speak for others and give our own opinions (and Sin_and_Sorrow has done the same in this thread), but you only question it when I do it. Hypocritical much? I'm not going to argue about it and this will be my last comment on it. It was just an observation. Sorry that it offended you.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Tue 01/31/12 09:50 AM
I see an awful lot of mens' profiles saying they want to spoil their women. Are you the type of woman who likes to be spoiled? If yes, what are you looking for men to do? Are you the type of man who likes to spoil women? If yes, what does it do for you? Oh goodness no. I think that term spoiled is the biggest turn off I have ever seen. I just want to respected as an equal. Save the spoiling for kids.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Tue 01/31/12 09:52 AM
I see an awful lot of mens' profiles saying they want to spoil their women. Are you the type of woman who likes to be spoiled? If yes, what are you looking for men to do? Are you the type of man who likes to spoil women? If yes, what does it do for you? Oh goodness no. I think that term spoiled is the biggest turn off I have ever seen. I just want to respected as an equal. Save the spoiling for kids.

InvictusV Joined Sun 11/23/08 Posts: 5282	Tue 01/31/12 09:53 AM
I see an awful lot of mens' profiles saying they want to spoil their women. Are you the type of woman who likes to be spoiled? If yes, what are you looking for men to do? Are you the type of man who likes to spoil women? If yes, what does it do for you? So should I replace the line about lopping off heads and displaying them on a pike with I want to spoil my woman?

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Tue 01/31/12 09:56 AM
Maybe one of those guys will speak up and let us know why they want to spoil women. I'm betting they got small pe**es.. ..since a majority, nowhere near all though, of women these days seem to be very materialistic; they they make up in another area by satisfying their one desire over one that they clearly cannot. Just a guess. >.> I will say again NOT ALL WOMEN. Before I get gang tackled.. ..though, that'd be kinda hot. -.- I do think it has to do with a guy wanting to show he has money to spend on her, in hopes of her liking him more. And materialistic women will eat that right up. Though, from the women I know, I wouldn't say the majority of women are materialistic like that. You often speak for others, rather than yourself, I see. And I often give my own opinion . So we both speak for others and give our own opinions (and Sin_and_Sorrow has done the same in this thread), but you only question it when I do it. Hypocritical much? ..Um, I did both.. Gave my opinion to others, but stated my own first. Just saying..

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Tue 01/31/12 09:57 AM
I'm not going to argue about it and this will be my last comment on it. It was just an observation. Sorry that it offended you. Singling one person out for behavior that is common isn't an "observation" it's persecution.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 10:21 AM
I see an awful lot of mens' profiles saying they want to spoil their women. Are you the type of woman who likes to be spoiled? If yes, what are you looking for men to do? Are you the type of man who likes to spoil women? If yes, what does it do for you? So should I replace the line about lopping off heads and displaying them on a pike with I want to spoil my woman? Try it and report back.

InvictusV Joined Sun 11/23/08 Posts: 5282	Tue 01/31/12 10:25 AM
I see an awful lot of mens' profiles saying they want to spoil their women. Are you the type of woman who likes to be spoiled? If yes, what are you looking for men to do? Are you the type of man who likes to spoil women? If yes, what does it do for you? So should I replace the line about lopping off heads and displaying them on a pike with I want to spoil my woman? Try it and report back. I'll leave it and add... "willing to share plundered goods with woman that appreciates blood soaked jewelry"..

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 10:26 AM
I'm sure that will attract the ladies.

Bravalady Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 1034	Tue 01/31/12 10:40 AM
I don't even understand what they mean by it when they say it. If they mean spending a lot of money, that makes me uncomfortable as it's not my lifestyle. And you can't tell me that there isn't an implicit tit-for-tat of SOME kind expected in that. I hate being backed into any of those corners. "Spoiled" means rotten, therefore no good, therefore not something to do. I don't believe in spoiling children, either. "Spoiling" is unearned; I guess that's what turns me off about it. I see it as making the donor resentful and the recipient greedy and selfish. Treat everybody with kindness, affection, and respect, that's what I want and that's ALL I want. Spontaneous generosity (of any sort) given just because you love someone is a beautiful thing, but I don't call that spoiling.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Tue 01/31/12 10:42 AM
In terms of material than no. Its honestly the good old standard of its the thought that counts for me. I personally like it when a guy makes me something. It shows character and takes money outta the equation. Buying things is always a temporary setback. Has zero to do with happiness.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Tue 01/31/12 11:02 AM Edited by 42BlackBBW on Tue 01/31/12 11:03 AM
IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. Absolutely agree with this . I had a male friend that felt that he had the treat 'his woman' like a queen to compensate for his perceived shortcomings..he was a great guy that had bad relationships because he insisted on spoiling the women in his life. If I dared to point out that maybe his relationships were failing because he was spoiling these women, I got the 'you don't understand..I was the guy that women ignored' etc

InvictusV Joined Sun 11/23/08 Posts: 5282	Tue 01/31/12 11:18 AM
I'm sure that will attract the ladies. I hope so..

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Tue 01/31/12 11:24 AM
IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. Absolutely agree with this . I had a male friend that felt that he had the treat 'his woman' like a queen to compensate for his perceived shortcomings..he was a great guy that had bad relationships because he insisted on spoiling the women in his life. If I dared to point out that maybe his relationships were failing because he was spoiling these women, I got the 'you don't understand..I was the guy that women ignored' etc That's really sad to hear. He probably is a great guy with tons to offer but he needs to know this and quit listening to past bishes who continue to controll how he conducts his life.

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Tue 01/31/12 11:28 AM
If you don't keep women in the fridge, they spoil.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Tue 01/31/12 11:29 AM Edited by Spidercmb on Tue 01/31/12 11:32 AM
IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. Absolutely agree with this . I had a male friend that felt that he had the treat 'his woman' like a queen to compensate for his perceived shortcomings..he was a great guy that had bad relationships because he insisted on spoiling the women in his life. If I dared to point out that maybe his relationships were failing because he was spoiling these women, I got the 'you don't understand..I was the guy that women ignored' etc Your friend, by any chance was he raised primarily by his mother or grandmother and he has mostly female friends?